Classroom hour on the topic
What does it mean to "live by the rules"
Methodology– discussion
Target: to form students' understanding of the meaning of the words "living by the rules", of the ethical understanding of the components that make up the elements of a correct life.
Educational tasks:
1. be able to work out for yourself the rules of life
2. stimulate the process of preserving the values of personal health, upbringing and education of children
Registration: on the screen are the sayings of great people:
· "In a loved one, even flaws are liked, and in an unloved person, even virtues annoy." - Omar Khayyam
· "Thank you to my enemies. If it wasn't for them, I wouldn't be where I am." - Salvador Dali
· "Our life is measured by the effort it has cost us." - Francois Mariac
· "All joys and misfortunes of people are created by their own thoughts."
Preparatory stage:
1. inform students about the topic of the upcoming class hour
2. suggest questions for preliminary consideration:
Is there a “right” life in the world?
Do you live by the rules?
Is it easy to live by the rules?
Whom do you consult in decision making situations?
· Are your parents the standard of the right life?
Introduction.
From a letter from the boy Nikolai, aged 15, to the Trust Service:
“Tell me how to live right. Life passes, and I have the impression that I did not live at all. Rather, he did not begin to live like a human being. Where to begin?... "
Each of us is used to hearing from childhood: “you can’t do that”, “it’s wrong”, “don’t go there”, “you shouldn’t talk to this person like that.” From our early childhood, our parents taught us what is good and what is bad, how to act correctly and what is not. As we grew up, these tips turned into regulations, they were imprinted on our character and turned into a certain style of behavior, unique to us. Often, we do not think about why we act the way we do. After all, that's right. There are always rules, traditions and foundations that are characteristic of the whole society as a whole and separately for each person. The rules for the whole society are formed over the centuries, and the rules for each individual are largely determined by his upbringing.
Main part.
There are people who do everything right. So there is in the world "right life", that is, life according to the rules that someone once invented for someone.
Life, subject to a rule, regulation, ritual, an external script, is extremely convenient - there is no need to make plans and think about your prospects or doubt. A person is relieved of the burden of choice: in every situation he knows how to act, and if he does not know, then knowledgeable and authoritative people will prompt him.
Who can advise you in such a situation?
To live by the rules, you need to become member of a group of people for which these rules are written. First, n fresh-born, in addition to his desires, is a family member, a future citizen of the state, one of the representatives of the human community as a whole. Secondly, an adult person can become a member of a group, join a political party, go to work in a corporation, become a mafia or a military man. He will obey the rules of the group of which he considers himself and the people around him consider himself a member.
Birth, infancy, nursery, Kindergarten, school, graduation, admission to study at a university, technical school, service, work, marriage or marriage, the birth of children, children's weddings, careers, pensions, funerals - this is a simple scenario of a person's life. The script could have varied with improvisations and accidents, illnesses, divorces, trips abroad, conflicts at work and winnings in the lottery, but these are just details.
Life according to the rules, according to a pre-written scenario, is possible in the absence of external processes that destroy tradition and traditional life: catastrophes, external and civil wars, revolutions, social reforms change the scenarios of life fixed in culture. In addition, the person himself, living according to the scenario, should not resort to attempts to change this scenario and make a choice. A person who lives by the rules does not bear any responsibility for changing his fate.
And can a person always live according to the established rules?
What might these extreme situations for a person?
Everyone has black streaks in life when it's very hard. But this is life, and by experiencing such moments, we become stronger and learn something. If life confronts us several times with similar moments, it means that we cannot grasp the essence of what we are doing wrong. Only by understanding this, we can move to the next level and move on.
Maybe we are doing something according to rules that have long been outdated?
Or maybe you shouldn't do everything by the rules?
I will give an example. Masha has long liked one guy, whose name was Igor. They very often crossed paths in cafes and even just on the streets in the city. Masha really wanted Igor to pay attention to her, she learned everything that was possible about him: what he does, where he studies, who he wants to work with, where he spends his free time. But she could not talk to him, and all because her mother taught Masha from childhood: “A girl should never take the first step in a relationship. It is the guy who should set the direction of movement, it is he who should be the first to speak with the girl and seek her hand and heart.. For Masha, this became the rule, despite the fact that it contradicted her inner feelings and established foundations. modern society. Masha never got to know him. And then I suffered for a very long time about it. And everything could have turned out quite differently if Masha had listened to her heart ...
How do you assess this situation?
In fact, our whole life consists of rules, only we adhere to some, and break others. Each person must work out his own rules for himself: what is good and what is bad. And it is these rules (they can also be called principles) that will guide him through life. These principles will largely depend from human education.
I'll give you an example. Blockade Leningrad. Shop. Huge queue. Workers unload boxes of food. And suddenly, one box is torn and sweets are poured onto the ground. But no one rushed in a hurry and under the guise of picking up a candy and putting it in his pocket, despite the difficult blockade time. Don't dare!
What character trait is present here? ( Answer. A manifestation of the degree of his upbringing)
Exact compliance with the instructions eliminates the need to think. After all, 80 or 99% of all our personal problems have already been encountered in the life experiences of other people and can be solved by standard means. History should teach the wisdom of life.
"Life by the rules" is the life of the majority. This is the most ancient and most stable form of human existence. And always the majority will choose this option, because it guarantees a long and "correct" life.
The values of personal health, upbringing and education of children come first.
Is it easy to live by the rules?
Our life is subject to certain norms and rules. How important is it to follow them? To what extent can stereotypes protect us from some difficulties and problems, and to what extent can they harm us?
Even when we were children, parents explained how the world around us works. We were told that we need to cross the road on green, that the fly agaric is inedible, that the dog can bite if offended. Rules are necessary for our consciousness to feel the stability of the world. For better predictability of events. For a sense of confidence in the future. Rules turn into harmful stereotypes when they unnecessarily restrict our inner and outer freedom. When we use them blindly without testing their effectiveness. When we believe all life our grandmother, who in our five years said that girlfriends are evil or that a real man does not cry. Check the rules, leaving only the effective ones. Then they will benefit you.
Do you have proven, effective rules?
Is it possible to live without paying for anything “with oneself, with one’s mind and strength”?
Yes, you can live like this. But then you won't keep yourself whole.
Example. Imagine a person (these are still sometimes found) who cares more than anything about his precious peace and well-being. He feels good, he even considers himself happy. He gets up in the morning, his wife serves him breakfast, he goes to work. It doesn't matter where and by whom he works: as a locksmith, teacher, artist, shoemaker, doctor ... It doesn't matter, because, not wanting to pay with himself, this person does not get joy from his work. He serves his seven hours - at the factory, at school, in the theater, in the workshop, in the clinic - and hurries home. He has no friends: after all, friends need to give a piece of themselves, but he does not want to do this. Here he goes up the stairs, enters the apartment. His wife serves him dinner. Most likely, she does not work, she pays with herself so that her husband can live in peace ... Most likely, they do not have children: children make noise, interfere. But even if there is a child, he falls silent so as not to disturb his father, he does not run, does not play, does not ask questions - he also pays for his father's calmness. The evening passes quietly, watching TV or reading a newspaper. The neighbors daughter fell ill, the noise of the TV disturbs her. Our hero does not turn it off: why would he pay with his pleasure for someone else's well-being? The night comes, and the next morning, and everything starts all over again, and this is how life goes!
You will say that in this picture the colors are thickened. Well, maybe that's the way it is. Maybe some living, specific Ivan Ivanovich will turn off, “so be it,” the TV, so as not to interfere with the sick girl. But is that the point!
Ivan Ivanovich "knows how to live", from his point of view. He is even happy, from his point of view. He may be rich, from his point of view: he has money, a TV, an apartment, crystal vases, carpets. And from our point of view, he does not know how to live, he is unhappy, he is a beggar, a mental cripple.
Are you familiar with this situation?
Can this neighbor earn your respect?
Did he give warmth and respect to you?
What should he get in return? ( Answer. Indifference.)
He who does not pay with his own money does not receive anything - that's the point! He does not receive joy, fun, satisfaction with work, the delight of friendship, love, admiration for nature, a calm conscience, human gratitude, human respect - he does not receive anything. Moreover, he who does not pay with himself cannot “keep himself whole. To keep yourself whole means to use in life everything that nature has given you. Don't be a "dog in the manger"
How will you save yourself if you don't spend?
So, there is a choice: you can live without paying for anything, but without receiving anything. And it is possible otherwise.
How to teach a child to follow elementary rules and is it worth it?
Rules exist everywhere: on the street, at a party, at home, in public places. It will be easier for you to fulfill them if you understand the meaning - why they exist.
Whose rules have you learned? Whose rules do you remember best? Which were presented to you in the kindergarten, at school, at home, in the family, on the street?
(Answer. parents at home)
A very important role in the upbringing of the rules of behavior is played by the parental example.
The child automatically learns the rules accepted in the family. It is in the family, at the common table, that the child develops (or does not develop) good manners. So before making comments to a three-year-old toddler, look at yourself. If dad does not thank mom for dinner or does not wash his hands before eating, then you should not expect a different behavior from the child. Children quickly adopt the behavior of adults: if parents speak with their mouths full, sit lounging, put their elbows on the table or eat with their hands, then it is hardly possible to demand a different behavior from the baby.
I'll give you another example. Recently, the film "Kin" was shown with the last role of Nonna Mordyukova. There is such a scene. A mother gives her daughter a slap on the back of the head for eating jam with a spoon, straight from a jar. The offended daughter leaves, and the mother takes a spoon and begins to eat this jam, also from a jar.
The child is mirror reflection parents. And the task of parents is to behave as they require from their child.
“I drew my life from the spring well of the experience of the family in which I grew up,” said Oleg Borisov.
Then I remembered the words Sebastian Brandt:
The child learns what he sees in his home,
His parents are an example to him.
Who is rude with his wife and children, who loves the language of debauchery,
Let him remember that he will more than receive from them everything that he teaches them,
Where the abbot is not the enemy of wine, all the brethren are drunk-drunk.
It was not the wolf who brought up the sheep, the father gave the cancer a walk.
If children see us and hear us, we are responsible for our deeds and for our words:
It's easy to push kids down the wrong path.
Keep your house in order, so as not to repent later.
Final part. Reflection.
Guys, what century are we living in?(21)
And what is it called?(age of speeds, high nanotechnologies, …)
Can life itself do without these rules?(No)
Imagine that we work in the Trust Service.
What advice can we give Nicholas?
What will we answer him?
Is it easy to give advice in such situations?
What does it mean to "live by the rules"?
Answer Nicholas.
Nicholas, hello. I am a student of ... class. I want to support you and say a few words related to your question. Do not despair, you have already begun to live! The fact that you have reviewed your behavior and critically reacted to your life means that you are already living. And I want to believe that your life will be worthy. Good luck on your new path!
Does the topic of the right life seem relevant, and if so, why?
Did you manage to learn something new?
And I want to finish with the words of Francois Mariac "Our life is measured by the efforts that it cost us."
Social studies test What does it mean to live by the rules for grade 7 students with answers. The test includes 2 options, each option has 9 tasks.
1 option
1. Grade 7 students answered the question: "What role do rules play in people's lives?" One of the answers was wrong. Find it.
1) Rules help in resolving controversial issues.
2) Rules are needed to evaluate actions.
3) Rules organize the activities of people.
4) Rules always force people to act contrary to their own interests and desires.
2.
Behavior conforming to norms, society recognizes
1) normalized
2) legal
3) productive
4) conscious
3.
Punishment, suggestion, reprimand, __________
1) rule
2) norm
3) sanction
4) dismissal
4. Specify a situation or an example of the action of a formal norm.
1) Graduates often come to school and meet with students.
2) If you want to be healthy, exercise.
3) At the intersection, the driver turned on the turn signal.
4) On weekends, the Ivanovs always go to the dacha.
5.
When a person repeats certain actions, __________ (A) occurs. Most of them are formed __________ (B), under the influence of the situation in which people often find themselves. The stereotype of behavior that has developed in this way allows a person to act __________ (B).
Word list
1) ritual
2) consciously
3) habit
4) spontaneously
5) efficient
6. Choose the correct statements.
1) Social sanctions include only punishments.
2) Norms can prescribe the actions of people or prohibit them.
3) Laws exist in writing.
7. Fill in the gap in the table.
8. Divide the following situations into two groups, depending on the degree of binding norms they illustrate.
A. Rules
B. Norms-expectations
1) military personnel salute the banner
2) Igor was in a hurry for a friend's birthday
3) if a woman enters the room, the men stand up
4) citizens pay taxes on their income
5) you can wear white shoes with a red dress
6) you need to protect nature
9. summarizes
1) custom
2) etiquette
3) norm
4) law
5) tradition
Option 2
1. Grade 7 students answered the question: “What are the rules for?” One of the answers was wrong. Find it.
1) Rules are meant to establish order in society.
2) Rules always make life difficult for people.
3) Rules are needed to organize the activities of people.
4) Rules help to interact in disputable situations.
2. Choose the correct sentence ending.
Sanctions are ways
1) rewarding or punishing people
2) fulfillment of social norms
3) planning joint activities
4) creating new social norms
3. Complete the list by choosing a term from those suggested below.
Custom, etiquette, tradition, __________
1) law
2) labor
3) game
4) duty
4. Specify a situation or an example of the operation of an informal norm.
1) Upon taking office, the President of the Russian Federation takes an oath to the people.
2) Laws in the Russian Federation are adopted by the State Duma.
3) Maria Ivanovna put her son in a child seat and fastened her seat belt.
4) According to family tradition, on the grandson's birthday, the grandmother bakes pies with berries.
5. Fill in the gaps in the text by choosing the correct options from the list. Please note that there are more suggested answers than gaps, and they are given in the original grammatical form (nominative, singular).
Rules of conduct are an important __________ (A) public relations. By fulfilling them, you observe __________ (B) established by society. Society uses various __________ (B) to reward legitimate behavior or punish negative behavior.
Word list
1) law
2) sanction
3) regulator
4) order
5) example
6. Choose the correct statement.
1) Social norms are features of the character or psyche of a person.
2) Rules traffic These are informal rules.
3) Non-compliance with norms-expectations is not welcomed, but it is not forbidden in society either.
7. Fill in the gap in the table.
8. Divide the following situations into two groups, depending on the direction of the norms they illustrate.
A. Prescriptive norms
B. Prohibitions
1) the law requires that all children receive an education
2) parking of vehicles on the lawn is prohibited
3) the conductor must not open the doors of the car until the train has come to a complete stop
4) you can not sell alcoholic beverages and cigarettes to minors
5) it is recommended to go to the theater in smart clothes
6) it is necessary to protect historical and cultural monuments
9. Find a word (concept) that summarizes all other concepts listed, and write down the number under which it is indicated.
1) dismissal
2) awarding an honorary diploma
3) suggestion
4) sanction
5) applause
Answers to the test in social studies What does it mean to live by the rules
1 option
1-4
2-2
3-4
4-3
5-345
6-23
7-custom
8. A146 B235
9-3
Option 2
1-2
2-1
3-1
4-4
5-342
6-3
7-etiquette
8. A156 B234
9-4
Express your opinion about the dispute between two seventh graders.
Peter. Rules interfere with people's lives, so people often break them.
Larisa. Rules are needed. If there were no rules, people would simply not know what to do.
Variety of rules
As you know, Winnie the Pooh believed that it was better to visit in the morning, and to cross the street at any traffic light, but always in the crowd. Not all Winnie the Pooh's rules seem perfect. Can there be rules for all occasions? Can the rules be the same for everyone? To answer these questions, let's try to understand the world of rules.
It seems that the rules have always existed. According to the rules of child care, you were fed on time and walked with you. Playing with peers, you agreed on the rules of the game and took offense at those who violated these rules. When the time came, you went to school. There are a lot more rules here. They surround you from all sides. Rules in textbooks teach how to write, read, count. The rules of student behavior prescribe not to be late, not to litter, not to make noise during the lesson, etc. But there are also fire safety rules, traffic rules, rules of conduct in public transport, etc.
In the very word “rules” one hears “correctly”, “rights”. In the dictionary of V. I. Dahl, it is written: “A rule is a law, or a decree, or legalization, a basis for action in these cases, under certain circumstances.” A wise connoisseur of the Russian language noticed that the rule is most often associated with the established procedure for actions under certain circumstances. Therefore, rules are created so that people can successfully act in certain cases. Rules are otherwise called norms.
Rules or norms govern the actions of people. Society recognizes behavior that complies with the rules as legitimate and considers it the norm.
Society has many rules or social norms. Let's get acquainted with some of them.
social norms
It is possible to group the rules in force in society in another way: according to the severity of the measures that are applied to violators, according to the number of people they are designed for.
"The habit from above is given to us..."
Many social norms have developed a very long time ago, it seems that they have always existed. Some of these norms are dictated by convenience or common sense. With the onset of spring, you change winter clothes for lighter ones. When you meet a friend, you say hello. At the same time, you may not even think about why you do it. When you repeat certain actions, a habit develops. Most habits are acquired by people spontaneously, under the influence of situations in which compliance with the norm gives the desired result. No wonder they say that habit is second nature. And they say that a habit is a stereotype of behavior.
Not all habits are beneficial. There are bad and even dangerous habits. They can't be classified as rules. No one will argue that it is harmful to read while lying down, to chat while eating. Hazardous habits include smoking, drinking alcohol and drugs. Because of such addictions, people develop serious illnesses. Many people who use alcohol and drugs die young. And how many people die just because they are not accustomed to obey the rules of the road!
There are habits that have long been active in large groups of people. Such collective habits are called habits. Most often, these include rules or patterns of action approved by society. Customs are inherited from ancestors, passed down from generation to generation. Customs played a special role in ancient times, when their observance was considered as an indispensable condition for maintaining order, the usual way of life.
Customs are closely intertwined with special actions performed by special persons in strict sequence - rituals. Here, too, there are rules. They establish who, in what order, with the help of what words, gestures or objects, performs actions. Let us recall, for example, how in the Middle Ages an important ritual of knighting took place (girdling with a sword, etc.).
Modern rituals are also solemn and important. For example, admission to higher educational institution accompanied by a ritual of initiation into students. Freshmen pronounce a special oath, receive gifts. Solemn speeches are made in their honor, the students' anthem sounds.
A set of actions established by customs or rituals is commonly called rituals. Often the rites are performed during ceremonies. For example, the famous tea ceremony in Japan includes special outfits for participants, the use of special items, a special order for preparing tea, a leisurely conversation, contemplation of the beauty and harmony of the world.
Etiquette and good manners
You, of course, had to deal with situations when they say about a person: "He does not know how to behave, he has bad manners, he does not know the rules of etiquette."
Etiquette is a system of rules of conduct accepted in certain social circles that make up a single whole. These rules have evolved over the centuries, many of them have gone down in history forever, and some have remained. Sometimes new rules of etiquette appear before our eyes.
Look at the drawings. The artist joked and confused all the rules of etiquette. Explain how to follow the rules.
External forms of human behavior that receive a positive or negative assessment of others are called manners. Of course, not everyone whose manners correspond to the rules of etiquette is automatically considered a well-mannered or delicate person. To become such, you need to cultivate an internal culture, respect for people.
So, let's sum up. Being close to other people, you meet with a lot of rules that have long become social norms. Rules regulate relations between people, help to perform socially approved actions and avoid what society does not recognize and condemn.
Rules (or social norms) serve as a standard, a model of behavior. They help keep order in society.
These rules allow you to anticipate other people's reactions to your actions. When a person follows these rules, he can be sure that his actions will not cause inconvenience to others, will not run into their rejection or condemnation. It is worth following the rules in all cases: both when there are a lot of people around, and when there is no one nearby. In this case, following social norms becomes a habit, becomes an integral feature of character.
The rules of behavior in society can be both relatively mild wishes and strict prohibitions, for the violation of which one has to answer to the state. These rules will be discussed in the next section.
Let's check ourselves
- What are the rules of conduct? Name as many types of such rules as you can.
- What are habits? Give examples of good and bad habits.
- What do you know about customs and rituals? Why do many of them, having arisen in ancient times, still exist today?
- Why do society have rules of etiquette?
In class and at home
- Among the many rules that you must comply with, there are the most important ones. What rules do you refer to as the best? Explain why.
- What are the rules in the following text? “The successor asked him: “With what intention do you want to join the knightly society?” The newly ordained responded to him in accordance with the words previously spoken by the bishop. He immediately took an oath of allegiance to him as his overlord. Then, at the order of the latter, he began to dress him in knightly armor. The knights were engaged in this business, ladies and young girls helped them. First, they attached a left spur to him, then a right one, put on chain mail, and after all they girded him with a sword ... "
- Sanctions are usually applied for violation of the established rules. The dictionary defines sanctions as measures of influence, punishments applied to violators of established norms and rules. There may also be positive sanctions, such as applause for an actor or musician for performing skills. But most often, when talking about sanctions, they mean the first meaning of this word.
What sanctions are meant in the following children's rhyme? "Three-four-five, I'm going to look. It's time, not time, I'm coming from the yard. Ready or not, here I come. Whoever stands behind me, to lead three horses. - Compiled at the direction of Peter I, the book “An Honest Mirror of Youth, or an Indication for Worldly Behavior, Collected from Various Authors” said: “No one dares to hang his head and downcast eyes down the street or look askance at people, but straight, not bent over walk, and keep your head straight, and look at people cheerfully and pleasantly with graceful constancy, so that they don’t say: he looks slyly at people.
translate this rule into modern language explain its meaning. - What do you think, what rules of etiquette appeared in the XX - early XXI in.? Explain the reasons for their appearance and the significance in people's lives.
Learning to communicate on the Internet
Setiquet
(from the basic rules of conduct on the Internet)
Remember that when you use a computer connection, there is no face of the interlocutor in front of you, there is only a monitor screen.
There are no emotions, no facial expressions, gestures - only words, text just typed on the keyboard. In such a situation, it is important not to forget that the interlocutor is not a high-speed computer, but quite real person with your views.
In online (network) communication, it is very easy to misinterpret the words of an opponent.
Before writing anything, decide whether it is realistic to say the same text to a person in person.
Be concise and write to the point. No one will read a long message.
Remember that illiterate letters with a lot of errors usually cause irritation. If you're not sure about spelling, ask the help of a spell checker.
Don't expect all your questions to be answered immediately.
Shouldn't be sent email strangers.
When visiting popular file servers, be aware of the existence of other users. Put yourself in their place.
While someone randomly scrolls through the lists of files, others see the message "Server too busy" - the system is overloaded.
If you know and can do more than others, this is not a reason to teach and make comments. If you cannot do without comments, make them politely and correctly.
Most importantly, do not forget to put yourself in the place of other Internet users.
There are people who live general rules, but there are people who live by their own rules. Let's understand a little.
How they live ordinary people? Do they follow the rules? Yes, they do. But whose rules are these? These are different rules. People simply obey some routine, some way of life. "Just like others".
This is neither good nor bad. It just is. And what does their life look like? Monotonously. Home-work-home. Such people are not interested in anything. Nothing pleases them. Most often they complain about their lives. They complain about the government, about circumstances, about others, about neighbors, about the boss, about the husband / wife, about everyone. The only entertainment is series or football with beer. Here, who cares.
And such people are not to blame for the fact that they live this way and not otherwise. It's just that no one taught them, didn't tell them what could and should be done differently. They are zombified by the news on TV. They fall under the influence of the general gray mass, where everything new and unusual is perceived with hostility. Where a step to the left, a step to the right, are regarded as an attempt to escape. Where any group of like-minded people is called a sect.
And it is not necessary to understand what is really happening there. The main thing is to quickly stigmatize, blacken, label and be proud of yourself, for about five minutes, for not falling under the influence of "sectarians". And again the TV, accusations, complaints ...
How do the rich and famous live?
You may be surprised, but they live by their own rules. They have clearly defined laws of their lives, which they adhere to. Everyone has their own laws, their own rules and principles. But the essence is basically the same. This is a focus on the goal, this is devotion to values, this is a willingness to accept new things, and faith in oneself, faith in others. Respect for people. Anyone.
Recently I happened to be in the company of smart, rich and quite famous people. I could observe their behavior, their mannerisms. Listen to what they say, see what they do. And even communicate with them. And it turned out that this simple people. They are not arrogant, not prim. They greet everyone. Everyone smiles. They are always ready to help. But not everyone.
They do charity work, helping those who cannot cope on their own. But, if you come to ask for a loan, they will refuse you. But if you ask for advice, in the case that you are going to start, then they will tell you where you can come across pitfalls and how to get around them.
And what do you choose? Write your own rules and live by them? Or merge with the gray mass and complain and blame?
Personally, I chose the first option. I wrote down my rules for life. I wrote down my rules of the day. And now I live by them. And my life began to improve.
I don't have time to complain. And not for anyone. I'm fine. And every day it gets better!
Do you have your own rules? Write in the comments!
From childhood, we are told about how to behave, at school lessons are devoted to the basics in society, only one thing is firmly remembered from all this mishmash: “you need to live by the rules.” But who came up with these rules and why it is so necessary to observe them, no one is in a hurry to tell for some reason. So it turns out that entering adult life, we find ourselves at a crossroads, no one is following the behavior, and you can forget about all the rules ... or not?
What does it mean to "live by the rules"?Try to remember important rules, which were taught in childhood, something like “do not offend the little ones” and “knife in right hand, the fork is in the left. But in order to outline a clear line of conduct, this is clearly not enough. So, what does it mean to live by the rules - to say hello to all the neighbors, to remember the biblical commandments, or to puzzle further, trying to remember the rest of the parental instructions? The worst thing is that there is no single answer to this question, and everyone will have to find their own way, and here's why.
Try to imagine a person who believes that living by the rules means following all the existing recommendations, following all signs and moral standards. The picture is creepy, isn't it? Apparently, some standards will have to be abandoned in order not to become their hostage. And the youthful maximalism that walks through the veins completely whispers that a person who lives by the rules is not only incredibly boring, but also will never be able to achieve, neither in his career, nor in personal life. So can completely abandon them, and live the way you want?
Such thoughts come to everyone’s mind, and many really try to give up any restrictions whatsoever, but after a while they notice that in similar situations they act in the same way, that is, they build a certain line of behavior. It turns out that you need to live by the rules, but only by those that are invented independently. This does not oblige them to be unique; most likely, most of the principles of life will be extremely common. What is important here is not originality, but the independence of the choice of certain rules. Because those who come from outside, they will be perceived as imposed instructions, not supported by any reasonable explanations or their own experience. Therefore, do not be afraid to look for your own rules of life, even if you first have to forget about all authoritative opinions.
