There are three ways of mental influence on others.

First, it is a direct suggestion. It uses voice, appearance, look. This includes both voluntary suggestions and involuntary ones.

Involuntary suggestion is the impression that we make on others.

Secondly, these are special thought waves that arise as a result of the efforts of the mind. One person sends them to another consciously, wanting to achieve a certain goal.

Thirdly, this is the so-called personal magnetism, that is, the attracting property of a thought sent by a person.

We have already touched on the question of which people are more susceptible to suggestion. In this chapter, we will continue the discussion on this topic. Our mind has two main functions. The first, active, is characterized by conscious, volitional thinking. In other words, it is willpower, a person's ability to independently make decisions, analyze their actions. The second function, passive, is the absolute opposite of the first.

The passive function is used much more often than the active one, and does not require any effort on the part of the human will.

People who mainly use the passive function of the mind do not create their own thoughts, they do not live by their own mind. These people rarely think, are subject to the herd mentality. Of course, they are much easier to manage: they are not always able to say “no”, they are not used to thinking about their actions. A hypnotist can easily inspire such a person with any thought.

And vice versa, difficulties can arise with people who are used to being responsible for their actions, living and thinking independently, analyzing events, who are not afraid to go against the majority. Such people do not take anything blindly on faith, they are used to checking everything.

But even such people can be hypnotized by choosing the moment when they are very tired or too relaxed.

Of course, it is impossible to divide all people into two categories: active and passive. A common person always combines the features of both types, just one function is more pronounced in him. One of the first tasks of the hypnotist is to lull the person's vigilance. This can be achieved by various methods of mental influence. You can develop the powers of your own subconscious and thoughts through the exercises that will be given below. Also an important component of success is faith in yourself and your strengths. Each person can learn to influence other people. Sometimes it just lacks self-confidence. It should be worked out. This will help to solve many internal problems.

How to hypnotize a person and resist hypnosis

Now let's move on to practice. Hypnosis is carried out not with the help of some supernatural powers, which only magicians can master, but quite real ways available to everyone.

One of these methods is the technique of conversation. It is necessary to conduct a conversation in such a way as to interest a person, find common topics. When you manage to find a topic that is close to the interlocutor, you need to show the art of an intelligent and attentive listener. Bringing a person to a frank conversation is perhaps the most important thing in the art of conversation.

By drawing the right conclusions, it is easy to find a way by which you can influence the mind of another person.

The best intonation is similar to the intonation of your interlocutor. Don't try to outshout him if he speaks too loudly. On the contrary, it is better to lower your voice, and then your interlocutor will also begin to speak more quietly. With the help of voice, you can bewitch a person, make him listen and, as a result, inspire anything. The main thing is to be able to use this tool.

Also great importance in hypnosis has a look. Everyone knows about the existence of the concept of "magnetic gaze", with which you can hypnotize a person.

The power of influence of human eyes is great: after all, they are called the mirror of the soul, the power of thought of their owner is reflected in the eyes.

A look can be charming, but it can also be repelled. The human eye can even influence animals. The magnetic gaze directly transmits strong mental vibrations to the brain of another person, which are capable of producing an effect close to hypnotic.

When talking to another person, look him straight in the eyes. However, you should not glare at the interlocutor with your eyes, as if in order to drill a hole in it. The look should express a strong will, firmness and concentration. Try to keep the attention of the interlocutor all the time. Only by holding his gaze can an effective suggestion be made.

When a person is under the pressure of a magnetic gaze, it is difficult for him to think and reason - he is easier to suggest.

During hypnosis, a dishonorable person can not only rob you, but also inspire some kind of action, lure you into a sect, etc.

Remember that in no case should you succumb to suggestion from an unfamiliar person.

If you find that someone is looking at you to hypnotize you, tell yourself that you will not be influenced. Mentally create a barrier that will prevent the hypnotist from putting you into a trance state. Try to avoid eye-catching, do not look into the interlocutor's eyes in any case. It is best not to talk to dubious personalities at all, so avoid meeting people on the street, in public transport.

Magnetic Gaze Technique

Let us turn to the technique of magnetic gaze.

The magnetic gaze is not an inborn gift. He can be learned. There are several specific exercises to help you do this. If you train constantly and hard, you will soon notice that under the influence of your gaze, people become somewhat confused, unsure of themselves.

Almost everyone can learn the technique of magnetic gaze. It is enough just to have desire to influence people.

Having mastered the technique of the magnetic gaze, use it only when necessary, since the impact on the human psyche never goes unnoticed for anyone. In the moment hypnotic influence you take responsibility for a person who is subject to your will.

However, while you are only training, you can test the strength of your gaze on others.

Exercise 1

The exercises described below may seem a little boring to you, but they will bring real results if you practice them systematically and seriously.

For the first exercise, you will need a sheet of paper. Draw a small circle on it, about 1 cm in diameter, and paint over it with black. Hang the sheet on the wall at the height of your eyes in a sitting position. Then sit on a chair at a distance of 1 m from the sheet and stare at the circle. It is necessary to look without blinking for 1 minute. After that, rest a little, and then repeat the exercise. In total, you need to complete five approaches.

Then move the sheet to the right a small distance (about 80 cm) from its original position. Sit in your seat and look at the wall opposite you without looking at the paper. Then, without turning your head, look at the spot and look without blinking for 1 minute.

Repeat this exercise 4 more times.

Move the paper the same distance to the left of the original position, look at the paper for 1 minute. The number of repetitions of the exercise is 5 times.

This whole complex must be performed for 3 days, and then the time of looking at the circle should be increased to 2 minutes. Again, do the exercise for 3 days, and then increase the time to 3 minutes. Continue to do the exercise daily, increasing the time by 1 minute every 3 days.

This exercise, despite its apparent simplicity, is very important on the way to the magnetic gaze technique, as it teaches you to look into the eyes of another with confidence and persuasiveness.

You can look into the eyes of another person for 30 minutes. But even 15 minutes is enough to make any suggestion you need.

Exercise 2

The second exercise is similar to the first, but complements it and makes it more effective.

Stand in front of the mirror and look into your eyes just as intently as before in a circle. Increase the time gradually, as in the first exercise. Through this training, you will learn to endure the gaze of other people and give expressiveness to the eyes.

Your eyes will be able to acquire the expression you need at one time or another.

The second exercise must be combined with the first. This will help you achieve optimal results.

Exercise 3

To perform the third exercise, stand in front of the wall at a distance of 90 cm. Place a sheet of paper with a drawn circle at eye level. Then, without taking your eyes off the circle, begin to move your head, rotate it. At the same time, the eyes should look at the circle all the time: this will help develop the eye nerves and muscles.

Exercise should be carried out without tiring the eyes.

Exercise 4

Look at the opposite wall and begin to quickly look from one point of the wall to another in all directions: right, left, up, down, zigzags, etc. As soon as you feel that your eyes are tired, stop doing the exercise. Stop looking at a point, and then complete the exercise.

Exercise 5

This exercise is essential for developing confidence in the look that you have already learned to create. You will need the help of another person to complete this exercise. Sit him in front of you, sit down yourself and start looking intently into his eyes. He must do the same. After a while, you will put him into a hypnotic state.

Test the power of your gaze on pets. You will see that they also cannot stand your gaze and try to turn away.

At first, due to exercise, the eyes will get tired and watery. wash your face cold water This will bring immediate relief. However, after a few days of training, you will no longer experience pain, as your eyes get used to such stress.

The power of thought

A person's ability to suggest is directly dependent on his willpower.

The greats of this world had the ability to control people. They could conquer the people with the power of their mind. Many of them often did not even realize why people worship them, what is the secret of their power.

All great people possessed a certain power that allowed them to influence the mass consciousness, dictate their will, lead.

The power of thought is a conscious manifestation of the will, which causes certain mental vibrations directed at some object. In other words, the hypnotist has developed force suggestion. He sends mental impulses to a person, and he fulfills the requirements that are addressed to his subconscious. Thought vibrations can be sent during a conversation, that is, to short distance or for a long one.

The transmission of mental vibrations over a long distance is telepathy, which will be discussed in the next chapter.

A person endowed with inner strength is aware of himself as a person, he knows perfectly well all his capabilities and abilities. Remember: our body is only an external, physical shell, and our true essence is hidden inside. Using your inner strength correctly, you can win over any person and make him obey your will and do what you need. If this person does not have sufficient strength of resistance, you can easily subjugate him.

In order to influence the consciousness of the interlocutor, one should send him a powerful mental demand with the help of consciousness, and do this with a firm belief that it will be fulfilled. If you begin to doubt the possibility of fulfilling your desire, then nothing will be achieved. And naturally, you need to develop your abilities: mastery is achieved through great hard work and constant training. In order to transfer your will to another person, you also need the ability to concentrate. Below are exercises to help you learn concentration.

Some people, having only willpower and not being able to resist another mind, become a tool in the hands of other people.

Exercise 1

The first exercise must be performed while walking. Choose any person walking ahead of you at a short distance - about nine meters - and start looking at the back of his head without looking up. Your gaze should be firm, fixed and stubborn. Do not look away and mentally wish that the person turned around. Through a short time he will really turn his head.

Women are affected much more than men.

Exercise 2

This exercise is very similar to the previous one, but you need to train in some public place - at a concert, in a theater, in a store. Focus your gaze on the same area, that is, on the back of the person’s head, and look carefully, mentally giving the order to turn around. Soon the person will begin to worry, nervously look around. Eventually, he will turn towards you. The exercise is more successfully carried out on your acquaintances - they will turn to you faster than strangers.

You may not succeed the first time. But after hard training, results will appear.

Exercise 3

On the street, select the person standing on the opposite side of the road. It is better that he does not stand directly in front of you, but a little to the right or left. Don't look directly at it, but keep it in sight. Then send a suggestion to the person so that he looks at you. After a while, the subject you have chosen will look in your direction. At the same time, his face will be somewhat absent-minded, even stupid.

The look thrown at you will be unconscious, as if he was forced to do it.

Exercise 4

This exercise will be especially helpful for people who are about to take oral exams, interviews, or activities that require the ability to make a good impression on others using speech.

Many successful business people are masters of the science of persuasion.

When you are talking to a person and you see that he cannot find the right word, direct your magnetic gaze to him and suggest the right word. And the person will suddenly remember it. An important requirement in this case: your word must be suitable, otherwise the person will find another one that is more appropriate for the purpose of the statement. Especially the ability to inspire words helps in oral exams.

Students with sufficient mental power inspired the examiner with those questions, the answers to which they already knew. Of course, such a gift will not save on written checks.

Exercise 5

In this exercise, you need to get a person to change direction. This is convenient to do when walking down the same street with another person.

Go behind the selected subject and do not take your eyes off him. When this person encounters an obstacle in his path (for example, a pillar), you can inspire him to go around it on the right or left; you can wish it to turn right or left or stop.

Exercise 6

Stand at the window and look at passers-by. Choose any person and wish that he looked at you. When you have enough experience, seven out of nine people obey your call.

All these exercises will help you learn to inspire your thoughts to other people, to dictate your will to them. Just remember that you can not use this skill aimlessly, for the sake of entertainment. The power of our subconscious is enormous, and it must be treated with respect and caution.

Persuasive Speech Principles

The main instrument of suggestion is the word, speech. This chapter is dedicated to just that. By mastering the technique of persuasive speech, you will be able to use suggestion most successfully in your life. Persuasive speech is a process in which a person delivers a message designed to reinforce a particular belief in others, change it, or move an audience to action. Let's take a look at specific techniques that are designed to help you achieve your persuasion goals.

The principles of persuasive speech will help you make the most of the power of the word.

Principle 1

You will be more likely to convince people if you can express clearly and clearly what they should believe or do.

Your words will most likely be aimed at shaping or changing people's opinions or at encouraging them to act. You speak out loud your desire for your listeners to do something. Here are two goal statements that express the desire to achieve action:

“I want my listeners to agree to go to a charity concert that I arrange”;

“I want my listeners to approve the project that I present to them.”

Principle 2

You will be more likely to convince listeners if you formulate goals and present information based on the attitudes that your listeners hold.

Attitudes are dominant or persistent feelings, positive or negative, that are associated with some subject, thing or issue.

Thus, the phrase “I think it is important to keep the apartment clean” is an opinion that reflects a person’s positive attitude towards maintaining order in the house.

Attitudes are expressed by people most often in the form of opinions.

In order to successfully carry out the suggestion, it is necessary to find out what attitudes your prospective listeners hold. The more information you can get about the audience and the more experienced you are in the field of its analysis, the more likely it is that the basic attitudes of the listeners will be correctly predicted.

Despite the fact that the opinion of the majority usually prevails, in any audience there will always be a few people who do not share it.

Audience attitudes, expressed as opinions, can be distributed on a continuous scale, from the most positive to the most negative.

In general, the opinions of the audience are usually grouped around a certain point. This focus point is the audience's generalized attitude toward the subject.

The opinions of the audience can be placed on a scale with the following divisions:

- hostile;

- inconsistent;

– medium discordant;

– neutral;

- moderately favorable;

- favorable;

- extremely benevolent.

On the same scale, one can general view Any audience can be assigned to one of three types.

1. An audience that has a positive attitude (listeners already hold this point of view).

2. An audience without a definite opinion (listeners are not informed, neutral or indifferent).

3. An audience with a negative attitude (listeners hold the opposite point of view).

Each of the three types has its own strategy of speech behavior.

1. Positive attitude of the audience. If you think that your audience already supports your opinion, then you should consider revisiting your goal by focusing on a specific program of action. That is, you can revise and increase the number of goals you want to achieve by resorting to verbal suggestion.

By determining which of the three groups your intended audience belongs to, you can develop a strategy for adapting your speech to this setting.

2. Lack of a definite opinion. If you have come to the conclusion that the audience does not have a definite opinion on your topic, you can set yourself the goal of forming their opinion or persuading them to act as you see fit.

If you think that the audience has no opinion because they are not informed, then your main task is to give as much information as is necessary for the audience to understand the essence of the matter before you call them to accept an opinion or do certain things. actions.

If you think that the listeners are neutral about the subject of the conversation, then they are able to objective assessment and acceptance of reasonable arguments. Then your speech should contain the most logical and weighty arguments and back them up with the most accurate and verified information that you can find.

If your assessment of the audience's dominant attitude is correct, you will have a high chance of success with this strategy.

If you think that the audience does not have a definite opinion, because the subject of the upcoming conversation is indifferent to them, all your efforts should be aimed at moving them from a position of indifference. In this case, you need to focus not on specific information, but on motivation. Use less material that supports the logical chain of your evidence and more that speaks directly to the needs of the listeners, touching their feelings.

If you think that the audience is in a position of moderate disagreement with respect to your proposal, you can safely present your arguments to them in the expectation that the weight of these arguments will make them accept your opinion as correct.

3. Negative audience setting. If you have found that the target audience is not likely to support your opinion, the speech strategy will depend on whether their attitude is moderately negative or completely hostile.

When speaking to a negative audience, pay special attention to presenting the material objectively and presenting your case clearly enough that people who disagree with you in part are willing to consider your proposal, and those who completely disagree at least understand your point of view.

If you think your audience is completely hostile to your goal, you might be better off approaching the topic from a distance, or consider changing or transforming your goal a bit. You should not think that you will be able to achieve a complete revolution in relationships or in the behavior of people after the end of one speech.

Once the idea has taken root, you can invite your listeners to go even further in changing attitudes.

If possible, spread out your main goal over several "sessions". If you first come up with a proposal that makes the audience at least partly change their attitude to the subject, you may make your listeners think that your message can have some value.

Principle 3

You will convince your audience faster if your speech contains logical and reasonable arguments and evidence in support of your goal.

In persuading the audience, you can use people's commitment to rationality. We rarely do anything without a real or imagined rational reason. To play on this need of the listeners, the main points of your persuasive speech should be formulated in the form of arguments.

Reasons are statements that explain why a proposal is justified.

In this case, the question arises of how to find good arguments. Reasons are statements that answer the question why we should believe or do something. If you are well acquainted with your subject, then it will not be difficult for you to find arguments for each position of your speech.

Make a list of likely arguments, carefully study them and evaluate them impartially.

When preparing your persuasive speech, you will probably discard many arguments because they do not have enough support.

Then choose from them three or four of the best, most convincing.

There are the following criteria for evaluating the alleged arguments:

1. Arguments must be based on facts. Many arguments may look impressive enough, but cannot be backed up in fact.

2. The arguments must be relevant to your subject. Some statements look like arguments, but do not actually carry any real evidence of what you intend to say.

3. The arguments should affect your potential listeners. Even if the first rule is observed, the argument will not fulfill its persuasive role in an audience that does not consider the criterion you have chosen to be the most important for evaluating the situation.

Although it is impossible to predict with absolute certainty how the audience will react to an argument, you can roughly estimate its impact based on the audience analysis you have done.

It is necessary to pay attention to three more aspects, three points of view from which it is necessary to evaluate the arguments you have chosen.

1. The source from which the information is taken. Just as the opinions of some people are more trustworthy than those of others, so certain printed sources are more reliable.

2. Modernity of information. If your speech uses any ideas or statistics, then it is better that they are close enough to the present moment. What was true 5 years ago may not be true today.

If your evidence comes from an unreliable or biased source, look to other sources for confirmation or exclude that evidence from your speech.

3. The relevance of providing information. You need to make sure that the evidence is a direct justification for your arguments. If it is not, it should not be used in your persuasive speech.

Principle 4

You will convince your listeners more quickly if you base your argument on the audience's intended reaction.

The most commonly used persuasive speech schemes are the following methods:

- presentation method rational arguments;

– method of solving the problem;

- comparative advantage method;

- method of motivation.

Method of presenting rational arguments

The rational reasoning method is a straight-forward scheme in which you present the best supported arguments to your audience in the following order: the strongest argument at the end, the second strongest at the beginning, and the rest in between.

The rational reasoning method will work best if the audience has no particular opinion about the subject, is indifferent to it, or is only slightly leaning in favor or against.

Sample sentence: “I want the audience to fundraise for the needs of the office:

– the collected funds will help improve working conditions through the purchase of new equipment (the second strongest argument);

– the collected funds will partly be used to pay off debts;

“The real costs for each office worker will be very small (the strongest argument).”

Problem Solving Method

You can clarify the essence of the problem and clearly explain why the proposed solution is the best. The structure of speech built according to this method is often organized on the basis of the following provisions:

- there is a problem that requires action;

– this offer help solve the problem;

– this proposal is the best solution to the problem because it provides positive results.

This method is straightforward and therefore best used when the subject matter is not well known or understood by the audience, when the audience simply does not know the problem exists, or when the audience has no or moderate opinion for or against the proposed solution. .

Suggestion example:

“I want the audience to fundraise for the needs of the office:

- lack of money leads to problems in the work of the institution (problem statement);

– the expected income from fundraising will be enough to solve these problems (solution);

– to date, fundraising for the needs of the office – best method problem solving (positive results).

For a speech that follows a problem-solving scheme, the logic connecting the speaker's reasoning and purpose can be expressed as follows: if existing problem is not or cannot be solved by the measures applied, and the proposal is capable of solving the problem in a practical way, then the proposal should be accepted.

Comparative merits method

The method of comparative merits enables the speaker to shift the focus to the benefits of the proposed course of action. Instead of presenting a proposal as a way of solving a complex problem, this method portrays it as something that should be chosen only because of its advantages over what is currently being done.

The approach to the issue of introducing a school tax from the standpoint of comparing merits would look something like this.

This scheme is most effective when listeners agree either that there is a problem that needs to be solved, or that the proposal is better than all the others, even if there are no specific problems at the moment.

Suggestion example:

“I want the audience to fundraise for the office.

– raising funds will allow the office to improve the quality of work (merit 1);

- income from this tax will allow schools to invite the best professionals in our field for consultation (dignity 2);

“This fee will allow the purchase of modern equipment (merit 3).”

For a speech that is structured according to the scheme of comparative merit, the logic of organization relating the arguments and the purpose of the speech can be expressed as follows: if the arguments presented show that the proposal provides a significant improvement over what is done in this moment then the offer must be accepted.

Motivation method

This method combines problem solving and listener motivation.

A motivation scheme usually includes the following five steps:

- to attract attention;

- approval of the need, revealing the nature of the problem;

The method of motivation is carried out according to the problem solving scheme. It also contains the necessary steps in order to enhance the motivational effect of speech.

– satisfaction of a need explaining how your proposal positively solves an existing problem;

- a visual representation showing what the offer will bring personally for each listener;

- a call to action that highlights a specific direction that the audience needs to follow.

The motivational speech scheme in defense of the proposal to hold a cash collection at the enterprise will look like this.

Suggestion example:

“I want the audience to fundraise for the needs of the enterprise:

– comparing the results of our products with the same products made by professionals different countries, makes us pay attention to our system of production (attention);

- lack of money, which is the result of cost-cutting measures, negatively affects our work and the quality of our goods (need, problem statement);

- the proposed fundraising will generate enough revenue to solve this problem, since after that it will be possible to direct more funds to work needs (meeting the need, as the proposal solves the problem);

- this will be your contribution not only to the enterprise, but also to bringing production to the level of world standards that it once corresponded to (visual representation of the meaning of the proposal for everyone personally);

Since the motivation scheme is only a variant of the scheme for solving the problem, the logic of constructing a persuasive speech here is for the most part the same: if the measures taken do not solve the problem, then the proposed proposal, which is really capable of solving it, should be accepted.

Principle 5

You will convince your audience faster if you speak in a way that motivates them.

Motivation is the forces that affect the body from the outside and from the inside, which initiate and direct behavior.

Motivation often comes from the use of stimuli and expressive language. For a stimulus to be of any value, it must mean something.

The significance of a stimulus means that it evokes an emotional response. The effect of a stimulus is strongest when it is part of some meaningful goal.

The Power of Incentives

People are more likely to perceive incentives as meaningful when those incentives indicate a favorable cost-reward ratio.

For example, you inspire listeners with the idea of ​​spending an hour a week of their personal time to take part in charity. The time you spend will most likely be seen as a cost rather than a reward. But you can write this work in such a way that it will be perceived by the audience as an incentive that provides a reward.

So, you can ensure that your listeners, spending time on such an important and necessary thing, feel like people doing their civic duty, socially responsible or noble helpers.

If you make it clear that these rewards or incentives outweigh the costs, your listeners are more likely to want to participate in the proposed program.

Applying incentives that match basic needs

Incentives are most effective when applied to meet basic needs. One of the most popular theories in the field of needs was developed by Abraham Maslow. According to his theory, people show a greater propensity to act when the stimulus offered by the speaker is able to satisfy one of the important unmet needs of the listeners.

What is the meaning of such an analysis for you as a person who wants to inspire a thought or action in an audience?

First, this theory describes the kinds of needs that you can address in your speech.

Secondly, it provides an opportunity to understand why a certain line of development of a topic of conversation can work successfully in one audience and lead to failure with another audience.

For example, in a difficult economic period, people are more interested in satisfying physiological and security needs, and therefore less responsive to appeals to their social feelings and altruism.

Thirdly, if your message conflicts with an existing need, you must prepare in advance a worthy alternative from the same or from a more fundamental category of needs. So, if your proposal will cost people money (raising funds for the needs of the enterprise), you must show that these measures satisfy some other, comparable need (for example, increase their safety).

Principle 6

You will convince listeners faster when they see you as a trustworthy person.

In order for your persuasive speech to be successful, it is important that your listeners trust you.

If you intend to convince with your speech, in addition to being well prepared, it is necessary to emphasize your interest in the well-being of listeners with your appearance and manner of speaking, showing enthusiasm, you must behave ethically.

Telling the truth means more than just avoiding intentional, outright lies. If you're not sure the information is true, don't use it until you've verified it. Ignorance does not always excuse wrongdoing.

The following four rules are at the core of ethical persuasive speaking.

1. Tell the truth. Of all the rules, this is perhaps the most important. People who have agreed to listen to you trust you and expect you to be honest with them. Therefore, if people think you are lying or find out later that you have lied, they will not only reject you, but your ideas as well.

2. Put your information into perspective. Many people get so excited about the content of the information they receive from the speaker that they unnecessarily exaggerate its significance. While a slight exaggeration may well be taken for granted, when it starts to look distorted, many tend to perceive it as a lie.

3. Do not allow personal attacks in your speech on those who do not support your ideas. Insults against the enemy negatively affect the image of the speaker as a trustworthy person.

4. Give sources of any negative information. The roots and origins of ideas are often as important as the ideas themselves, especially if the statement contains accusations or incriminating information. If you intend to discuss some misdeeds of a certain person or organization or subvert an idea based on words or opinions that you have gleaned from somewhere else, indicate the source of your information and arguments.

This tactic does not add strength to the speaker's arguments and is an abuse of the opportunity to speak from the podium.

A person lives in a world where every part wants to influence him. This is not bad if you understand that how a person influences his actions, words and thoughts on the world so the world will influence it with its wishes. There are various techniques of suggestion, some of them are easy, others are hard methods. and at a distance, their techniques will be discussed in the article.

Man is a part of God! This idea appealed to many people, because now this “piece of God” is trying to impose its opinion on everyone, forgetting that people are also “pieces” that can claim the role of God.

Man imagines himself to be God, not a part of him. Although when failures happen, then a person shrinks, trying to pretend to be a “particle”. As long as he is sure that he is right, he fancies himself omnipotent and omniscient. But as soon as his truth does not give the proper result, he immediately admits that he, too, can be wrong.

People forget about this truth when they begin to impose their opinions on each other. Parents want their children to obey them. Partners in love try to force each other to listen only to their opinions. In almost any close relationship, people forget that they can be wrong. A person seeks to insist on his opinion, as if wanting to deprive other people of their personal opinion.

“I said, so it will be so,” a person may not say this out loud. But when he fails to agree on something with others, the reason for this is his position. He does not want to listen to another opinion. He claims to be omniscient. He thinks he's right. He wants to decide the fate of other people. Such approaches to other people lead to the fact that even close ones begin to close and tear themselves away from each other.

Why do people impose their opinion? Because they want to dominate the lives of others. At the same time, one can often observe that these people themselves live unhappily, poorly and without love. So, what can they teach you by imposing their opinion? Nothing. Understanding this, you can calmly relate to any attempts to impose your opinion on you, seeing that a person simply imagines himself to be God, as Small child trying to copy the behavior of his parents.

What is a suggestion?

Suggestion is present in the life of every person. Even in an environment where a person is not in contact with others, suggestion can occur by various mechanisms. What is a suggestion? Usually, it is understood as the influence of one person on another in such a way that he uncritically perceives everything that is said to him, considering this to be the correct opinion.

It seems that you yourself influence your behavior and train of thought. However, psychologists can give many examples of how people influence each other. Almost everyone has various techniques that they constantly use to influence the thoughts and behavior of others. It can be hypnosis, manipulation, suggestion, telepathy.

All people are suggestible, just as all people influence each other in various ways. This happens everywhere: in communication, at work, at the time of education, in relationships. Often people influence each other for selfish purposes. When a person seeks the help of a psychologist on the site psymedcare.com, he is faced with suggestion aimed at self-improvement.

The introduction of thoughts against the will of a person, contrary to his ideas, is called suggestion, and the person who inspires is called a suggestor.

During suggestion, various mechanisms are used: verbal and non-verbal signals. Sometimes people unconsciously use them. And their interlocutors do not even notice how they are affected. Repetition becomes effective here. If you repeat the same information several times, then a person will soon perceive it. From the first time, he may not pay attention to it or not treat it as necessary, so repetitions are necessary.

Factors that help in the process of suggestion, which affects its strength:

• The nature of the suggestion.
• Suggested mood.
• The authority of the one who inspires.
• Compliance suggestible.
• Emotional toughness.
• Categorical message.
• The environment for the suggestion.
• Mental exhaustion and overwork of the suggestible.
• Message surprise.
• Natural disasters, etc.

The power of suggestion is affected by how ready a person is to perceive someone else's information without succumbing to its criticism. Sometimes this is more effective than logical evidence, which is used to convince.

What kind of people are suggestible?

1. With uncritical thinking.
2. Weak.
3. Scary.
4. Innocent.
5. Shy.
6. Prone to dependence on others.
7. Timid.
8. Trusting.

The following individuals become less suggestible:

• Strong-willed.
• Initiative.
• Eccentric.
• Narcissists.
• with business activity.
• Independent from others.
• Energetic.
• Having someone under their control.
• Uncommunicative.
• Arrogant.
• Frank.
• Gloomy.

If the information that comes to a person contradicts his ethical and moral values, logic and provokes internal resistance, then this becomes a barrier that interferes with suggestion.

Suggestion of thoughts

Psychologists note that the greatest suggestion of thoughts occurs between close people. There is a lot of trust in the relationships of relatives, loved ones and friends. People uncritically perceive each other's information, because they believe that close relationships between them are built on openness, honesty and trust. Exactly close person can influence in a way that other people cannot influence.

Every parent has a direct influence on their children. What an adult says to a child, for what he punishes and for what he praises - absolutely any word and action leaves an imprint on the subconscious map of the child. Meeting the expectations of parents is one of the main tasks of the baby in order to learn how to survive and adapt to life among other people and nature in general. Any parental attitudes towards the child, how he is, how to stand, what to do, how to jump, how to communicate with others - everything is imprinted in his subconscious and carries important information about what he will be like when he grows up.

It is very important for adults to hear themselves and understand what they say to their young children. Any word spoken by mom or dad can remain in the memory of the baby for a long time and subsequently affect him. adulthood: how he will treat himself, other people and even his already aged parents.

To correct your words and actions, write down on a piece of paper: how do you see your child in 5, 10 years, as an adult? Based on the notes, adjust your attitudes about the child. If you want to see him smart, but every time you shout at him that he is stupid, just because he got a "2" in math, this crosses out all your true intentions. If you want a smart son, then see him as a smart kid even when he fails.

There are rare cases when parents give complete freedom and the opportunity to their children to choose their own path. This phenomenon is called unconditional love, which means positive attitude parents to the child even when he does not meet all the expectations of his adult mentors. Giving complete freedom to the younger generation, parents free themselves from responsibility for someone else's life, giving the child the opportunity to find his own. life path, following which he will become an independent and responsible person.

Another way to suggest thoughts is hypnosis. It is carried out when a person plunges into a half-asleep or trance state. While awake or asleep, hypnosis will have no effect.

This method allows you to suggest any thoughts to a person who is under hypnosis. Here the fantasy and imagination of the hypnotized are effectively used. However, psychologists note the following fact:

• Suggested thoughts should correspond to the needs of the person.
• If the suggested thoughts are contrary to the needs of a person, then he will develop neuroses, internal conflict, nervous breakdown.

Two factors remain important in the suggestion of thoughts:

1. The one who inspires must himself believe in the correctness of his own information.
2. The one who is being inspired must be ready for suggestion, malleable, trusting.

If a person can not succumb to the influence of one individual, then sometimes he cannot resist the influence of the whole society. The so-called "public opinion" affects many minds of people who may not want to and go against it, but sometimes succumb to pressure and obey the opinion of the majority. This is the most easy way suggestion of thoughts: if the majority believes, then only a few will believe.

Suggestion methods

Suggestion can be both positive and negative. It all depends on what goals the person who is trying to influence others pursues, as well as the methods that he uses in doing so. They are:

• Non-verbal. It is carried out through the intonation of the voice, postures and facial expressions. Divided by:

1. Catalepsy.
2. Levitation.
3. Pause.

• Intentional. It happens when the suggestor has specific goals and objectives, while taking all the actions that will help him in suggestion.
• Unintentional. Occurs when the suggestor has no suggestion intentions, but at the same time performs actions that affect the interlocutor.
• Positive. After the impact, there were changes for the better.
• Negative. After exposure, negative properties, behavior, and traits appeared.
• Impact while awake.
• Impact in a relaxing state.
• Hypnotic.
• Mental. It is carried out in the absence of contact with a person.
• Pressure.
• persuasion.
• indirect suggestions. When the person being influenced still retains the right to choose whether to accept the information or not. There are such types:

1. Sequence - the beliefs that are fixed by the installation are listed in turn.
2. An implication is a prediction of a possible outcome that a person is tuned in to.
3. A double bind is an offer to choose between two similar options.
4. Listing possible options for events, missing the most important, and focusing on one thing.

• Emotional and volitional influence.
• Mechanical - the impact on a person of various sounds, objects, colors, etc.
• Mental.
• Magical - the use of healing magnetism.

The goal of all methods of suggestion is to introduce specific ideas, thoughts and emotions to another person so that he perceives them as his own, after which he begins to act and change behavior in the right direction.

Suggestion at a distance

This topic causes a controversial attitude, since to date it has not yet been proven whether it is possible to inspire at a distance. This implies the introduction of the necessary information to a person without direct contact with him. You may not see or communicate with a person, but at a distance you can transmit the necessary thoughts to him.

Here the main emphasis is on telepathy. If hypnosis already has a scientific basis, then some hope to confirm the presence of telepathy.

It is believed that thoughts are waves of a certain frequency that can be transmitted over any distance. Accordingly, the person on whom the influence occurs must be a “receiver” that captures these frequencies. Here a logical question arises: if the person you want to influence is on the "other wave", then how can you influence him? Scientists still have to think about this.

Undoubtedly, in the life of every person there are examples of "telepathic influence". You, for example, thought about calling a person, and a few hours later he called himself. For example, you wanted to see someone, and a miracle happened: you met a person literally on the same day. What is it - telepathy, suggestion of thoughts or a coincidence? On the this question there is no definitive answer yet. However, such situations gradually accumulate in the experience of people.

Sometimes a person can suddenly think about something that is unusual for him, and then find out that the same thought has occurred to another individual. Sometimes people invent something, and at the same time they find out that at the same time there are people on the other side of the planet who also made the same discovery.

Scientists talk about the presence of a single information field around the planet, where there are all thoughts and ideas that can only or have already been born in people's heads. Being on a certain "wave", a person perceives this or that information from the outside world.

Here is a technique for telepathy - suggestion at a distance:

1. Take a comfortable position for yourself, preferably lying down.
2. Relax. Take a deep breath in and out.
3. Focus on the thought that you want to instill in another person. It should be short, clear and understandable.
4. Focus on the person you wish to impress. Get into his emotional state.
5. Start repeating the desired thought to him repeatedly.
6. Imagine how a person begins to do what you inspired him.

Outcome

The topic of suggestion is in demand, as many people would like to have skills that could help them influence others. How good it would be if a person could influence the emotions, thoughts and behavior of any interlocutor. Everyone thinks so! Everyone wants this! The result of such a state of affairs would be chaos, where people are guided solely by their own desires, regardless of the opinions of others.

All people are susceptible to suggestion, just as absolutely everyone has techniques of influence. It’s just that the circumstances are always different, because of which a person achieves certain results. In one situation his methods work, in another they don't. This is quite normal in the real world.

People influence each other. Everyone has a modicum of trust, uncritical thinking and innocence. Much depends on the relationships in which people are. To authoritative persons and people who are very liked, unconditional trust arises: what they say will be true, whatever it may be. In a completely different way, people behave with those whom they do not know well or with whom they are in a conflict relationship. Here the level of criticality increases, so enemies or strangers can very minimally affect each other.

Call me for God's sake.

- the heroine of Irina Muravyova once sang in the film "Carnival", trying by the power of thought to "command" the person who once loved her to open her heart again to meet her. Unfortunately (or maybe, on the contrary, fortunately), it is impossible to impose love. Lawless Heart. But to inspire a person with the idea that you are pleasant to him, that it is comfortable and interesting with you - this is quite a feasible task, which knowledge of psychology, in particular, hypnosis techniques used by NLP and other practitioners, will help to realize.

How to suggest something to a person? Let's try to trace the chain of necessary actions using specific examples and exercises.

What is suggestion

Psychologists claim that almost all human actions are dictated by suggestion. In childhood, a person is guided by parents, putting certain principles, goals, rules of behavior into the subconscious.

As they grow older, self-hypnosis comes to the fore: a person is already able to independently motivate himself. However, the role of the immediate environment still remains significant.

Science has proven that it is possible to inspire an individual with something only when the criticality of thinking is reduced. It is easier to get the interlocutor to agree with your position if he:

• frightened, depressed;
• tired;
• not able to think logically at the moment;
• feels insecure.

In psychology, there is a special term - suggestion. It is understood as the impact on the consciousness of a person, aimed at changing the nature of his thoughts and actions in the way that the suggestor wants, that is, the one who inspires.

In order to solve this problem, various methods are used, some of which are verbal (words, speech), some are non-verbal (facial expressions, gestures, intonation). How to inspire a person with the idea you need? Let's be clear: this is not always possible. There are people who are easily influenced from the outside, and there are those who are not easy to inspire something. Usually these include leaders who themselves have the ability and desire to subjugate others to their will.

Types of suggestion

Thinking about how to inspire something significant to you, for example, your boss - the desire to raise your salary, your loved one - the idea that it’s time to propose to you, parents - acceptance of the fact that you have already grown up and do not need their constant guardianship? Then it is worth understanding the varieties of suggestion, in order to then work on analyzing the personality of the suggested person and choose the method of suggestion that will be optimal.

According to the methods of implementation, the suggestion is divided into direct and indirect. The first method consists in direct transmission to the suggestible of words and thoughts that should influence his behavior. The second method is the transfer of hidden, "veiled" information.

Suggestion can be done in different ways. There is, for example, a technique of hypnosis, when a person is put into a trance and during his stay in such a clouded state, the subconscious is affected. You can hypnotize a person with or without his consent. True, not all people succumb to hypnosis, but only those who have pliability, suggestibility.

Not every person is able to master the techniques of hypnosis to perfection. Requires a special talent. Of course, one can successfully hypnotize using various drugs, but these are very dangerous experiments that can lead to terrible consequences, up to the destruction of the personality.

In a dream and in the so-called sleepy state, a person is easier to suggest, since he is relaxed, protective barriers are removed. That is why it is often advised to study foreign languages, memorizing new words before going to bed, when the logic is already turned off, but fantasy is actively working. Thought images are easily imprinted, in the morning such a student calmly recalls everything he read the day before.

This method is also used by some massage therapists when teaching new techniques to their students. They practice classes in the evenings, when the state of fatigue comes, the consciousness is in a “sleep”, but new methods are quickly assimilated, since the student’s hands automatically repeat the movements after the teacher’s hands.

Who can be inspired, and who cannot

Strictly speaking, with great talent and skill as a suggestor, almost any person becomes a suggestion, that is, an object of suggestion, but everyone is subject to suggestibility in varying degrees. The easiest way to work with a person:

• having low self-esteem, experiencing fear of the assessment of others;
• inclined by nature to occupy a subordinate position, led;
• possessing high emotionality, lability of the nervous system;
• gullible;
• dependent;
• not having a strict logical mind.

To understand what kind of person is in front of you, you need to conduct a series of psychological tests. Sometimes such a person can be seen even without testing for specific behavior. He sits on the edge of his chair, is in no hurry to express his opinion, is nervous when communicating, and tends to take a conciliatory position. Most often it is a melancholic - a person with a weak nervous system and pessimistic outlook on life.

Potential leaders, strong personalities, among which choleric and sanguine people predominate, are rarely suggestible. They are characterized by self-confidence and the ability to defend their position. However, under certain conditions, they can also work.

Suggestion techniques

Hypnosis is difficult to perform, requires a long special training. If you were born without this gift, it takes a long time to master it. But other methods of suggestion are easy to learn and try to apply.

You can use the following methods of influence:

• presuppositions;
• denials in the team;
• truisms and succession of acceptance.

To make a presupposition means to build a phrase in such a way that there is no doubt in it that the suggested person will perform the action necessary for the suggestor, freedom of choice lies only in which way he will perform it. All parents of young children are familiar with this technique. When a mother wants the baby to eat her unloved semolina porridge, she asks: “Will you eat porridge with or without raisins”? Thus, she inspires the child that he will eat porridge in any case, he is only invited to choose which option is better.

The denials in the team are based on the fact that our unconscious hardly perceives the “not” particle, it removes it, prefers “not to hear”. Saying to a subordinate at work: “Until you submit this report, you will not go home,” the boss inspires that the report must be submitted, no matter what happens.

Truisms are statements that fully correspond to reality: “It is raining”, “On Friday after work we traditionally drink wine”, “Women love with their ears, and men with their eyes”. After such a statement, another, perhaps dubious, may follow, but the brain, already tuned to accept the first, is likely to “absorb” the second without interference - automatically: “Women love with their ears, and men with their eyes, but still, dear , I will walk around the house in a terrible dressing gown and you will not stop liking me.

How to make a person love

Well, here we come to the most interesting. How to convince a person that he loves you? Is it possible? Let's make a reservation right away: it is almost impossible to inspire ardent love if there is no reciprocal impulse. If there is such a desire, visit some fortune-teller who, from a photograph, will conjure over the aura of your “object” and, throwing magical herbs into a pot of boiling water, will bewitch him. At the same time, by the way, she will not forget to suggest to you that you must part with a certain amount, and you will submit to this suggestion imperceptibly for yourself.

If you want to please a person, make a good impression on him, then this is quite real. To do this, you need to observe who your attention is directed to, who you think about with undying interest. What is his character? What kind of people does he like? What ideas does he express? Does he listen to the opinions of others or decides everything himself?

Your task is to study the character of a person and his preferences as fully as possible. Try to be mentally closer to him: think about him at a distance, send him mental messages of positive energy. The power of thought can influence another if he is already interested in you. This requires a sense of sympathy and openness on your part. The object of suggestion should feel a wave of good energy, positive energy that emanate from you towards him. When you meet him, smile nonchalantly. Let your eyes shine, don't hide or avert them. Share your good mood, demonstrate that the person is pleasant to you.

When talking, try to slightly step over the line separating his personal boundaries: come closer, touch your shoulder a little. When talking, tilt the body towards the counterpart, turn your knees and feet towards him. This is imprinted by the subconscious as a manifestation of sincere interest. Try the mirroring technique: during a conversation, unobtrusively repeat the gestures of the interlocutor, only so that it looks natural and imperceptible.

How to use your potential for success in life? Suggestion of thoughts to another - are you able to do it? With this technique, you can master a super skill!

Everyone has superpowers!

Every person on earth has psychic abilities¹ that are dormant in him. Figuratively speaking, in many situations people reach their goal, working day and night like a miner, tearing through the ground where you can simply and easily fly to the right place.

It is the same in society: a person has the ability to do everything amazingly efficiently, achieve high results, build grandiose projects, but instead he is forced to waste time on completely unnecessary resistance.

Especially it concerns interpersonal relationships when one person stops the whole thing because of a bad mood or laziness!

This article provides effective technique, using which you can inspire thoughts in people so that they can act in the way you need. In this case, the person will consider that the inspired thought is his own.

This will allow you to achieve incredible success in all areas: how personal life as well as during working hours.

Attention!

Before describing this technique, I must say that it really affects people!

A person who has assumed the right to act in this way, along with power, receives additional responsibility! Higher powers will carefully monitor how and for what you will use this ability.

Remember one thing: the law of karma² is inevitable, all thoughts and suggestions will return back to the addressee. It is strongly recommended to use this technique for the benefit of yourself and others!

Suggestion to another person: technique of influence!

Before practice, it is advisable to spend a short time in hot water or take a contrast shower.

1. The practitioner lies on the floor: you can lay a special rug and make sure there are no drafts; pillow is not required.

3. Gradually, this will immerse the person in. Feeling a light trance, he focuses on his breathing, the feeling of inhalation and exhalation.

4. After some time, the practitioner will be in a deep trance. The sensation of the body may disappear - this is completely normal. Without distraction, he imagines that he is in a vacuum.

5. Having caught this moment, a person begins to breathe deeply, imagining how, during inhalation, the vacuum energy enters him; it flows through all the pores in the body. During exhalation, he imagines how all the negativity leaves these pores, dissolving in a vacuum.

The practitioner continues to breathe like this until he feels overwhelmed by a sense of strength. It usually occurs 10 minutes after such breathing.

6. He stops abruptly, plunging into inner sensations. In this state, the practitioner chooses his target: the person to whom the suggestion is to be carried out.

7. Having clearly imagined the face of a person, the practitioner looks into his eyes and mentally pronounces the text of the suggestion loudly. After that, you need to imagine how this person begins to answer with his voice.

For example:

- Olya, you love me very much and every day you understand it more and more!

Yes, I love you and every day I understand it more and more!

8. The practitioner continues this suggestion until he has a firm conviction that the job is well done and that the target person wants to do it as intended.

By influencing an object in your imagination, you influence it in reality: this is the law, and it must be remembered!

9. Having finished the work, the practitioner thanks the higher powers and the person to whom he made the suggestion gradually comes out of the trance into his usual state.

The best time to practice is at night (when the subject is sleeping). For a successful suggestion of a thought or feeling, perform this procedure regularly 1-2 times a day at the same time. You need to work patiently until the result appears.

Now you have a powerful tool of influence in your hands! You have the opportunity to realize your dreams and unfulfilled plans in love, affairs, business, etc.

You only need to remember your responsibility: you always have a Mirror in front of you! As soon as you take responsibility, the Universe itself will come to meet you!

The author of this technique, describing his experience, used this technique to instill a feeling of love in a girl who had another young man. Believing infinitely in the power of the subconscious, he achieved the result in 2 weeks. After 3-4 weeks, this girl confessed her love to him!

Anton Andreev

Notes and feature articles for a deeper understanding of the material

¹ Extrasensory perception is a term used for many supposedly existing paranormal forms of perception or human abilities (