The task of every person in this life is to learn to love. However, it is impossible to learn to love without achieving harmony in oneself. The article will consider 4 tips on how to achieve harmony.
The president International Association Eastern psychology astrologer Rami Blekt speaks of the need to harmonize the personality on four levels. Namely: physical, social, intellectual and spiritual.
Physical layer: it is impossible to achieve spiritual health and success at all levels if you do not take care of the body, do not monitor nutrition, breathing, the spine, do not do physical exercises, etc.
Social level: a woman should feel like a woman, and a man like a man. Nowadays, this line is blurred. Women wear trousers, short haircuts, and master primordially masculine professions. Men wear earrings, dye their hair...
You have to find your place in life. Learn those specialties that will help you realize your abilities and talents, and not those that allow you to simply earn money. A person cannot be happy if he does not do what he loves. A person is healthy and happy if he lives according to his destiny. We can achieve financial prosperity when we go about our business.
Of course, living in the material world, we cannot but pay attention to material wealth and well-being. But this should not be the main goal of life.
Intellectual level: remember not only the physical body, but also the soul. And that we are in this world temporarily and, moving from incarnation to incarnation, our main task is to learn to love! Just as the body cannot live without breath, so the soul cannot live without love.
Spiritual level: you have to live with love. The more love we have, the closer we are to God. Everything comes from divine love, it is the highest energy. Its quantity increases when we share love with people and selflessly serve our world. Only by giving love, we will receive it back into our lives. But you need to give selflessly, and not according to the principle: you - to me, I - to you.
Eastern psychology says: "If you want to be happy, make the other person happy".
If a person manages to harmonize all four levels, then the question - how to learn to love everything and everyone just like that - will disappear by itself.
However, many argue that without loving ourselves completely, we cannot love other people. Is it correct to say that you need to love yourself first? Here is what Rami Blekt says about this:
“It is correct to understand that you are part of God: no better and no worse than another person. AND THAT YOU SHOULD LOVE YOURSELF NO LESS THAN OTHERS AND THAT YOU SHOULD TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED."
This does not mean that you only need to take care of the body with physical exercises, proper nutrition, cosmetics, wellness procedures, but also treat it as a divine vessel that cannot be defiled by smoking, alcohol, harmful products, foul language, low emotions and feelings.
Both good and bad - everything returns to a person according to the boomerang law.
Known words of the Bible:
"Love your neighbor as yourself."
We all know about it. But do we use real life this simple command? Do we give up our Ego in the name of love and our spiritual growth? And, in the end, do we let go of our resentment towards people and situations?
First of all, we must learn not to be offended, realizing that we are all imperfect. This is easy to do if you perceive each person as a teacher who teaches love and helps to improve. And such a person should be treated with gratitude. After all, it helps us learn important life lessons.
It is better to treat the offender as little child, and the reason that causes offense is perceived as a mistake. And think about what thoughts and actions you have attracted this person and an unpleasant situation.
If something unpleasant happened, then emotions should not be suppressed, it is necessary to speak out. But do not take offense. Otherwise, if resentment arises and goes into the subconscious, then both the subtle and the physical body of a person will be destroyed.
If there are grievances, you need to let them go, forgiving the person his act.
4 tips to achieve harmony- are simple and known to every person, but knowing them is not enough, you need to learn how to apply them. To achieve a harmonious state, you can use litanies, which can be read about in the following article “ ”
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Today I want to start the article: How to achieve harmony with yourself - with the words of Radhanath Swami. In one of his lectures, he says that “We are all truly beautiful, but we don’t even suspect it, if you understand how beautiful you are, then from that moment you will be forever happy!”
And in fact, the aspect of dissatisfaction with relationships with men in our lives, children, parents, work ... is dissatisfaction with oneself. Here it is important and valuable to understand that it is necessary to learn to be alone with yourself, to be cool with yourself, to be united with yourself, to be present inner harmony. And very often, when I analyze the topic of relationships, at consultations, at trainings, it happens that the inner woman is, in fact, not whole with herself.
And, of course, we will seek support in this regard and will run after all the men in our lives in order to find this integrity. A woman consists of an inner man and an inner woman, and there must be harmony inside, and when there is no this inner harmony, when there is no this integrity, self-satisfaction with oneself in her life ...
Then it turns out that we start:
First of all- reproach a man who is nearby, express dissatisfaction or look for men in your life and it is very valuable to turn around at this stage in order to learn to be happy alone with yourself, so as not to look for a source of happiness from outside - yes, let's say, "when I have a man - I I will be happy, or when I get married, I will be happy,” and become the source of this happiness myself?
Initially… to… become… the source… of this… happiness… Remember, there is such a widespread theory-statement that before you receive something, it is important and valuable to give it away. Here in 100% it comes true. In 99.9% of cases, in relationships, in money or in something else, we are the takers, but in fact we are the takers. That is, we expect care, attention, support from others and do not receive them, we receive some unsatisfied requests of our own. Here we put ourselves in aspect: “I…, yes, I cook for him, I take care of him…, I’m there… I am engaged in sacrifice…”. Yes, you don’t need to do something for him - you do something for yourself in this life.
Very often we become rescuers… — we live for the sake of children…. In order to be well spoken of, we behave well and step over ourselves - we say “no” to ourselves when we want to say “yes”. Well, against the same background, we begin to save everyone absolutely ... We try to pull out a friend - sign her up for some kind of training - listen to her constant whining about how bad she is, etc., especially since the person is not going to pull himself out ...
Secondly, when we start doing something in spite of ourselves - we didn’t go for a manicure, but gave a neighbor a loan, etc. – to be good for everyone. It is important and valuable to understand that in the 1st place you must become good for yourself. And I really want you to look at yourself through the eyes loving person. Truly through the eyes of a loving person, because in fact something completely different is happening now.
Now close your eyes and see yourself from the side, look at yourself from the side - just look that there is a woman in front of you ... who looks just like you, also works and gets paid for it just like you. He experiences in his life a lot of fears, resentments, all kinds of losses, just like you. Now answer yourself honestly - do you feel sorry for this person?
And the second question I have for you is: why are you not changing the life of this person, but trying to become a lifesaver for anyone? And it is often very useful to look at yourself through the eyes of a loving person - a loving woman. And I urge you - turn around, in the end, to yourself and see what you lack in life, what you deprive yourself of.
Where is your inner happiness, why do you look for happiness in other people, in circumstances, wait until a certain amount of money comes in order to pay for everything - “then I will be happy.” I will tell you that this is a statement - it does not work and once (3-4 years ago) I also wrote a certain amount of money to myself, and I thought that this amount of money would give me happiness - I would be the mega happiest person in the world. Now I earn 4 times more than this amount was written there.
Understand that the state of happiness, it is not at all from money - absolutely. And it is important and valuable to understand that until you have a state of satisfaction in general from life now, from the life that you already have now - any amount, any relationship, any change in situation, city, country, world and ... body - it will not lead you to the results that you expect.
The state of "here and now" will lead to the results that you are waiting for. To be in a moment of satisfaction with what you have - firstly, to thank and turn around to face yourself, because many turned around the wrong way. And what is valuable to do during this period is to get rid of illusions, to get rid of the fact that when some amount of money or some other person comes to you, you will be happy. Close this aspect, and return to the aspect that set yourself a task and a goal - to become happy “here and now”.
Second - take and write down what feelings you now have in a positive aspect, which are negative, what annoys you in life, what takes energy from you and start changing it gradually and be happy not because you will ever change, but because that you are already changing.
Here it is important to understand that it is not the goal that is the generator of happiness, but the path itself - leading to this goal, and if you rebuild your position, your brain to the fact that - “I am happy that I am developing! I'm happy that I'm going! I am happy that every moment of my life - I see new colors, I get bright colors, I enjoy new tastes, I feel new smells, I develop in the moment! And my goal is not for me to achieve it and then become happy, but my goal is to become happy on the road - in the moment here and now.
And if we take and return to such a question - what if everything will end very soon? And then, this goal, it will become completely unimportant, and then the “here and now” moment will become important - how do you feel now, what are you doing now, in what circumstances are you, what kind of people are next to you, etc. . Then this moment becomes valuable - today. And make your day.
How to achieve harmony with yourself? Make your day in such a way that you can write down at least 10 amazing events in your life in it - here, make yourself a direct quest like this - “what are 5-10 amazing events that happened in my life today?”. And then your life will be saturated with bright colors, and then you will enjoy the path, and not running towards something incomprehensible. And this is manifested in many aspects of life ... Pay attention - here are our goals - and we really want to achieve them - naturally, we planned, wrote - well done - super! Great, it's all very cool and we are running here ... and here we are running ....
The goal changed - and we ran again - again, without getting satisfaction ... We ran in the other direction - we run again - the question is - when will we live? We are constantly running towards the goal, setting some new goals for ourselves and running ... Now honestly admit to yourself, “and when do I live?” What moment of your day are you living? What moment of your day are you here and now? neither in the past nor in the future...
And only when you look at yourself “through the eyes of a loving person”, learn to live consciously in the moment “here and now”, put yourself in the first place ... only then the world will give you everything else. This is where the law “like attracts like” comes into play.
A state in which a person clearly knows what he wants and does not particularly care about the opinions of others. For everything he has his own opinion. When communicating with such people, you feel warmth, protection, an influx of positive energy, as if you are born again.
Soul harmony. Working on ourselves
Soul harmony gives rise to wonderful qualities in a person, he becomes a kind of “magnet”, a source of goodness and joy. But for this you need to work on yourself: you need to love yourself, life and the whole world, enjoy everything that surrounds you. In a word, live one day. Find happiness in ordinary things. You need to accept yourself for who you are: with all the flaws and virtues. And develop, develop, in no case do not fall into depression, but find yourself in some kind of hobby.
The harmony of the soul is your beauty
Soul harmony and the body will become apparent if you are constantly sincere, friendly and, of course, kind. As you develop inner beauty, remember soul harmony is the harmony of external and internal beauty. Therefore, do not forget to take care of yourself: go in for sports, eat healthy and wholesome food, rest on time.
The main thing is to believe in yourself, and everything will definitely come true and work out.
Soul harmony. Achievement Technique
Sit very comfortably, relax your whole body, close your eyes and visualize a large blank sheet of paper in front of you. Ask yourself what do you want to get rid of? Different thoughts will come, for example, from an old sofa, or from a beer belly. we go deeper into ourselves and still find some kind of poop - an antidrink of the type Aggressiveness, Anger, Uncertainty, Self-dislike, Greed ... If you dig well, there will be. And figuratively imagine how you "unload" this poop from yourself onto blank sheet of paper. You will even see with your inner eye what size, color and smell this pile will be.
Then you pack all this beauty very carefully and beautifully, folding a box out of a piece of paper, as if you are packing a priceless gift. 
And tie a beautiful gift bow on top, which will be in your hand as soon as you pack the box. Fine!
Ask yourself where you would most like to send this box. Somewhere where it will safely burn or explode. For example - into deep space, or deep into the planet, where it will burn in magma. It is important that there is a cleansing fire that will turn this poop into primary elements, from which something useful and beautiful will then be formed. As a beautiful garden grows on the ashes.
As soon as the idea has come, send a gift there with your inner eye and watch how nice
it explodes-burns down and what appears-grows-is born, into what the primary elements are transformed.
Perfectly! Now we return to the body, and ask ourselves the question, what is important for me to add to myself in order to achieve success? Listen to the first thought that comes. The unconscious will tell you unmistakably Perhaps it is Determination, or love, or calmness ... And we fill the place where the poop was thrown from - with a very beautiful shining energy, symbolizing this quality. You will immediately see her, with every breath she will fill body deeper and fuller... Enjoy this feeling. Notice how much easier it became to breathe, how the muscles relaxed, how the shoulders opened up ...
Thank yourself and smile blissfully. The program is set! The harmony of soul and body is guaranteed. And at the conference, we will take the magic technique of how to deal with poop, which give somatic manifestations in the body. High flight to you! Let's make our planet better and cleaner together!
We are often stressed. Everyone knows the state when you don’t want anything, everything falls out of your hands, and you don’t know how to get out of this state.
It seems to us that those around us are to blame for this, who do not understand us, annoy us in every possible way and do not allow us to live in peace. But if you remember - the world only reflects our internal state(external corresponds to internal). When we find harmony in ourselves, the outside world will change.
How to come to harmony in yourself? Meditation? Vacation trip? But a vacation happens only once a year, and, frankly, few people are ready to practice meditation. You need to work on harmony in yourself every day, and for this you need to put in order not only your spiritual world, but also the mental, mental and physical. You are in harmony with yourself when you are calm, the mind is clear, the soul "sings" and the body is energetic.
Of course, this is not all that is necessary to achieve harmony. If we don't have money, we can hardly feel good. Therefore, I want to highlight one more, fifth area, calling it “life support” - that which brings you enough money so that you have time and desire to take care of yourself.
If every day you pay attention to these areas and take care of them, then you, and therefore your life, will become more harmonious.
Physical activity along with a healthy diet. I will not dwell on the benefits of these things, they do not need proof, and the variety of sets of exercises available to us is enough for everyone to choose their own and stick to it regularly. The main thing is to have enough.
❝The bliss of the body is in health, and the bliss of the mind is in knowledge❞
Steps to Harmony - Psychic Sphere
Did you know that we have only four real feelings - happiness, sadness, fear and anger, and interestingly - only one positive!
Emotions are the so-called racket feelings (from "racket" - extortion). With these emotions, we demanded love, attention in childhood and achieved our goal through manipulation.
The psyche is the most uncontrollable sphere of all, and you need to carefully protect it if you cannot control your emotions. Avoid situations that reflect badly on the emotional state.
Do not like to do something, go somewhere, communicate with someone - do not force yourself, be principled. Avoid (if possible) people with whom you are uncomfortable, communicate with those with whom you feel good. Don't watch the news, don't engage in pointless arguments. Take care of your emotional sphere. Let go of resentment, the past, get rid of guilt!
❝Don't worry about a lot and you will survive a lot❞
Steps to harmony - the spiritual realm
The most important thing is to put things in order in the soul. We observe three “not”: we don’t complain, we don’t blame, we don’t make excuses❞ B. Shaw
Our spirit needs discipline, don't ignore it. And the soul needs its own food - good books, a pleasant vacation with people important to you, a hobby, time alone with your real self and your thoughts (let's call it).
You can only understand what heals your soul by the results - the feeling of inspiration, relief or purification that you gain. Feelings of forgiveness and gratitude also have a positive effect on our soul.
❝Heal the soul with sensations, and let the soul heal the sensations❞ O. Wilde
I would like to quote from S. Covey's book "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People", which describes an interesting method of spiritual renewal of a person. It can be well taken into account.
Arthur Gordon short story A Turn in Life tells the delightful, deeply personal story of one's own spiritual renewal. He tells about that period of his life when he suddenly felt that everything around him had lost its novelty and brightness. Inspiration dried up; he forced himself to write, but these efforts were fruitless. Finally, the writer decided to resort to the help of a doctor. Finding no physical abnormalities in the patient, the doctor asked if he was able to follow his instructions exactly for one day.
After Gordon's affirmative answer, the doctor told him to spend the next day in the place with which the happiest memories of his childhood are connected. The doctor allowed him to take food with him, but said that he would not have to talk to anyone, would not have to read, write or listen to the radio. Then the doctor handed him four folded sheets of prescriptions and told him to read one at nine in the morning, the second at noon, the third at three in the afternoon, and the fourth at six in the evening.
The next morning, Gordon went to the coast. Opening the first prescription, he read: "Listen carefully!" He decided that the doctor was out of his mind. How can you: listen for three hours! But since he promised the doctor that he would follow his instructions, he began to listen. Hearing absorbed the usual noises of the sea and the singing of birds. After a while, he began to distinguish other sounds, not so obvious at first. As he listened, he began to reflect on what the sea had taught him as a child—patience, respect, and a sense of the interdependence of all things. He listened to sounds, he listened to silence, and a sense of peace grew in him.
At noon he unfolded the second piece of paper and read: "Try to go back". "Where is it," back? he wondered. Maybe in childhood, in your happy memories? Gordon began to think about his past, about moments of happiness. He tried to imagine them in every detail. And, remembering, he felt his insides become warmer.
At three o'clock in the afternoon, Gordon unfolded the third sheet. So far, the doctor's prescriptions have been easy to follow. But it was quite different, it read: "Check Your Motives". At first, Gordon took a defensive position. He thought about what he aspired to in life - about success, about recognition, about security - and found convincing confirmation of all these motives. But suddenly the thought came to him that all these motives are not good enough and that perhaps this is precisely the reason for his current depression.
He carefully considered his motives. I thought about the happy moments of my past. And finally found the answer.
“And suddenly, with amazing clarity, I saw,” writes Gordon, “that with the wrong motives, nothing in a person’s life can be right. It doesn't matter who you are - a postman, a hairdresser, an insurance agent or a housewife. When you realize that you are serving others, things get better for you. If you are only concerned with the interests of your own personality, your affairs are not going very well - and this is a law as immutable as the law of gravity.
When the hands of the clock approached six in the evening, it turned out that the last prescription was a piece of cake to fulfill. "Write all your worries in the sand", - indicated on the sheet. Gordon squatted down and wrote a few words with a piece of shell; then he turned and walked away. He did not look back: he knew that the tide would soon roll in.
Steps to harmony - mental sphere
The mind also needs its own special food. In new knowledge, generating ideas, solving complex problems. The mind is needed, it is on him that a woman can count (if there is no one else): only the female mind can be equal to male power.
The mind is quite an interesting tool. When it seems to you that you are completely exhausted, you suddenly have another idea, and after it another and another, you just have to not retreat.
Our main enemy in this area is mental laziness. The brain itself strives not to think! Experts explain it this way:
❞ The brain is a strange structure. On the one hand, it allows us to think, on the other, it does not. After all, how does it work? In a relaxed state, when you are relaxing, say, watching TV, the brain consumes 9% of the total energy of the body. And if you start thinking, then the expense rises to 25%. But we have 65 million years of struggle for food, for energy behind us. The brain is used to this and does not believe that tomorrow it will have something to eat. Therefore, he categorically does not want to think. (For the same reason, by the way, people tend to overeat.) ❞
Everything in us is interconnected: a healthy body gives a feeling of happiness, an open channel between mind and soul brings intuitive insights. Feelings heal the soul, and the mind gives impetus to feelings.
Everyone knows that for any thing to work for a long time and not break, you need to constantly take care of it. If you do not change the oil in the car, it will disable the entire car. Remember to take care of every part of yourself. Take four steps every day to harmony and you will achieve it, and the world around you will also become harmonious.
A slightly different interpretation of the same topic is in the article.
Inner peace, comfort, security, safety, integrity, unity. For others, it is an ideal relationship with loved ones, clarity, enlightenment, moving forward, love for everything in the world, perfection.
AT classical definition of harmony (from the Greek “harmonia”) is the proportionality of parts and the whole, the fusion of various components into a single, organic whole.
When a person clearly imagines his mission and realizes that nothing prevents him from fulfilling it, then he enters a state of harmony.
Harmony can be considered equilibrium, but not static, in which there is no movement, but dynamic, in which all elements of the system move in a balanced way, at the “same speed”, uniformly moving the system forward towards its goal. Figuratively speaking, harmony is like a car in which all its parts move relative to the road at the same speed - the speed of the car, and act with one goal - to maintain or change the speed of the car depending on its current goal.
And with disharmony, some elements can move slower or faster, creating voltage in system. Again, comparing harmony with a car, we can say that with disharmony it would be, for example, that one wheel moved faster than the car or, conversely, slower. This could lead to the fact that the connection of the wheel with the car was destroyed, and it fell off. Then the car would stop moving altogether.
The image of ideal disharmony is perfectly described in Krylov's fable "The Swan, Cancer and Pike", where the animals decided to transport the cart, but moved it in different directions. They put in a lot of effort, but the cart remained in place; there was no movement, and the goal could not be reached.
Harmony is holistic state. But regarding the system, it can be divided into internal and external.
Inner harmony system with itself allows you to determine deviations in development from its essence, its optimal state. The closer the system is to its optimal state, the more harmonious it is and feels inner peace and comfort. When deviations occur, the system goes into a state of disharmony. Then she has contradictions, doubts, fears, discomfort.
External harmony with the environment determines the usefulness of connections and relationships that support or hinder development and self-realization. In the presence of harmful connections, the system feels danger, discomfort. She is forced to focus on her defense instead of fulfilling herself.
To move into a state of harmony, you need to achieve both internal and external harmony. Only under this condition will the system be able to realize itself, and this process will be easy and enjoyable.
Values
Every person has ideals that he creates or improves in his life, such as: freedom, wealth, family, education, balance, etc. Moreover, the ideals are interconnected.
For example, wealth makes you freer, kindness makes the world a better place, security allows you to focus on development, love makes you happier, and so on.
Those. some ideals are part of some larger ideal that is more important to the system. This means that ideals have a hierarchical structure, therefore, there is a certain ideal system.
And if you build such hierarchy, then the most common and important ideals will be freedom and harmony. Those. each system develops to add more ideals to your life, which will ultimately allow you to achieve personal freedom and harmony with yourself and the world around you.
The system can learn about ideals in the process of development or can discover them in environment, for other systems that already have this ideal. Then the system can realize that some ideals are very important for its self-realization, but they are not in its life. In this case, the system can set a goal to obtain this ideal.
The desire to obtain or improve certain ideals is cause performance of specific actions by the system and its expenditure of personal resources. Such ideals are values for her.
These steps are not sequential, rather the opposite - they need to be done all at once, parallel and as quickly as possible.
Step " understanding the meaning of life» described in the product Book "Personal Development as a System. Part One. The Meaning of Life" . It tells about the essence of man and the world around him. The answer is given from a systemic point of view to the questions "Who are we and why did we appear here?". It explains what a person should do for his life and what is its meaning.
Step " self-awareness» described in the product Book "Personal Development as a System. Part Two. Awareness" . It tells how a person determines the direction and purpose of his life. The answer is given from a systemic point of view to the questions "Who am I?" and "Why do I live?". The main components of a person that he needs to realize are described: character, temperament, talent and purpose. The methods of their determination and the consequences of this are described.
The remaining steps to achieve harmony are described in the product. to improve life in all areas.
It is also important to realize difference between destroying the useless and harming the useful and stop doing harm to others, nature and the world as a whole. After all, by harming the world, you actually harm yourself, because everything in the world is interconnected and interdependent.
And you can say that inner harmony- this is when you do what you love, you love what you do, and nothing interferes with you. BUT external harmony is a conscious and mutually beneficial dependence on each other for the joint creation of something more, the pursuit of ideal perfection.
