Each person has his own main goal in life, to which he aspires. Or even multiple targets. Throughout life, they can change: losing their importance, some are removed, and in their place others, more relevant, appear. How many of these goals should there be?
Successful people They argue that 50 human life goals is not the maximum at all. The longer the list of your goals, the better you will be able to understand your true desires.
For example, at the age of fifteen, John Goddard set himself not even 50 vital, main goals that he sought to achieve, but 127! For the uninitiated, reference: we are talking about a researcher, an anthropologist, a traveler, a holder of scientific degrees, a Member of the Society of French Explorers, the Royal Geographical Society and the Archaeological Society, and a multiple Guinness World Record holder. On his 50th birthday, John noted that he achieved 100 of the 127 goals he set. One can only envy his rich life.
A happy person is called accomplished, successful. No one will call a loser happy - success is a component of happiness. To consider life successful, a person must achieve the 50 most important life goals by old age. Summing up the results of his life, a person compares what he dreamed of with what he achieved. But it happens that over the years it is difficult to remember many of your desires-goals, so it is difficult to make comparisons. That is why it is so important to write down the 50 most important goals in life on a piece of paper, periodically re-read the list. Another important aspect is to try to write down SMART goals. This means that your goals must meet five important criteria: specific, measurable, relevant, achievable, time-bound.
Before making a list, you should understand what is a priority, vital for a person. Air, drink, food, sleep - the 4 most important needs organic life. The second row is health, housing, clothing, sex, rest - necessary attributes of life, but secondary. It is impossible for a person to live without satisfaction of primary needs, and without satisfaction of secondary needs it is difficult. Therefore, if at least one link in this chain is destroyed, a person suffers physically - firstly, morally - secondly. He is unhappy. But even if all the vital needs of the individual are satisfied, his life cannot be called happy. Here is such a paradox. Therefore, the 50 vital, priority goals of a person must necessarily include items, thanks to the implementation of which the primary and secondary needs of a person would be satisfied.
Listing such goals as “buy your own house” or “relax on the sea”, “do the necessary medical operation” or “cure and insert teeth”, “buy a fur coat” and “buy a car” may not be so important for complete happiness ( why - will be discussed below), but achieving them makes living on earth more comfortable for people. To meet these needs, to achieve the goals listed above, an individual needs money. And, selecting the 50 most important goals of a person, it is imperative to include an item on the list regarding the financial condition of the individual. Examples of such goals:
find a high-paying job;
open your business;
to achieve that the business brings a net income of more than $ 10,000 per month, and the like.
Sample list of 50 goals
Spiritual self-improvement:
1. Read the collected works of J. London.
2. Finish English language courses.
3. Forgive insults to parents, friends.
4. Stop being jealous.
5. Increase personal efficiency by 1.5 times.
6. Get rid of laziness and procrastination.
7. Write at least 1000 characters daily for your unfinished novel (personal blog).
8. Make peace with your sister (husband, mother, father).
9. Start writing The Diary everyday.
10. Attend church at least once a month.
Physical self-improvement:
1. Go to the gym 3 times a week.
2. Go to the sauna and pool weekly.
3. Do a set of exercises every morning;
4. Walk every evening for at least half an hour at a brisk pace.
5. Refuse completely from the list of harmful products.
6. Once a quarter, arrange a three-day cleansing hunger strike.
7. After three months, learn to sit on the twine.
8. In winter, go skiing in the forest with your grandson (son, daughter, nephew).
9. Lose 4 kilos.
10. Douse yourself with cold water in the morning.
Financial Goals:
1. Increase your monthly income to 100,000 rubles.
2. Raise the TIC of your site (blog) by the end of this year to 30.
3. Go to the level of passive income.
4. Learn to play the stock market.
5. Learn to make custom websites on your own.
6. Early repay the loan at the bank.
7. Entrust all housework to be done by machines in order to save time for earning money.
8. Save on meaningless and harmful things: cigarettes, alcohol, sweets, chips, crackers.
9. Buy products in wholesale stores, except for perishable ones.
10. Buy a cottage for growing fresh organic products.
Comfort and pleasure:
1. Buy a four-room apartment with all amenities.
2. Buy a Mazda RX-8 car.
3. Visit Italy and Spain.
4. Take a course of massage.
5. Go on vacation at least 2 times a year.
6. Buy a fur coat to the very heels of ermine.
7. Ride a live Indian elephant.
8. Jump with a parachute.
9. Go to a live concert of your favorite artist.
10. Meet friends at least once a week.
Charity:
1. Monthly deduct 10% of profits to the orphanage for gifts to children.
2. Arrange for orphans a New Year's performance with gifts by the local theater - to finance.
3. Do not pass by those who ask for alms - be sure to give alms.
4. Help a shelter for homeless animals - deduct money for food for dogs.
5. By the New Year, make a small present for all the kids in the stairwell.
6. On the day of the elderly, give all pensioners a set of products.
7. Large family buy a computer.
8. Give unnecessary things to those in need.
9. Build a playground in the yard.
10. Help the financially talented girl Tanya to go to the competition in Moscow "Light your star."
Demand as the main component of happiness
In addition, for the full happiness of the individual, something else is necessary. And that "something" is called recognition. Only being in demand, a person feels his significance, feels pleasure, happiness. Each person has their own criteria for recognition. For some, a simple “thank you” for the prepared dinner is enough. Others feel a sense of complete happiness from the manifestations of tenderness of a sexual partner - this is a recognition, a highlight of the individual among all others.
For some, it is enough to bring sterile cleanliness in the house and hear words of admiration from neighbors, others need to see delight in the eyes of those they meet at the sight of their appearance, figure, outfits, hairstyles. For the third, it is important to recognize them as excellent parents. For the fourth, recognition at a wider level is necessary. These fourths do not limit the circle of people they want to be recognized by, relatives, loved ones, neighbors, fellow travelers, passers-by.
These are scientists, discoverers, big businessmen, people of creative and a number of other professions. The most successful are people who receive recognition both from their loved ones, friends, children, neighbors, and from colleagues, fans, viewers, readers - a wider range of people. It is important to add the appropriate items to the list of "50 goals in my life." Examples of such goals might be:
find your soul mate to create a family, which (who) will be such and such, for whom I will have respect, love (passion), feelings should be reciprocal;
help your son finish school successfully;
give children higher education;
defend a thesis;
release your own collection of stories (a CD of songs) or organize an exhibition of paintings.
The plot of "Life Goals":
intermediate goals
To achieve global goals, actions are needed to help move forward. Therefore, it is necessary to write intermediate goals related to advanced training, education, and the acquisition of skills. And in the list of "50 human life goals" examples of such can be:
read the collected works of Dostoevsky;
reading manuals for a businessman, authored by John Rockefeller (for example, "12 golden rules" of success);
study of life stories and paths to success of major figures of science and culture;
studying of foreign language;
obtaining a second education.
This list can be continued at your own discretion, based on the main goals.
Goals-motivators
In order to achieve the main goals, incentives are needed that occupy the position of intermediate goals. They are included in the list, designating; "50 Intermediate Human Life Goals". These goals include:
go to trip around the world;
buy a new laptop;
make repairs in the apartment;
Refresh your wardrobe for the new season.
Some may write the items "do a facelift" or "do a tummy tuck". After all, for many, improving their appearance is a hidden desire, which they are sometimes ashamed of. But when compiling a list of motivating goals, you must definitely write those that will give a person pleasure in life. These goals do not have important vital needs, but without joy and pleasure a person withers, he is bored with life, the meaning of achieving the main goals is lost.
Charity is the most important human goal
Studying the path to success of John the Rockefellers, one sees: he is a philanthropist. Donating a tenth of the profits to charity is the main rule of his life. According to psychologists, helping people is useful and extremely pleasant. Therefore, in the "50 vital goals", making a list, you should include items related to this side of life. By doing charity, one enjoys receiving recognition.
Even doing good incognito, he is satisfied by observing the fruits of his good deeds. Performing charitable acts should be included in the list of vital goals. "50 charitable goals in life" in the general list may have the items "build a shelter for abandoned animals", "open Kindergarten for children with disabilities”, “regularly provide financial assistance home for orphans” and others. (c)
Everyone successful man sets goals. In this article I will tell and show on my personal example, why you need to set 100 goals in life, how to set them and by what principle to divide into categories. Find out all this right now.
Why do you need to set goals?
From a philosophical point of view, human life is meaningless and aimless. Realizing this, you can become depressed and forever remain sitting in the "cave with an ax and a mammoth skin." Fortunately, primitive man a brain was given, thanks to which it became possible to live “today is better than yesterday”, and thanks to the first unconscious goals “to go out into the world”. A modern person is simply obliged to have goals, because this will allow him to be successful, and not work for someone who is already successful.
Goal is tomorrow's motivation"become best version yourself”, this is a way out of the comfort zone in order to search for one’s boundaries and limits, this is the “measurability” of the quality of one’s life, in the end, this is the very meaning of life.
If you still do not understand why you need goals for life - watch the movie "Before you played in the box." When a person finds himself in a state that is borderline for his life, he begins to think about every day he has lived. He rethinks his existence and tries to do as fast and as much as possible while still alive.
Shot from the film "Not yet played in the box" (source: 5sfer.com)
How do you see your old age? On a safari among wild animals or on a bench among pigeons? Time is relentless - use it even more effectively with the help of set goals.
How to write 100 goals in life?
To begin with, you need to understand that goals are different: for a day, a week, a month, a year, 3-5-10 years, and for a lifetime. When I check the work of my students, I often see 2 mistakes.
The first mistake is that most items are obtained too "simple". For example, “visit the neighboring region”, “donate blood”, “make a website on the Internet”, “ride in a limousine”, etc. Such goals are written for 1 year, but certainly not for life. The points should be ambitious and almost unattainable, then the result will exceed all your expectations.
The second mistake is that beginners try to write all 100 targets at once. The reality is that after 30-50 points fantasy ends and "slag" appears. Personally, I never finished my list, because I strive not for quantity, but for quality. The time will come - new desires will come.
Take 3 sheets of A4, a pen and start thinking about your 100 goals for life. On 1 sheet, write down everything you ever wanted to do. Just get this list out of your head. No matter how much money and time it takes - write everything indiscriminately and numbering. I am sure that with due imagination, you can easily "type" 200 and even 300 goals of a different order.
For each item (on 1 sheet), ask yourself the question: “Can I close this right now, and do I have this moment all the necessary resources for this? If the answer was “NO”, and the task seems too ambitious, write this goal on 2 sheets, but in the form of a numbered list. You will see that the “squeeze” of points has become many times smaller, because most of it related to goals with early dates(for a month, for a year, etc.).
Sorting goals by the "Wheel of Life"
Once you have a list of a few dozen items, you will quickly realize that it is still difficult to work with. What should be closed first and second, etc.?
8 sectors
The easiest way to solve this issue is to use the headers " Wheels of life" (which is divided into 8 sectors): " Friends and environment», « Relations», « Career and business», « Finance», « Spirituality and creativity», « Personal growth», « Brightness of life», « Health and sports". These will be the 8 headings for your life goals.
Classic "Wheel of Life" - 8 sectors
By the way, if you have never drawn your own " wheel of life”, then it’s time to “close” this case at the same time. How to do this, I will write in a separate article, but you must draw your own “circle” if you are thinking about self-development.
5 sectors
If so many sectors scare you, use 5 headings from the simplified "circle" (which I came up with). The titles will be: Health», « Environment», « Self-development», « Finance" and " Rest". Take the 3rd sheet of paper and already “finish” rewrite your goals according to the selected headings.
"Wheel of Life" Denis Telelinsky - 5 sectors
My list of 100 life goals
Health
- Pull up 30 times "clean" in 1 approach (during);
- Push-ups 70 times "clean" in 1 approach (during);
- See the cubes on your stomach;
- Sit on the transverse twine;
- Increase biceps up to 40 cm without "chemistry";
- Conquer 10 mountains with a height of 4 km;
- Become a candidate for master of sports;
- Master at least 1 extreme sport;
- Run 50 marathons.
Environment
- Find at least 1 real friend;
- Make wife and parents financially independent (during);
- Become the father of at least 1 child;
- Improve and permanently change the lives of 1,000 people (during);
- Participate in 100 volunteer trips;
- Help 100 disabled or homeless people with food, clothes, money;
- Buy dad the car he wants;
- Distribute 100 tr. in 1 day 50-ruble bills to all passers-by;
- Open a charitable foundation and donate there a total of at least 1 million rubles.
Self-development
- Learn to cook 100 healthy meals (during);
- Get 4 higher educations (1 available, 3 more to go);
- Become a candidate of technical sciences;
- Get an MBA degree;
- learn English language and pass an international exam;
- Reach the level of 5000 unique visitors per day on the site teleden.ru;
- Write and publish at least 1 book;
- Perform in front of an audience of 2,000 people;
- Become a mentor personal growth and Internet professions (during);
- Read 5,000 books (during);
- Post a video on Youtube that gets at least 1 million views;
- Make your family tree and family coat of arms;
- Patent your invention;
- Know the names and be able to distinguish 1,000 of the most expensive paintings in the world;
- Know the names and be able to distinguish 1,000 of the most famous classical melodies;
- Open a carpentry workshop;
- Learn to play on guitar;
- Learn to play the piano;
- Defeat acrophobia (fear of heights).
Finance
- Earn 1 million rubles "clean" per month;
- Earn 500 tr. "clean" per month with the help of passive sources of income;
- Become an investor, get a share in the business;
- Buy real estate in Moscow;
- Buy property abroad by the sea;
- Buy a plot from 1 ha in size;
- Buy a car more expensive than 3 million rubles.
Rest
- Visit all continents;
- Visit all countries (during);
- Go on a trip around the world;
- Visit 1,000 of the most beautiful places on the planet;
- Visit all the cities of the world with a population of more than 1 million people (during);
- Visit all cities of the Russian Federation with a population of more than 100 thousand people (during);
- visit all National parks peace;
- Travel throughout the whole year;
- Learn to identify the stars in the celestial constellations;
- Plant 1,000 trees;
- Catch and release fish weighing more than 100 kg;
- Make fire in 20 ways (during);
- Participate in excavations and dig up dinosaur bones;
- Pet 1,000 exotic animals.
Dear readers, how does your list of 100 human life goals? Please write in the comments - maybe I missed some important points?
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How to set the right goal?
1. Write down what you want to achieve as written. The main thing is to do it honestly and express all the words that come to mind (heart, soul).
2. Take a short break, 10-15 minutes, during which you must be taken, change the activity.
3. Read what you wrote down again - do you really want to do this?
So much so that you are willing to work hard to achieve your desire?
How many percent out of 100 do you really want to realize your desire?
4. Now let's go directly to the formulation of the goal of your future activity.
Express your desire in positive words (WITHOUT any other refusal).
Live NO change, DO NOT change - wrong language,
This is true, this is one of the correct formulations.
5. Record it at the current time
I have a healthy lifestyle.
I successfully complete XXX with my interview.
I live in Altai. I am going to Sweden.
During each step of transforming your desire into a goal that you achieve, check your emotions: do you still want the desire to come true?
Do you want to start with this?
6. Move your target. Imagine how its implementation will explain in detail what events you want to see (what you want to participate in, feel and hear) in the process of achieving the goal.
I hear an alarm sound and I just wake up. I turn off the alarm, stretch and stand up.
I go to the window, look at it and enjoy the early morning, space and silence.
I said: “He who gets up early, God blesses him with wealth” and goes to the soul ...
… I came to work in front of my employees. I enter the office, take off and take off my coat, sit down at the table and apply the plan that I did in the evening. I have the toughest task, and I will focus on work.
When my colleagues come, I am happy to switch to communication with them, I will reward you for your excellent work with a short break ...
Again, special features, special features, and more features.
Imagine what the surrounding space looks like, what it smells like, what you hear, what you feel, and maybe what the process of fulfilling your dreams tastes like.
Perhaps even at this stage you will come across the fact that you have a great idea, of course. I want XXX, you said sincerely, but how he looks and feels, really lives, you have vague impressions or almost none, or you have studied films, programs and books.
It's time to take a little break and study the specific details of your desire, dream.
A simple goal, less time and effort you spend on achieving it.
I don't want to wash the dishes and clean them! - the sound in the first stage, up to the sixth has already been converted to - I buy and install a dishwasher ...
And this led to questions: what size, brand, price, where to find, how to organize the connection, etc.
If you don't have enough information, you are less likely to make the best decision.
Of course, if you aim real life, which largely determines in which direction the years and years of your life will go, you will have to think more seriously and study the issue.
Surprisingly, many people are more responsible for choosing appliances or cars than for choosing a job, home and life partner.
The main argument he makes is "you can't just consider!".
Correctly. But why from this observation is the most extreme conclusion: "Then, of course, I will behave unreasonable, stupid, perhaps happy" - the secret of all times and peoples.
So, set your goal, accurately imagine the plot of its achievement and implementation.
See, feel, listen, breathe and enjoy the taste...
If you find that realistic ideas about what you want are not needed or not enough, focus on seeking out and getting information and explaining the details of your goal.
Examples of goals in life: from spiritual to material
Use the "Anti-IT-ONLY!" rule.
Your goals should be formed as achievable, thanks to your actions, your efforts.
I invite her to a meeting
I choose and execute this project
I work, I do, I communicate with other people and I get help, I cooperate in exchange for an interesting interest.
Invalid options:
Call me!
I want a lot of money in the lottery!
8. Determine the scope, the boundaries of your goal.
Where, when, with whom - you want to achieve your goal.
Where, when, with whom - you do not want to achieve your goal.
I am buying a spacious bright 2-room apartment in the city center.
Error - in the absence of an explanation - which place. 🙂
9. What will you lose from what you have now when you reach your goal? Is your dignity worth it?
For example, the birth of even the most desired and desirable child means: much less free time for mom and dad over the years, more regular expenses in the family budget, changes in marital status (she had some adults, each of whom could take care of himself, then they became three (or a little more if they were born closer), and one of them needs little attention and family resources), changes in relations with relatives, problems with the professional performance of the mother ...
What will you get if you fulfill your desire and what will you do with the results of your actions?
Perhaps when you reached a relationship with Lena K., it turns out that you wanted to increase your self-esteem, and you do not need Lena K. And now you have a question on the agenda: how to share love with you, thanks to your diligence, woman?
Having a certain position, a complex project, you may be surprised to find that the advantages of your position - you will not even be delighted, weaknesses and problems requiring much more time and effort than you can afford, but only in terms of environmental friendliness with positions you can't.
The failure of the consequences of satisfying your desire, which turned out to be unnecessary, undesirable, unbearable, also requires significant costs, not only external, but also internal.
Now turn off the 3D image of your target dream into a short spatial phrase that describes your goal and your actions (achievement process) and tests your relationship with the target team you created.
3 hours every day I communicate with different girls, women, and I find my favorite
Some notes:
* Actual Needs -)
wish -)
conscious planning -)
successful action -)
Goal (= fulfillment of desires = satisfaction of real needs) - joy (satisfaction, self-confidence, pride, joy, happiness) + years of successful self-realization, success, joyful, unique (own) life
Thus, it seems like a general scheme to achieve any of your dreams.
** Wrong approach: I want "everything, at once and more".
Focus on a few targets, two or three at the most. Get to them, then move on to the next one.
*** good test"truth of desire", except for the intuitive answer to the question: Is this really what I want?
You also like the process of achieving the goal and intermediate results and overall result. And also - the consequences of the result.
**** In the process of creating an achievable goal, clear the mental garbage of "bad will" or use the rule "which obviously considers it successful and happy to live."
If at any moment there were doubts, "but I need to..."?
Pay attention to what is causing your doubts? What is the problem with your energy?
When you find it, find that unsolvable problem or problem, find a way to solve it or surround it.
Refer to a separate problem and solve.
Then continue to understand your purpose.
Or find out what you didn't want, what you wanted! And something that is just a part of what you want is your dream. Then specify, specify what you want and achieve your goals.
Realize your dreams!
Good luck! 
How to set goals correctly? Criteria for the correct formulation of the goal
Target- this is what you really want and know how to get it.
It is not for nothing that those who passionately desire to achieve something achieve more than those who constantly say: "I will not succeed, this is not real." Many people think they set goals, but in reality, their goals are still dreams. For, to make a dream become a goal, and then the task, need a clear plan for implementation, you should know 80% of the steps to achieve it.
Setting goals motivates you to work effectively. When there is a goal and written on paper, a clear setting appears in the head of what needs to be done. A well-formulated goal is not an easy task! The result depends on how we formulate goals. How the dream, goals and objectives relate in more detail in the article tree of goals.
The main criteria for a correctly formulated goal (SMART - technology)
The goal must be specific, that is, formulated in such a way that it will be clear not only to you.
Indicate places, events, objects and their descriptions. The more specific the goal, the more it turns into a task.
The goal must be measurable. If there is no measurement, how will you know that you have reached it? Select the main criteria, for example, a certain amount of money.
The goal must be real, that is, you must know more than 50% of the actions to achieve it.
Also, it should lead you to positive emotions, and not to stress and depression. Don't dream up something you can never achieve. Also, you should not overestimate the bar too much, but you should not understate it either. You appreciate the situation.
The target has boundaries in time.
Goals are different in time: short-term (1-6 months), medium-term (1-3 years) and long-term (5-10 years). Decide on deadlines. Choose a deadline a little earlier, as you need to take into account that you can delay the implementation.
Have at least 1 day left, that is, if you need to submit a report by April 3, then set a goal to do it by the 2nd, and preferably by 1. Create a psychological environment for yourself that you need to pass not 3, but 2, so you will definitely handle it. A very small part of people do everything in advance, usually everything happens at the last moment.
And the last criterion is attractiveness of the target. Do you want to do something that does not apply to you at all?
Of course not! Therefore, write goals that are relevant to you, and not to someone else. If you have to set goals for another person, then the performer should be interested in the result.
Goal Formulation Rules
1. Compliance SMART criteria. The more specific your goal, the closer you are to it.
Life goals - the more the better!
Target affirmative and positive. Do not use the particle not in the wording. In place of "do not", write "do".
For example, “don’t sleep until dinner” is replaced by “get up at 9 am and do exercises.” Use words that mean you already have it. For example, it is not correct: “I want to learn how to plan,” we replace: “I am learning to plan from today and set goals and objectives correctly.”
Belong. The result of your goal should be entirely up to you. When you rely on someone, the result is immediately distorted, because now it does not depend on you. Only delegation of duties is allowed, that is, those tasks that others can solve. In this case, you need control and your goals and the performer must match, otherwise the result will not be effective.
Positive attitude. Only faith in the result will lead to success. But you have to be prepared to fail because there are many obstacles to consider and overcome.
If you have lost your way with the intended goal, it is worth changing or revising something and moving on. Learn from their own mistakes, not from others.
5. Formulate on paper. It has long been proven that the formulation of goals and objectives on paper is more effective than those that are kept in the head. You don't need to keep everything in your head, and it's not possible, anyway, something is forgotten. Therefore, in order to achieve goals, it is necessary to formulate them on paper, observing all the rules and criteria.
Vision. Present the result. The more detailed the picture, the better. This is where visualization and attraction come into play. The more you want it, the faster it will attract.
7. Small gifts at the end of the achievement.
Give yourself a reward for reaching your goal. So the path to a new goal will be even more interesting, because you know that you will get a “sweet candy” for the result.
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People set false goals not only in childhood.
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The argument, of course, failed, because it makes no sense to prove something to a person whose lifestyle leaves a lot, for example, personal life and financial position.
Although I asked him about one question, I asked him to answer quickly, I asked him about who this person should be an expert in a certain field, so that the person has a narrow view of this world and what is needed?
I did not wait for an answer from him, but he did not need me to understand the dishonesty of those goals that sit at the head of a man who may not even bother him, although his unsuccessful life.
The success of the company you want to achieve will depend not only on how well you do everything, but on how your business activity succeeds, is really important to you, and in general you need it. As an example of absurd success, I can give a situation in my life in which I had to work a little and wanted to succeed in my work.
I was able to do this because most of the activities are somehow related to contact with other people, and with my knowledge in the field of psychology, I did very well with very high results in my work.
Luckily, my first boss was very close and frankly stupid, and instead of prompting young man try to work for the result of a person, this boss constantly struggled and was always frustrated with something.
At that moment, I began to understand that my goals were not fundamentally correct, that the result of my efforts goes into the pockets of others, and even thanked me for not telling me, trying, on the contrary, to squeeze even more vital juice out of me. And, of course, I heard a completely different voice, almost a defense, to stay when I was about to be fired, but I already knew very well that his talent, his strength should be directed to other purposes for purposes that are useful First of all , I.
I've worked for both poor and good employers, in the usual sense of the two, because it's really different, and I found that within a short time when I worked for hire.
A good employer is not those of my friends who would be ideal working conditions, who pay you a good salary, which increases you and your praise for work - and one who cries to you, which reduces your salary, which you forgive.
After all, the good ones (in quotes) are actually limited to employers. Yes, they recognize your diligence, appreciate it, but you spend this attention on them, and for success in life it is important that you try yourself first; it is important to realize your dreams, not foreigners.
It sounds selfish, but objectivity, this is sober thinking - after all, some jobs in this life we follow our interests in one way or another. So why are you pursuing them by mediating alien targets, why can't you find a natural path to what you need? This will save you from unnecessary illusions; in any case, from the many paths of life that you can see in life.
In the past, society strove for equality and actually drowned the people who believed in it; there were also people who believe in change, resulting in a more intelligent society that does not wage war, who do not want those who violate the interests of other people.
You know friends, none of this bothers me, but psychology is different from all types of doctrines and beliefs, that it deals with facts and, like science, cannot rely on what is possible.
Everything is possible, but as long as we have the ability to manage; learn to approach natural goals, it is true, I say that your life will be better in this world, and this is not what it can be. You see how rich and successful people live, very rich; those people who have power not because they have a lot of money, but because they control their ideas, their goals; and money is also an idea that works for those who invented it.
What does it take to have everything to have power, money that can buy a lot, to have power, after all, thanks to money and power?
And most importantly, what is needed in order to control the thoughts of other people, to ask them about such ideas that they will happily fulfill, and for you you will be almost a god. This, my friends, is to be studied; don't ask me where or who, in the first place, you understand that you need it if you need it: if you want to be the best castle in the world or, say, a really cool musician, then such things are not worth hitting on the head - they are intended for more dedicated people,
Only on this website do I post really unique information for those who want to become a person of status and have power, not only because I know psychology well, but also because I know people who have this status and authority.
Of course, it's up to you, because it's a success compared to your idea of what you have in your head.
No matter how wrong your goal is, what you do not want to achieve, if it is achieved, it is undoubtedly a success, but how happy you are with this success is another matter. The lie of your purpose in life is exactly determined by your satisfaction with your achievement and what it gives you. I'm talking about false goals based on my life experience and more about my experience as a psychologist, thanks to which many people have passed.
At the same time, based on the individuality of everyone who reads this text, it is quite logical to assume that for many of you, dear friends, the reality of the goals will be somewhat different from the parameters that I indicate.
Perhaps some of you will not even get into your life, but not because someone will not be happy, but because many people do not want to achieve anything.
Well, it is also success, the success of the choices that everyone makes and the goals that we have set. And if you are happy with your life and what you have, you can say that you had and had the wrong goals, I can't: you can do it, friends.
Think about what you really want and compare it to what you do and don't forget to think about how you have been taught and teach other people close to what you really want.
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We decided to set goals with you.
When setting goals, you must follow a number of rules.
Let's take a look at them below:
first
With We ate fir tree on paper. If you can put it on paper, we can formulate it, then you know exactly what you want. And if you know what you want, you can achieve it.
Do you know anyone who is positive about the availability of goals? The goals they have… in my head, and those goals are constantly changing.
Write down your goals, this is important!
2. Goal is currently written: goals should be written by now. Remember: tomorrow you cannot change your life. You can change your life today!
In The Virtuoso of Trade, Joe Gerrardi is such an amazing example.
“I went to the bar and wrote in the bar above the billboard: “We will give you unlimited credit tomorrow. "
I go to the bartender and say: “Imagine: tomorrow everyone who is sitting in the hall will come to you for a loan!
100 main goals in a person's life: how to make a list
What are you going to answer? The bartender replies, “Yeah, you know, no one has come yet. “Well, even if tomorrow no one comes in and asks for, as you wrote, unlimited credit to answer me?” - "Well, what do we need to go today, tomorrow will come, and we'll talk." He comes to the waiter tomorrow: "How about a loan?" - "What loan?" - “You wrote ...”, “And what is written there? - "Tomorrow we will give you unlimited lending."
“So, what are we going to beat today, come tomorrow and talk!”
So tomorrow there is a tendency not to advance, and not only in America. Remember yourself or your friends who promised to start working on Monday morning, stop smoking, start losing weight, etc.
and they are still starting.
3. The target is written with the anchor key. This means that when creating a goal, you should write about what you I want to come, Not really they want to exclude from your life.
Write down that you want to be present in your life, not the other way around. For example, if you do not want to live with your parents or rent a house, then set goals that you should write that you want to live in your own home. Not set goals, "not loneliness", not "in poverty", "does not age". We need to turn all these “deliberate avoidances” into positive ones - “Save the youth and get involved in your health and appearance” to “find someone with whom you can build a serious relationship”, “get some money”,
Why can't we write down our goals by saying "no"?
The fact that the “no” particle cannot completely change the meaning and strength of neighboring words, which may weaken a little, but the meaning of the word remains.
Remember these situations. Go to a person on the street and say, "Can you tell me what time it is?" He looks at his watch and tells what time it is.
And you say, "Thank you!" Although they just asked him not to run. That's why you didn't even notice "NO".
4. We write goals that apply to you personally.
Do you want to do something that doesn't even apply to you? Of course not! So write down goals that are important to you and not to anyone else.
Goal “My daughter is buying a two-room apartment in the city center.
Paris "does not belong to you.
5. Written goals must follow the KIPRO formula.
6. We write goals with all the details and small details.
Formulate goals with all the information you need. The fact is that there are no screens in setting goals. Everything that you have not specified for your purposes can be performed at your request.
Our thoughts are very strong.
They determine what happens in our lives and what happens. Ability to focus your thoughts - write them down.
Writing is an effective activity. By writing something, you commit and at the same time consolidate your words in your subconscious. If your commitments are positive and collected in the present, the subconscious mind will put you into seizures.
In this way, your subconscious mind will cover all aspects of your life, as if your ideas have already become a reality.
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Setting life goals
Confidently set realistic goals for yourself. As soon as you reach one goal, set yourself another, higher one.
K. Turner
What is a PURPOSE?
A goal is what you want right now, in the near future. A goal is what you dream about and what you want to get a certain result from. If the result is achieved and it matches the goal, you can set a new goal and achieve better results, if the result is negative (that is, suppose you did the job, but did not receive the promised money for it), then he pushes the goal (the goal in in this case, it may be the acquisition of something) or makes it completely unattainable.
You will say abstrusely, but understanding yourself and your goals, as well as setting new goals, also requires work. Have you asked yourself the question, “What do I really want out of life?” or "What are my life goals? Have you tried planning your life for the near future, say, three years ahead?
My desires are what I want examples. The main life goals of a person
Perhaps this book made you think for the first time that you do not have time because you do not have much idea, what, Actually, you want to be on time.
In order to properly set goals, several conditions must be met.
- Know exactly what result you want to achieve in the end, i.e.
e. to be able to answer the question: WHAT DO I WANT?
- Express the goal in positive terms. Then, and only then, will you succeed.
With the question: "What do I want?" everything is more or less clear. One way or another, we always want something. It is much more difficult to express your goals in positive terms. For example, instead of saying, "I have to wash the dishes," it's better to say, "I want the sink to be clean." Agree, the second phrase evokes completely different internal sensations.
It should be noted that any business that goes into the category of "I have to" or "I need to" ruined a lot of wonderful and quite achievable goals.
The goal becomes real when you imagine the desired result and feel cozy and comfortable. Therefore, it is so important to choose a goal for which you will study correctly and as efficiently as possible to save time and use time.
One of my friends, who has achieved considerable success in life, always said that you can combine (without prejudice to achieving your goal and your own health) no more than three things. Less - uninteresting, more - nothing really will work.
You yourself have probably found yourself in situations where you had to combine something with something, and you can confirm that this is a very true observation. You can easily have time to study, work and play sports, but if you include the fourth element in the list, for example, the daily “pull” in nightclubs, then one of the three previous elements will certainly “fly into the pipe”, if not all three.
Hence the conclusion: in order to learn how to properly manage time, you need to set yourself simultaneously no more than THREE goals, otherwise you really will not be in time.
In order for the goals to be achieved, and not to disappoint you in your own capabilities, you need to be aware that not a single goal can be achieved with lightning speed, i.
e. It will take some amount of time to get any positive result. To learn how to correctly estimate the time to achieve goals, you need to ask yourself questions: When I this want?", " How much Will it take me time to reach my goal? From whom depends on achieving my goal?”, “Who else is involved in achieving my goal?”, “ When, where and with whom I this want?".
By answering these questions, you build a chain of your own actions and calculate the time that you need to spend to achieve your own goal. With this information, it will be much easier for you to plan real time achieve a goal or obtain a positive result.
There is a very good exercise (we will come back to it and look at it in more detail a little later), with the help of which it is easy to test yourself for the ability to determine your goals and priorities in life.
Take a blank sheet of paper, imagine: it became known to you (for example, from the attending physician) that in six months you will no longer be, in other words, you will die. How would you live the rest of your life if you received such a forecast? It is hard, of course, to imagine such an untimely death and loss of oneself, because it seems that the whole life is still ahead, but the question posed at the beginning of the chapter remains: “What are your life goals for the next six months?”.
You can, of course, dedicate these six months of deep depression on the occasion of the impending death, you can have some fun in the end, go on a long vacation, which has been postponed for the past fifteen years due to your indispensability in production. Many people live like this, and not only for the last six months, but for the rest of their lives.
If you are not one of those, take a pencil and write down all the thoughts that come to your mind. Remember that goals that are not reflected on paper remain vague, incomprehensible and unattainable ...
So, your thoughts lay down on paper, now there is something to work on. I'm sure you'll find that you have goals that are on this moment very important for you, but in the bustle and "park" you did not pay attention to them, put them off for later.
Surely you have read the previous two paragraphs and are ready to move on, but I still strongly recommend that you put everything aside (even this book), take a piece of paper right now and for fifteen minutes think hard and write down everything that you would like to do, what are you striving for.
The first question you have to answer is: What are my life goals? If necessary, you will have to call on the help of the sister of talent, that is, brevity, and limit yourself to in general terms without specifying anything. Don't forget to mention goals related to your personal, family, social, business, material and spiritual life. Try to make your list as detailed as possible.
Big requests and desires do not yet mean that you are obliged to subordinate your life to their fulfillment without a trace, so do not be shy and try to write down everything that comes to your mind (even all sorts of nonsense about losing ten to twenty kilograms or a new hairstyle) . Don't be afraid to list even the furthest from yours. ordinary life goals, for example, a holiday in the Seychelles, a trip to India, a year-long vacation, or buying a computer that you are afraid to approach yet.
Freedom of fantasy!
Now let's ask ourselves another question: How do I want to spend the next three to five years?". We write answers to this question.
The third question may be considered too gloomy by some, but it is it that stimulates a person to determine life goals for a short period of time and subsequently makes it easier to determine priorities. Question: " How would I live my last six months, knowing that life will not give me another chance? The purpose of this question is to find out very important, but, in your opinion, not urgent issues that you are not currently dealing with, but they deserve due attention from your side.
Write down all the answers as quickly as possible without thinking. Then re-read everything that happened, and try to analyze what was written. It is almost certain that there will be many intersections in the lists before you; as you work on what you have written, you will see that many points are part of or a continuation of other points.
For example, women often find that the desire to lose weight or somehow change their appearance is actually part of the desire to be loved, to find a worthy husband.
For many people, life goals change dramatically when the realization comes that the time of a human life is limited, and it is impossible to do everything.
Someone decides to work hard for money or fame, while the other will simply enjoy life. There is no single right answer, there are no standard goals, unless you are stereotyped, your choice, and ultimately your life, is up to you!
In achieving the goal, for the sake of which, in fact, games are started over time, it is necessary to take into account the huge role motivation .
Motivation is the driving force that helps and makes us perform actions and any actions. Motivations are of several types, for example, one can distinguish the motivations "To" and "OT".
– Motivation To”: A person with “K” motivation gets a job “on new job”, and not “leaves the old one”, he “goes to live with a friend”, and not “leaves his wife”, etc. Such people know how to focus attention, go long and hard towards the intended goal.
However, people with K motivation often have trouble identifying situations that should be avoided.
– Motivation FROM". Such people run away from negativity, this is the exact opposite of people with “K” motivation. They "leave the old job" rather than "get a new one", etc. Such people talk about problems, not about ways to solve these problems. People with “OT” motivation are good at seeing mistakes and “pitfalls”, this helps them avoid problems in achieving their own goal, but they often forget what they are striving for and lose their goals along the way, or even completely abandon them.
Another classification allows people to be divided according to their attitude towards motivation.
– Motivation ACTIVE ».
People with this motivation are excellent at motivating themselves, they do not need outside help to get started.
They always know what they want and know how to get it. As a rule, people with "active" motivation solve problems before these problems can arise. This is a quality inherent in careerists, leaders, etc. workaholics.
– Motivation PASSIVE". In order to achieve something and reach the intended goal, people with “passive” motivation vitally need a “kick in the ass” from the outside.
They always doubt the correctness of their actions and often talk about what they would like, and not what they want. For example: “I would like to talk to you”, and not “I want to talk to you”, etc. The phrase itself already contains a passive attitude to action, they say, I would do this or that, but somehow not much I want, and I'm afraid. Such people have analytical warehouse mind, they are good at calculating actions several steps ahead, however, people with the “passive” motivation make the most “terry” officials-bureaucrats, they will never take responsibility for making any decisions without instructions from above.
It doesn’t matter at all which motivation suits you best, the main thing is that motivation is always present when moving towards any goal.
Knowing how to set real realistic goals and learning how to motivate yourself, you will always know exactly WHAT you want to do. Now that we have decided on life priorities and goals, it's time to move on to HOW to find the time to achieve these very goals.
Life plans are intentions to live life in a certain way. Unlike life goals, life plans are more general and less specific. That is why people talk more about life plans than about life goals.
However, if a person translates life plans into life planning, the situation changes. Life planning is the construction of a specific plan for your life for a year, 3 years, 5 and 10 years and beyond, where high and inspiring goals are set.
People who set themselves big life goals think through their maximum life. And live their lives to the fullest.
How to start new life? Having sketched out a plan for your life, maybe even being afraid of your plan, make the decision to implement it anyway. Do. And as soon as you have accepted it - move, start moving immediately. You can't "try", you can't "promise" yourself, because it means postponing the movement into the future, but there is no future. There is only the present, which you betray every second if you don't use it. The world exists now, not in the future. It is pointless to wait for the future - later it will also become the present. You should always start now. Then it's always too late.
You have to start doing. Start doing NOW. You can't think - thinking will always prove to you that it's too difficult for you. "I cant. My circumstances don't allow me to. I have such a character. I had such a childhood. I live in such a country. I can't" are all absolute truths and great excuses to stay the same.
Lifetime success of John Goddard
For example, at the age of fifteen, John Goddard set himself not even 50 vital, main goals that he sought to achieve, but 127! For the uninitiated, reference: we are talking about a researcher, an anthropologist, a traveler, a holder of scientific degrees, a Member of the Society of French Explorers, the Royal Geographical Society and the Archaeological Society, and a multiple Guinness World Record holder. On his 50th birthday, John noted that he achieved 100 of the 127 goals he set. One can only envy his rich life.
Goals in order not to be ashamed and hurt
A happy person is called accomplished, successful. No one will call a loser happy - success is a component of happiness. Almost everyone remembers the famous phrase of Ostrovsky from “How to become tempered” about how you need to live your life. The end of the quote is especially bright: “So that it would not be excruciatingly painful ...” So that at the end of life it would not hurt and be ashamed of the aimlessly lived time, you need to set tasks for yourself today.
To consider life successful, a person must achieve the 50 most important life goals by old age. Summing up the results of his life, a person compares what he dreamed of with what he achieved. But it happens that over the years it is difficult to remember many of your desires-goals, so it is difficult to make comparisons. That is why it is so important to write down the 50 most important goals in life on a piece of paper, periodically re-read the list. Another important aspect is to try to write down SMART goals. This means that your goals must meet five important criteria: specific, measurable, relevant, achievable, time-bound.
human needs
Before making a list, you should understand what is a priority, vital for a person. Air, drink, food, sleep are the 4 most important needs of organic life. The second row is health, housing, clothing, rest - the necessary attributes of life, but secondary. Unlike animals, a person is characterized not only by the elementary satisfaction of vital needs, he wants to do this, receiving aesthetic pleasure.
It is impossible for a person to live without satisfaction of primary needs, and without satisfaction of secondary needs it is difficult. Therefore, if at least one link in this chain is destroyed, a person suffers physically - firstly, morally - secondly. He is unhappy. But even if all the vital needs of the individual are satisfied, his life cannot be called happy. Here is such a paradox. Therefore, the 50 vital, priority goals of a person must necessarily include items, thanks to the implementation of which the primary and secondary needs of a person would be satisfied.
Listing such goals as “buy your own house” or “relax on the sea”, “do the necessary medical operation” or “cure and insert teeth”, “buy a fur coat” and “buy a car” may not be so important for complete happiness ( why - will be discussed below), but achieving them makes living on earth more comfortable for people. To meet these needs, to achieve the goals listed above, an individual needs money. And, selecting the 50 most important goals of a person, it is imperative to include an item on the list regarding the financial condition of the individual. Examples of such goals:
Find a high paying job;
- open your own business;
- to ensure that the business brings a net income of more than $ 10,000 per month, and the like.
Sample list of goals
Spiritual self-improvement:
Read the Qur'an and translate its meanings.
Read collections of hadith.
Perform Hajj and die.
Read the top 100 best world works.
Complete an English course.
Forgive insults to parents, friends, acquaintances.
Stop being jealous.
Increase personal efficiency by 2 times.
Get rid of laziness and procrastination.
Write at least 1,000 characters daily for your unfinished novel (personal blog).
Reconcile with relatives (husband, mother, brother, sister, father).
Start writing a personal diary every day.
Go to the mosque at least once a week.
Physical self-improvement:
Go to the gym 3 times a week.
Go to the sauna and pool weekly.
Do a set of exercises daily in the morning;
Walk every evening for at least half an hour at a brisk pace.
Refuse completely from the list of harmful products.
Fast twice a week.
In three months, learn to sit on the twine.
In winter, go skiing in the forest with your grandson (son, daughter, nephew).
Lose 5 kilos.
Soak in cold water in the morning.
Financial Goals:
Raise your monthly income up to 100,000 rubles.
Raise the TIC of your site (blog) by the end of this year to 30.
Go to the level of passive income.
Learn to play the stock market.
Learn how to make websites on your own.
Pay off debts early.
Entrust all housework to be done by machines in order to save time for earnings.
Save on meaningless and harmful things: cigarettes, alcohol, sweets, chips, crackers.
Products to buy in wholesale stores, everything except perishable.
Buy a cottage for growing fresh organic products.
Comfort and pleasure:
Buy a four-room apartment with all amenities.
Buy a business class car.
Visit Europe, USA, Middle East.
Take a course of massage.
Go on vacation at least 2 times a year.
Ride a live Indian elephant.
Meet friends at least once a week.
Charity:
Monthly deduct 10% of profits to the orphanage for gifts to children.
Arrange a gift show for orphans.
Pay Zakat.
Give food packages to needy pensioners.
Large family to buy a computer.
Give unwanted items to those in need.
Build a playground in the yard.
Help a financially talented child go to an event in Moscow.
Demand as the main component of happiness
In addition, for the full happiness of the individual, something else is necessary. And that "something" is called recognition. Only being in demand, a person feels his significance, feels pleasure, happiness. Each person has their own criteria for recognition. For some, a simple “thank you” for the prepared dinner is enough. Others feel a sense of complete happiness from manifestations of tenderness - this is recognition, the selection of a person among all others.
For some, it is enough to bring sterile cleanliness in the house and hear words of admiration from neighbors, others need to see delight in the eyes of those they meet at the sight of their appearance, figure, outfits, hairstyles. For the third, it is important to recognize them as excellent parents. For the fourth, recognition at a wider level is necessary. These fourths do not limit the circle of people they want to be recognized by, relatives, loved ones, neighbors, fellow travelers, passers-by.
These are scientists, discoverers, big businessmen, people of creative and a number of other professions. The most successful are people who receive recognition both from their loved ones, friends, children, neighbors, and from colleagues, fans, viewers, readers - a wider range of people. It is important to add the appropriate items to the list of "50 goals in my life." Examples of such goals might be:
Find your soul mate to create a family, which (who) will be such and such, for whom I will have respect, love (passion), feelings should be reciprocal;
- Help your son finish school successfully;
- give children higher education;
- defend a thesis;
- release your own collection of short stories, stories.
intermediate goals
To achieve global goals, actions are needed to help move forward. Therefore, it is necessary to write intermediate goals related to advanced training, education, and the acquisition of skills. And in the list of "50 human life goals" examples of such can be:
Read the collected works of Dostoevsky;
- reading manuals for a businessman, authored by John Rockefeller (for example, "12 golden rules" of success;
- study of life stories and paths to success of major figures of science and culture;
- studying of foreign language;
- obtaining a second education.
This list can be continued at your own discretion, based on the main goals.
Charity is the most important human goal
According to psychologists, helping people is useful and extremely pleasant. Therefore, in the "50 vital goals", making a list, you should include items related to this side of life. By doing charity, one enjoys receiving recognition.
Even doing good incognito, he is satisfied by observing the fruits of his good deeds. Performing charitable acts should be included in the list of vital goals. "50 charitable goals in life" in the general list may have the items "open a kindergarten for disabled children", "regularly provide material assistance to an orphanage" and others.
Having made a list of 50 life goals, a person receives a plan of action in life, sees what he needs to achieve, what to strive for.
Each person has his own main goal in life, to which he aspires. Or even multiple targets. Throughout life, they can change: losing their importance, some are removed, and in their place others, more relevant, appear. How many of these goals should there be?
Successful people claim that 50 human life goals is not the maximum at all. The longer the list of your goals, the better you will be able to understand your true desires.
For example, at the age of fifteen, John Goddard set himself not even 50 vital, main goals that he sought to achieve, but 127! For the uninitiated, reference: we are talking about a researcher, an anthropologist, a traveler, a holder of scientific degrees, a Member of the Society of French Explorers, the Royal Geographical Society and the Archaeological Society, and a multiple Guinness World Record holder.
On his 50th birthday, John noted that he achieved 100 of the 127 goals he set. One can only envy his rich life.
Goals in order not to be ashamed and hurt
A happy person is called accomplished, successful. No one will call a loser happy - success is a component of happiness. Almost everyone remembers the famous phrase of Ostrovsky from “How to become tempered” about how you need to live your life. The end of the quote is especially bright: “So that it would not be excruciatingly painful ...” So that at the end of life it would not hurt and be ashamed of the aimlessly lived time, you need to set tasks for yourself today.
To consider life successful, a person must achieve the 50 most important life goals by old age. Summing up the results of his life, a person compares what he dreamed of with what he achieved. But it happens that over the years it is difficult to remember many of your desires-goals, so it is difficult to make comparisons. That is why it is so important to write down the 50 most important goals in life on a piece of paper, periodically re-read the list.
Another important aspect - try to write down. This means that your goals must meet five important criteria: specific, measurable, relevant, achievable, time-bound.
human needs
Before making a list, you should understand what is a priority, vital for a person. Air, drink, food, sleep are the 4 most important needs of organic life. The second row is health, housing, clothing, sex, rest - necessary attributes of life, but secondary. Unlike animals, a person is characterized not only by the elementary satisfaction of vital needs, he wants to do this, receiving aesthetic pleasure.
It is impossible for a person to live without satisfaction of primary needs, and without satisfaction of secondary needs it is difficult. Therefore, if at least one link in this chain is destroyed, a person suffers physically - firstly, morally - secondly. He is unhappy. But even if all the vital needs of the individual are satisfied, his life cannot be called happy. Here is such a paradox.
Therefore, the 50 vital, priority goals of a person must necessarily include items, thanks to the implementation of which the primary and secondary needs of a person would be satisfied.
Listing such goals as “buy your own house” or “relax on the sea”, “do the necessary medical operation” or “cure and insert teeth”, “buy a fur coat” and “buy a car” may not be so important for complete happiness ( why - will be discussed below), but achieving them makes living on earth more comfortable for people. To meet these needs, to achieve the goals listed above, an individual needs money. And, selecting the 50 most important goals of a person, it is imperative to include an item on the list regarding the financial condition of the individual. Examples of such goals:
- find a high-paying job;
- open your business;
- to achieve that the business brings a net income of more than $ 10,000 per month, and the like.
Sample list of 50 goals
Spiritual self-improvement:
- Read the collected works of J. London.
- Complete an English course.
- Forgive insults to parents, friends.
- Stop being jealous.
- Increase personal efficiency by 1.5 times.
- Get rid of laziness and procrastination.
- Write at least 1,000 characters daily for your unfinished novel (personal blog).
- Reconcile with your sister (husband, mother, father).
- Start writing a personal diary every day.
- Go to church at least once a month.
Physical self-improvement:
- Go to the gym 3 times a week.
- Go to the sauna and pool weekly.
- Do a set of exercises daily in the morning;
- Walk every evening for at least half an hour at a brisk pace.
- Refuse completely from the list of harmful products.
- Once a quarter, arrange a three-day cleansing hunger strike.
- In three months, learn to sit on the twine.
- In winter, go skiing in the forest with your grandson (son, daughter, nephew).
- Lose 4 kilos.
- Soak in cold water in the morning.
Financial Goals:
- Raise your monthly income up to 100,000 rubles.
- Raise the TIC of your site (blog) by the end of this year to 30.
- Go to the level of passive income.
- Learn to play the stock market.
- Learn how to make websites on your own.
- Pay off your bank loan early.
- Entrust all housework to be done by machines in order to save time for earnings.
- Save on meaningless and harmful things: cigarettes, alcohol, sweets, chips, crackers.
- Products to buy in wholesale stores, everything except perishable.
- Buy a cottage for growing fresh organic products.
Comfort and pleasure:
Charity:
- Monthly deduct 10% of profits to the orphanage for gifts to children.
- Arrange for orphans a New Year's performance with gifts by the local theater - to finance.
- Do not pass by those who ask for alms - be sure to give alms.
- Help a shelter for homeless animals - deduct money for food for dogs.
- By the New Year, make a small present for all the kids in the stairwell.
- On the day of the elderly, give all pensioners a set of products.
- Large family to buy a computer.
- Give unwanted items to those in need.
- Build a playground in the yard.
- To help financially talented girl Tanya go to the competition in Moscow "Light your star".
Demand as the main component of happiness
In addition, for the full happiness of the individual, something else is necessary. And that "something" is called recognition. Only being in demand, a person feels his significance, feels pleasure, happiness. Each person has their own criteria for recognition. For some, a simple “thank you” for the prepared dinner is enough. Others feel a sense of complete happiness from the manifestations of tenderness of a sexual partner - this is a recognition, a highlight of the individual among all others.
For some, it is enough to bring sterile cleanliness in the house and hear words of admiration from neighbors, others need to see delight in the eyes of those they meet at the sight of their appearance, figure, outfits, hairstyles. For the third, it is important to recognize them as excellent parents. For the fourth, recognition at a wider level is necessary. These fourths do not limit the circle of people they want to be recognized by, relatives, loved ones, neighbors, fellow travelers, passers-by.
These are scientists, discoverers, big businessmen, people of creative and a number of other professions. The most successful are people who receive recognition both from their loved ones, friends, children, neighbors, and from colleagues, fans, viewers, readers - a wider range of people. It is important to add the appropriate items to the list of "50 goals in my life." Examples of such goals might be:
- find your soul mate to create a family, which (who) will be such and such, for whom I will have respect, love (passion), feelings should be reciprocal;
- help your son finish school successfully;
- give children higher education;
- defend a thesis;
- release your own collection of stories (a CD of songs) or organize an exhibition of paintings.
intermediate goals
To achieve global goals, actions are needed to help move forward. Therefore, it is necessary to write intermediate goals related to advanced training, education, and the acquisition of skills. And in the list of "50 human life goals" examples of such can be:
- read the collected works of Dostoevsky;
- reading manuals for a businessman authored by John Rockefeller (for example, "" success;
- study of life stories and paths to success of major figures of science and culture;
- studying of foreign language;
- obtaining a second education.
This list can be continued at your own discretion, based on the main goals.
Goals-motivators
In order to achieve the main goals, incentives are needed that occupy the position of intermediate goals. They are included in the list, designating; "50 Intermediate Human Life Goals". These goals include:
- go on a trip around the world;
- buy a new laptop;
- make repairs in the apartment;
- Refresh your wardrobe for the new season.
Some may write the items "do a facelift" or "do a tummy tuck". After all, for many, improving their appearance is a hidden desire, which they are sometimes ashamed of. But when compiling a list of motivating goals, you must definitely write those that will give a person pleasure in life. These goals do not have important vital needs, but without joy and pleasure a person withers, he is bored with life, the meaning of achieving the main goals is lost.
Nothing burdens a person more than the lack of striving for anything in life. Home, work, family, and, it would seem, this daily cycle has no end. But just a few years ago, these three points were for someone the goal of a lifetime. And now, when this milestone has been passed, time seems to have stopped. Goals completed. All plans and ideas are embodied. What's next? Just live by going with the flow?
The concept of purpose and its significance
There is a law of constant dynamics. It extends to all spheres of human life. And on target. The goal is the result that a person seeks to obtain as a result at the end of all his actions. The realization of one goal gives rise to another. And if you have a prestigious job, a huge house in which a loving family is waiting for you, then this is not at all the limit of your dreams. Do not stop. Keep setting goals for yourself and achieving them no matter what. And the success that you have already been able to achieve will help you in the implementation of the following ideas.
Purpose and its types
Setting life goals is the most important step on the road to success. It is not necessary to stop at one task and try to implement it. In theory, there are several varieties of goals in life. There are three categories depending on the sphere of society.:
- higher goals. They are focused on the person and his environment. Responsible for personal development and social assistance.
- Basic goals. Aimed at self-realization of the individual and his relationship with other people.
- Providing goals. These include all the material desires of a person, whether it is a car, a house or a vacation trip.
Based on these three categories, a person realizes himself and improves himself. In the event that at least one target category is missing, he will no longer be happy and successful. Therefore, it is so important to have several goals at the same time in order to develop in all directions.
Get your goals right. Clearly formulated goals in a person's life provide 60% of the success of their achievement. It is better to immediately indicate the approximate time frame. Otherwise, the goal of your whole life may remain an unattainable dream.
How to set the right goal
Everyone faces difficulties in achieving their goals based on an inaccurate formulation. What goals in a person's life can be cited as an example?
- Have an apartment, a house, a cottage.
- Lose weight.
- Relax on the sea.
- Get a family.
- Provide parents a good old age.
All of the above goals are, to a greater extent, one way or another, a dream of a person. He wants it, perhaps from the bottom of his heart. But the question arises: when are his goals realized and what does he do for this?
In order to achieve the desired result, it is necessary to set a clear and precise goal. It should fit in one sentence. good example correct setting goals in human life are the following formulations:
- To have an apartment (house, cottage) at the age of 30.
- Lose 10 kg by September.
- Go to the sea in the first month of summer.
- Create a happy and strong family.
- Take your parents to your house and provide them with a good old age.
From the above goals, we can conclude that almost all of them have a certain time period. Based on this, a person can plan his time for the implementation of his plans; develop a daily action plan. And then he will see a complete picture of what needs to be done and undertaken so that the goal in life is achieved.
Top 100 main goals in a person's life
As an example, we can cite the following goals in life, from the list of which each person will find what he wants:
Personal goals
- Find your place and purpose in the world.
- Achieve some success in your work.
- Stop drinking alcohol; smoke cigarettes.
- Expand your circle of acquaintances around the world; make friends.
- Master multiple foreign languages perfectly.
- Stop eating meat and meat products.
- Wake up daily at 6 am.
- Read at least one book a month.
- Go on a trip around the world.
- To write a book.
family goals
- To start a family.
- Make your soul mate happy.
- Have children and raise them properly.
- Provide children with a good education.
- Celebrate a copper, silver and gold wedding with your spouse.
- See the grandchildren.
- Organize holidays for the whole family.
material goals
- Do not borrow money; on credit.
- Provide passive income.
- Open a bank account.
- Increase your savings every year.
- Putting savings in a piggy bank.
- Provide children with a solid inheritance.
- Do charity work.
- To buy a car.
- Build the house of your dreams.
sports goals
- Engage in a certain sport.
- Visit the gym.
- Participate in a marathon.
- Do the splits.
- Jump with a parachute.
- Conquer the top of the mountain.
- Learn to ride.
Spiritual Goals
- Engage in strengthening your will.
- Study books on world literature.
- Read books on personal development.
- Take a course in psychology.
- Do volunteer work.
- Enjoy every day you live.
- Express sincere gratitude.
- Achieve all set goals.
- Strengthen faith.
- Help others for free.
creative goals
- Learn to play the guitar.
- Publish a book.
- Draw a picture.
- Keep a blog or personal diary.
- Create something with your own hands.
- Open site.
- Overcome stage and audience fear.
- Learn to dance.
- Take a course in cooking.
Other purposes
- Organize a trip for parents abroad.
- Get to know your idol in person.
- Live by one day.
- Organize a flash mob.
- Get additional education.
- Forgive everyone for the wrong that has ever been done.
- Visit the sacred land.
- Expand your circle of friends.
- Shut off internet for a month.
- See the northern lights.
- Conquer your fear.
- Cultivate new good habits.
It does not matter at all whether you choose goals from those already proposed or come up with your own. The main thing is to act and not retreat before anything. As the famous German poet I.V. Goethe:
“Give a man a purpose worth living for, and he can survive in any situation.”
