In every person's life, it has happened at least once to listen to insults. Whether intentionally or through negligence, dignity and honor have been desecrated! Insult carries a splash negative emotions caused by various factors. Knowing these reasons, you can competently respond to an insult or react correctly to it. People are characterized by various manifestations of certain emotions, but it is not always possible to restrain such manifestations. And then, in a rough form, a negative assessment of the personality is given. But if you know how to correctly respond to insults, then the offender himself will be the victim.
Why do people resort to insults?
Before reacting to insults and starting to respond to them, you need to determine what caused the aggression.
- Self-affirmation. By insulting an opponent, a person thereby wants to elevate himself. Aggression is a sign of internal fears, worries, complexes and self-doubt. Therefore, wanting to increase self-esteem, a person resorts to various kinds of insults. You should show pity to such a person and make it clear that he will not establish himself at your expense.
- An outburst of emotions. Sometimes too much negativity accumulates in a person. And falling under the hot hand is an opportunity to hear a lot of new things about yourself. In this case, the person will later apologize himself; he just needs help to calm down.
- Playing for the public. Such people receive a huge energy charge from scandals in public. The main thing here is to let the person understand that you are not the hero of his action-packed comedy. To remain indifferent in this case means to remain a winner.
- Upbringing. More precisely, its absence. The causes of aggressive behavior go back to early childhood, characterized by permissiveness and indulgence. An ill-mannered person only has a disgusted attitude.
- Bad day or Monday syndrome. There are Mondays in every person's life, and not necessarily on the first day of the week. A difficult day is accompanied by emotional disorders, which provokes the release of the negativity accumulated during the day. The best option is to say that you understand what caused the aggression, and ask the person not to take negativity out on you.
- Rivalry. It gives rise to the most powerful insults that discredit honor and dignity. Such insults cannot be ignored; it is necessary to give the person a worthy rebuff.
The reaction to an insult also depends on who the offender is.
- Husband/wife, relative. If these are people from your inner circle, then you need to try as much as possible to maintain warm relations between you. Family quarrels are temporary and are accompanied by accumulated claims and are resolved at a round table.
- Friend. If a friend did this, then you should definitely find out the reason that prompted him to insult. As soon as the details emerge, you will have to decide: to forgive or is it better to refuse such a friend?!
- Boss. Most office workers hear insults from their bosses. This is either a form of communication or personal hostility. In any case, the first one will be recognized on its own, but the second one needs to be found out. But you should never react violently to your boss’s aggression. You can imagine him in funny and absurd situations or just use a smile, this will give him confidence. The boss will see your resilience and recognize your psychological advantage.
- Strangers. Here is a great opportunity to show calmness, education and intelligence.
How to competently respond to an insult in various situations?
- Have you encountered a “troll”? The best weapon against him is ignoring. For trolls, aggressive attack is a way of life. Therefore, in order to prevent them from causing discord in society, it is enough to simply ignore them or direct all the power of the intellect at them. For example, you can answer that you would say a lot, but you are worried that it is unlikely that his limited mind will realize and accept this information.
- Unfounded criticism of your work. Thank the person for their opinion and tell them that it means others will definitely like it.
- Criticism of appearance. Remarks about appearance can seriously damage self-esteem if you take them to heart. To the attack: “What bruises under your eyes! Just terrible!”, You can answer that this is a consequence of a stormy night, adding a satisfied smile.
- Notes on clothing. Such jabs often concern the financial situation of your family or you personally and can be very offensive. To the statement: “You only dress in cheap stores!”, you can answer that any thing looks beautiful and advantageous on your figure.
« And how much do you earn?», « Don't you want to give birth to a second one?», « When will you get married?», « You're getting a divorce, right?“- probably, each of us has had to find ourselves in an awkward situation when a curious interlocutor really wanted to get information that you do not want to share, and then regret the direction this conversation took.
We present to your attention several strategies that will help you answer the most tricky questions and feel great at the same time. If you follow our advice, you won’t have to fumble for words in a real situation.
When answering unpleasant questions, you have every right not to give the interlocutor any specific information. Behave like the programmer from the joke, who answered the question of the lost Holmes and Watson traveling in a hot air balloon absolutely correctly, but at the same time his words were of no use.
– Sir, can you tell us where we are?
- In the basket hot air balloon, sir!
Or give general, but also not very useful information.
– How much do you earn?
– As everybody, average salary by industry(significantly less than Abramovich).
2. “Mirroring”
“Return” the interlocutor his question. This can be done using two simple techniques.
1) Formulate the “request” in such a way that the person you are talking to feels uncomfortable about their interest. Use a universal construction that begins with the words " I understand correctly that...“, and its end will depend solely on whether you continue communication, whether you want to “build” your personal boundaries, etc.: “ Do I understand correctly that you wouldn't mind holding a candle in my bedroom?", or " Do I understand correctly that your main problem today is my personal life?", or " Do I understand correctly that interest in other people’s troubles is in the order of things for you?" It’s great if you say all this in a very polite, very calm, icy tone and don’t make any gestures, except maybe raise one eyebrow in surprise.
2) “Strengthen” interest in a given topic by addressing your interlocutor with a counter question from the same category:
– When are you going to give birth to your second?
– Are you the third?
3. “One-man show”
Having heard some unpleasant question, you can always imagine yourself as a great dramatic actress, look soulfully into the eyes of your interlocutor, take a deep breath, press your hands to your chest (if you wish, you can “break” your fingers), portray an abyss of despair and say in a tragic voice: “ I beg you! Never, you hear me, never ask me about this!».
The second option is that you portray a person giving a press conference (we will not name specific names, but we recommend paying attention to the persons in the first echelon of power) and say the phrase: “ Next question please!" The third version is for fans of the series “Univer”. Remember the karateka Eduard Kuzmin (aka Kuzya) and say: “ This is classified information!».
4. “I’m not a bore, I’m not a bore, I’m not a bore!”
Instead of being offended, angry, or otherwise demonstrating that your interlocutor’s question has offended you, start answering in an even, monotonous voice. The most important thing is the details. Give the smallest details and start very far away!
– When will you get married?
– Astrologers say that for a happy marriage it is necessary that the ascendants of the lovers converge(don’t ask us what ascendants are and whether they should actually converge - any abstruse theory that your counterpart is not very versed in will do, even a “star chart”, even a sharp turn in the life line, even the Nazdak index). And that’s the moment when I realize that I’ve met my soulmate and check if we’re right for each other(you will have to clarify where and what time he was born), then I will tell him: “Yes.” And not a minute sooner.
5. Just kidding, it's annoying!
–My God, how much did you spend on this dress?
– I had to starve for two weeks, but what can’t you do for fashion!
Universal answers:
“I admire your ability to ask questions that baffle!” Or: " You are an amazing woman (amazing man), do you know what has always amazed me about you? This is your ability to ask incorrect (complex, rhetorical) questions!”
“I’ll be happy to answer your question, just tell me first why you’re so interested in this?”
“For what purposes are you interested?”
“Do you really want to talk about this?”. If you hear an affirmative "Yes", boldly retort: “ But I do not want", - and smile.
If you don't want to have anything more to do with a person who asks insensitive questions, you can afford a little more. For example, note in response: “ It's my damn business.".
Everyone experiences rudeness from time to time. This can happen on the street, in the office. We often hear insults on public transport and when communicating online. In order not to become a victim of a boor, and not to be fooled by his provocation, you need to properly fight back and give decent answers. This article is dedicated to exactly this. After reviewing the information offered in it, you will learn how to respond to an insult.
There is no need to respond to offensive phrases with silence and fists. It is better to remain calm and politely return a “compliment”.
Life situations are different. And if you don’t learn how to respond to them correctly, you can waste your nerves. And, what’s worse, you can also become the culprit of a provocative conflict. Therefore, below we suggest that you familiarize yourself with how to behave if you are insulted. And also how to competently respond to the offender.
Insulting a person can lead to a dead end. In such situations, it is difficult to know how to react. To save your nerves, it is useful to know the following recommendations:
Controlling emotions and learning to fight back
Initially, try to surround yourself positive people. Communicate with sincere and cheerful people. This way you can definitely avoid insults. However, if such a situation arises, know how to competently defend yourself and respond with dignity. The advice of a psychologist will come to the rescue.
It is worth thinking about your self-esteem. By increasing its level, it will be possible to easily and quickly respond to the insult of a boor. In addition, a person with a strong spirit and self-confidence is much less likely to be rude.
Options for responding to provocation
If you had to communicate with a negative person, you should not show him your feelings. Express your point of view with confidence and firmness. Speak relaxed. Often, weak people say provocative and touchy phrases. Their “strength” is your weakness. Stay calm and don't get defensive.
In situations where, when talking with the offender, you feel that patience is coming to an end, sneeze. No matter how strange it may sound, this method works. It is considered relevant when insults from the mouth of a boor “flow” in an endless stream. After waiting for the right moment, sneeze loudly. This will create a long pause. You can take advantage of it by turning the situation in your direction. So, for example, after a sneeze, offer the offender the following response: “Sorry, I’m allergic to nonsense.”.
This method will help in situations where an altercation occurs in the company of people you know or employees. It consists of redirecting negativity and aggression towards the rude person himself. It is enough for you to agree with the offender and praise him for wasting his precious time criticizing you. Learn to respond competently in such situations. Form your phrases correctly to hide snarkiness.
This method is used by netizens to respond beautifully to rudeness. Mainly administrators and moderators of virtual communities. Some people ignore the rules written by the management of sites and forums. This usually happens when any disputes arise during the participant’s stay in the community. For example, if he is denied access for a violation, the person may respond with rudeness. The simplest argument is to “ban” a character. If you need to point out his mistakes, proving that you are right, describe them dryly and without emotion. Reading such a text (list), a person will cool down.
Ignore the other person. This method of dealing with rudeness and insults is the most common.
It allows you to give a response worthy of the offender. Using this technique, you can respond beautifully and safely get rid of the rude person. Although silence is not always effective. You need to look at the situation. It may be necessary to “turn on” complete indifference in response to the interlocutor’s attempts to gain attention and piss you off. Treat it like empty space.
How to avoid conflicts when communicating online?
Regarding online communication, in general, you can adhere to the previously given response options. But there are specifics on how to respond to online insults.
Original options that allow you to repel the enemy
Non-standard situations often arise when only witty responses to insults can throw the offender into a stupor. For such cases, here is a list of possible answers:
- “I don’t know what you’re eating, but it works. Your intelligence is slowly but surely going to zero."
- “To impress me, you will finally have to say something smart.”
- “Your teeth reminded me of the stars: they are just as yellow and are so far from each other...”
- "Just because you look terrible doesn't give you the right to act like one."
- “Are you really like this or is this your image?”
- “Were you the same as a child or prettier?”
- "You're so clever! Are you, by any chance, cramping your skull?
These and other witty answers will help you beautifully and tactfully remove the enemy from the “battlefield.”
And if the altercation took place in front of your colleagues, your reputation is guaranteed not to suffer. Unlike the person who hurled an insult at your expense.
No one can give an exact answer on how to competently respond to an insult. Life situations are different. Therefore, first analyze what happened in order to give the offender a worthy rebuff.
, is a criticism. It can hurt your feelings and affect your self-esteem. Sometimes criticism is so upsetting that you accept even unfair comments and worry about it. We learn to respond correctly to critical comments from our boss and colleagues.
In fact, criticism can be both realistic and fair and unfounded. You can criticize tactfully or harshly, in private or in front of an audience. And it happens that a person behaves incorrectly. In some cases this behavior becomes standard model. Let's look at several ways to respond to criticism: fair and unfair.
How to respond to fair criticism
Accept criticism. The simplest thing is to agree with the comments without showing guilt, making excuses or apologizing. We all make mistakes, and the best thing to do is admit the mistake, correct it, draw the necessary conclusions and move on. They say that those who do nothing make no mistakes.
Supervisor:"You didn't do a very good job."
You:“Yes, I agree. I’ll try to change it.”
Another option is to accept the negative feedback but immediately ask for more information from the critic. Ask any clarifying questions—absolutely any—about what you hear. In fact, it doesn't matter what you ask - with this technique you "dilute" the criticism and demonstrate that you are confident and in control of the situation.
Supervisor:"You didn't have a very good meeting."
You:“Yes, it wasn’t very effective. In your opinion, did the problems arise at the beginning of the meeting or later?”
What to do if criticism is unfair?
For various reasons, undeserved criticism hurts more than fair criticism. Familiarize yourself with three types of reactions to unfair criticism, not forgetting that life is unfair to everyone. Then the unpleasant situation will pass less painfully.
Disagree with criticism. The main thing is to remain calm and friendly. Pause briefly and then gently disagree with the comment. For example:
Colleague:"You're always late for meetings."
You:“Well, I’m not always late... It may have happened once or twice, but I’m definitely not always late.”
Ask for more information. You can ask follow-up questions in a friendly and enthusiastic manner to get more information until your critic regrets ever bringing up the topic!
Avoid a direct answer. Try to avoid a direct answer, veil the situation, let it become unclear; do not deny or confirm anything, do not give your critic information that he could cling to. This way his remarks will miss the mark. From the outside it looks like the criticism was accepted, but had virtually no effect on you. This behavior discourages undeserved criticism of you in the future.
With a little practice you can master this art. Words like “maybe”, “probably”, “maybe” will make any topic vague. Or try answering using the following phrases: “You may be right, things happen...”, “It’s hard to say for sure...”, “There is some truth in what you say...”
How to deal with hidden criticism?
Sometimes colleagues or managers express comments and complaints openly, and this can be quite difficult to deal with. But from time to time we all face hidden criticism - manipulation and indirect aggression. Sometimes people don't even realize that they are saying offensive and unpleasant things. You know how it goes. Here are some examples:
- Don't worry, leave everything as it is. I'll take care of it myself.
-Are you sure your method is the best?
“Haven’t you finished your report yet?”
Comments of this kind are usually made in a friendly manner, sometimes even with a smile, but there is a vague feeling that you have been criticized, although you are not entirely sure of this. This is the “smiling killer”. You are lost in search of an answer, and in the meantime the moment has passed. Or perhaps you instinctively sense that you are being attacked and display irritation and anger. However, the interlocutor immediately takes on an astonished look and says something like:
- What? What did I say? “I didn’t mean that at all... you’re overreacting.”
- You made it all up... you're so touchy... you have a problem with perception.
Such comments make a person feel unimportant and undermine his self-confidence. Remember, such critical comments towards you can become a habit if you allow them, as it is difficult to prove that they are insults or aggression. So how should you respond to them?
The best way is to calmly, dispassionately and without threatening to let the interlocutor understand that you perfectly understand the background of his statements. Having received such a rebuff once, most people will retreat and are unlikely to want to repeat this trick. Colleagues only behave insultingly towards you when you let them do it. Before transferring such a situation into reality, rehearse your behavior. However, only use this method if your reaction does not cause undesirable consequences.
You can agree with the remark - openly, but quite dispassionately, and accompany it with a calm comment, as in example 1 from the following table.
You can respond to an unclear statement with an equally vague phrase. This is how you covertly acknowledge hidden criticism, as in examples 2 and 3. Avoiding a direct answer will “disarm” your opponent and even disappoint him, since he will not understand whether his criticism has achieved its goal.
Here are examples different types reactions to the three cases of implicit criticism described earlier.
Discussion
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First their classmates cling to them, then their colleagues. What to do if you are called names? There is no need to panic or ignore the offender. You need to be able to stand up for yourself. How to do it? Read all the details below.
Understand the reason
If a person clings to you or begins to insult you, you need to put yourself in the position of this individual. Before deciding what to do if you are called names, try to find out why the bully is doing it. The most common reasons:
- The feeling is painful to realize that he is wrong, and when he runs out of arguments, he breaks into a scream. In a fit of outburst of emotions, you can say various nasty things.
- Inflated ego. A person with high self-esteem loves to mock others. Such individuals do not offend those who can answer them. They choose weak individuals who can be put under pressure by authority or intimidated by force.
- The desire to vent anger. All people need emotional release. Some people splash out their emotions by playing sports, some are engaged in creativity, and some insult others. What to do if you are called stupid? Think about whether the person really thinks so, or whether he had a hard day and decided to choose you as an object for emotional release.
There's no point in being offended by the obvious
Do you often get called names? Think about what offensive words are heard with enviable frequency. Perhaps they tell you that you are short, tall, or have glasses. Is this really true? What should you do if you are called names like this? Don't be offended by the truth. Yes, you may be taller than others, but this is your advantage over them, not a disadvantage. If you are short, consider this feature of your appearance as your unique feature. Do you wear glasses? There's nothing wrong with that. A person should not be upset by the truth. Make peace with your appearance and try to love it. There is nothing you can do about your physical disabilities. You need to learn to accept them. Each person is unique, and red hair, freckles, large lips or nose should not interfere with your life. Take them for granted - and then the insults will stop hurting you.
Control your emotions
Often a person is provoked by his peers for the reason that he does not know how to respond to criticism or insults. What to do if you are called names? You need to respond, but the reaction should not be explosive. Some people like to be called names for the reason that they shrink from any sidelong glance and begin to tremble or run away from the room. And some individuals try to cope with insults in a different way. They begin to scream wildly and insult the offender in response. People around you may be amused by your response to name-calling, and they will similarly have fun at your expense. Don't react to insults. Know how to control yourself. Do not let others replace your worries or some kind of mental changes during a conversation in a raised voice. If you stop reacting violently to name-calling, the offender will be bored and will soon leave you behind.
Use a sense of humor
What can defuse the situation and lift everyone's spirits? That's right, humor. You must develop the ability to quickly find the right words, preferably sarcastic ones. An answer in this spirit will amuse not only you and your offender, but also everyone who watched the altercation. In the end, the winner is always the one who knows how to better stand up for himself, and not the one who utters hurtful words. If you understand that the person insulted you not by accident, but intentionally, humor will be doubly appropriate. You can knock down the arrogance of your interlocutor.
Sample answers
How to respond to an insult funny and with sarcasm? Use template answers. For example: “Say, I always yawn when I’m interested.” The phrase is quite original. Such an expression must be accompanied by a feigned yawn. Your composure and ability to save face will impress the offender, and he will no longer pester you.
Another possible answer: “Are you interfering in my life because yours didn’t work out?” Such responses to offensive words completely whitewash you. There is no joke here. But you still need to understand who should say such a phrase and who should not.
And another option for responding to an insult could be: “Thank you for your interest in me.” By speaking in this way, you do not provoke further conversation in any way, so you can safely walk away from the offender with your head held high.
Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself
Teenagers take insults very hard. What to do if you are called names at school? A teenager must understand that it is not always his fault that he has become an object of ridicule. Therefore, one of the good ways is to laugh at yourself. This works well if they call you names not on a regular basis, but from time to time when you find yourself in the same awkward situation. For example, you may say a word incorrectly or eat a chocolate bar in such a way that you don’t look very clean after eating. Know how to laugh at your mistakes with everyone else. But still, you shouldn’t step on the same rake all the time. Having encountered unpleasant name-calling twice, try to correct your mistake so as not to constantly listen to offensive words.
Don't make yourself a victim
Who is it customary to laugh at? Over individuals who cannot control their emotions, and over people suffering from low self-esteem. What to do if a boy calls you names? Don't let others mock and insult you. Strong personalities that no one will touch. So get rid of the false shyness that your mother or grandmother imposed on you. Modesty and courtesy need to be dosed. IN modern life these qualities only make life more difficult, not better.
If you do not have physical strength, try to crush the offender with your intellect. In this case, you need to read more to not only seem smart person, but also to really be one.
Learn to accept yourself for who you are. You should not take unsubstantiated criticism and gross insults to heart.
Don't be afraid to ask a question
What to do if your friends call you names? Try to press for pity. Of course, this is the last method that you should resort to, but it can still be effective in relation to people who love and respect you. When you ask him why he did it? A person’s conscience must wake up, and he will apologize for his outburst. Even if a sense of pride did not allow your friend to apologize immediately, he will simply understand that it is difficult for you to tolerate jokes directed at you, and will change the style of communication with you. On the other hand, it would be useful to think about whether such friends are needed...
What to do if your parents call you names? Try the same trick. Ask your mom if she really means what she says. Not many people know how to control their emotions and for this reason they can offend a loved one in the heat of anger. By cooling the parents' ardor, the child has a greater chance of being heard than if he insulted adults in response.
What not to do
Man is a complex individual. Not every person is able to give reasons for his particular action. Something is done unconsciously and subconsciously. But the result of such actions will not always be positive. Sometimes a person may be dissatisfied with his behavior. Advice on how to respond to insults was given above, and now let’s look at what not to do.
- Use force. Fighting never led to anything good. A cultured person should be able to defend himself with words, not fists. It's stupid to waste your energy beating up your classmates or friends. And if this method of behavior in children can still be called acceptable, then for an adult such behavior is an indicator of low development and inadequacy.
- Seek support from elders. Children and adolescents must learn to find a way out of difficult life situations on one's own. There is no point in hiding behind your mother's skirt. Classmates and friends will not be able to respect someone who does not try to solve the problem on his own, but runs to complain to an adult about his unfair treatment.
- Cry. There is no point in publicly demonstrating your weakness. Tears are a manifestation of emotional release, but still learn to hold them back until you are alone. If you cry every time you are insulted, then offensive words will be constantly thrown at you.
- Scream. You can't respond to a scream with a scream. Know how to control your emotions and maintain composure. Do not show rage to the offender, because most often this is exactly what the person wants to achieve. Your calmness can infuriate the offender, and in the end it will be he who loses his composure, not you. Remember, victory always goes to the one who managed to save face in battle.
