The test allows you to assess the degree of your conflict or tact. Choose one of the three suggested answers - "a", "b" or "c".
Questionnaire
1. Imagine that public transport begins
dispute. What are you doing?
a) avoid interfering in a quarrel;
b) you can intervene, take the side of the victim, the one who is right;
c) always intervene and defend your point of view to the end.
2. Do you criticize the management for mistakes made at the meeting:
b) yes, but depending on your personal attitude towards him;
c) always criticize for mistakes.
3. Your immediate supervisor lays out a work plan that seems irrational to you. Would you suggest a plan that you think is best:
a) if others support you, then yes;
b) of course, you will support your plan;
c) you are afraid that you may be deprived of bonuses for criticism.
4. Do you like to argue with your colleagues, friends:
a) only with those who are not offended, and when disputes do not spoil your relationship;
b) yes, but only on fundamental, important issues;
c) you argue with everyone and for any reason.
5. Someone is trying to get ahead of you out of line:
a) considering that you are no worse than him, try to bypass the queue;
b) you are indignant, but to yourself;
c) openly express your indignation.
6. Imagine that a rationalization proposal is being considered, the experimental work of your colleague, in which there are bold ideas, but there are also errors. You know that your opinion will be decisive. How do you do:
a) comment on both the positive and negative aspects of this project;
b) highlight the positive aspects of his work and offer to provide an opportunity to continue it;
c) you will criticize it: to be an innovator, you must not make mistakes.
7. Imagine: the mother-in-law (tesha) constantly tells you about the need for savings and frugality, about your extravagance, and now and then she buys expensive things. She wants to know your opinion about her latest purchase. What will you say to her?
a) approve the purchase if it gave her pleasure;
b) note that this thing is tasteless;
c) once again quarrel with her because of this.
8. You met children who smoke. How do you react:
a) you think: “Why should I spoil my mood because of strangers, poorly educated mischievous people?”;
b) make a remark to them;
c) if it was in a public place, you would chastise them.
9. In a restaurant, you notice that the waiter cheated on you:
a) in this case, you do not give him a tip that you prepared in advance if he acted honestly;
b) ask him to calculate the amount again in front of you;
c) it will be a cause for scandal.
10. You are in a holiday home. The administrator is engaged in extraneous matters, he has fun, instead of fulfilling his duties: he does not follow the cleaning in the room and the variety of the menu. Does this bother you:
a) yes, but even if you express any claims to him, this is unlikely to change anything;
b) you find a way to complain about him, let him be punished or even fired from his job;
c) you take out your dissatisfaction on junior staff (cleaners, waitresses).
11. You argue with your teenage son and make sure he's right. Do you admit your mistake:
b) of course you do;
Take stock
Using the key, count the number of points.
Each answer option has its own score.
answer "a" - 4 points;
answer "b" - 2 points;
answer "c" - 0 points.
30 - 44 points. You are tactful. You do not like conflicts, even if you can smooth them out, you easily avoid critical situations. When you have to enter into an argument, then you take into account how this will affect your official position or friendly relations. You strive to be pleasant to others, but when they need help, you do not always dare to provide it. Don't you think that by doing so you lose respect for yourself in the eyes of others?
15 - 29 points. They say about you that you are too principled or even a conflicting person. You persistently defend your opinion, regardless of how it will affect your work or personal relationships, and you are respected for this.
10 - 14 points. You are looking for reasons to argue, most of which are unnecessary, petty. Love to criticize, but only when it benefits you. You impose your opinion, even if you are wrong. You will not be offended if you are considered a lover of scandal? Think about whether an inferiority complex is hiding behind your behavior?
Note. The test, if necessary, must be “adapted” to the educational audience.
Appendix 2
Assertiveness Test
Usually, assertiveness is understood as naturalness and independence from external influences and assessments, the ability to independently regulate one's own behavior and be responsible for it. An assertive person is someone who is in charge of their own behavior, demonstrates self-respect and respect for others, is positive, listens, understands and tries to reach a working compromise. This test will help you to find out the level of your assertiveness.
Instructions: Choose the answer "yes" or "no" in the following positions.
1. I am annoyed by the mistakes of other people: yes no;
2. I can remind a friend of a debt: yes no;
3. From time to time I tell lies: yes no;
4. I am able to take care of myself: yes no;
5. I happened to ride "hare": yes no;
6. Rivalry is better than cooperation: yes no;
7. I often torture myself over trifles: yes no;
8. I am an independent and rather decisive person: yes no;
9. I love everyone I know: yes no;
10. I believe in myself, I have enough strength to cope with current problems:
11. Nothing can be done, a person must always be on the alert in order to be able to protect his interests: yes no;
12. I never laugh at indecent jokes: yes no;
14. I do not allow anyone to twist ropes out of me. I will protest: yes no;
15. I support every good undertaking: yes no;
16. I never lie: yes no;
17. I am a practical person: yes no;
18. I am depressed only by the fact that I can fail: yes no;
19. I agree with the saying: “Look for a helping hand first of all at your own shoulder”: yes no;
20. Friends have a great influence on me: yes no
21. I am always right, even if others think otherwise: yes no
22. I agree that the important thing is not to win, but to participate: yes no
23. Before doing anything, I will think carefully about how others will perceive it: yes no
24. I never envy anyone: yes no
Now count the number of positive responses in the following positions:
1, 6, 7, 11, 13, 18, 20, 23 Score A =
2, 4, 8, 10, 14, 17, 19, 22 Score B =
3, 5, 9, 12, 15, 16, 21, 24 Count B =
HIGHEST SCORE IS A: You know assertiveness but don't use it much in your life. You often experience dissatisfaction with yourself and others.
HIGHEST SCORE IN B: You are on the right track and can master assertiveness very well. In principle, you are now able to act in the right direction. At times, your attempts to act assertively result in aggressiveness. But it is not important. What student has not stuffed himself with cones.
HIGHEST SCORE IN SCORE B: Despite the results of the previous two counts, you have a good chance of mastering assertiveness. In short, you have formed an opinion about yourself and your behavior, you evaluate yourself realistically, and this is a good basis for acquiring any skill necessary for dealing with others.
LOWEST PERFORMANCE REACHED ON THE SCORE A: It is not a tragedy that you fail to take advantage of the many chances that life gives you. It is important to learn to live in harmony with yourself and know what to do.
LOWEST SCORE IS REACHED B: Assertiveness can be learned. As S. Lek said: “Training is everything, even cauliflower is just well-trained white cabbage.”
LOWEST SCORE PERFORMANCE Q: Now that's a problem. You overestimate yourself and behave not quite sincerely. It's not so much about self-deception, but about the fact that you see yourself in a better light. It would be nice to reflect on yourself.
Appendix 3
Choose one answer for each question.
1. An argument broke out in public transport. What are you doing?
a - do not interfere;
b - you can intervene by taking the side of the victim;
in- I always interfere.
2. At meetings and conferences, do you criticize management for mistakes?
a - no;
b - depending on the personal attitude towards him;
in - always.
3. Your supervisor lays out his work plan, which seems unsuccessful to you. Will you offer your plan?
a - if others support you, then yes;
b - of course;
in- no.
4. Do you like to argue with your colleagues, friends?
a- only with those who are not offended;
b- yes, but only on matters of principle;
in- yes, with everyone and for any reason.
5. Someone is trying to get ahead of you in line for a scholarship or salary.
a- believing that you are worse than him, you are trying to bypass the queue;
b- you are indignant, but to yourself;
in-- express your displeasure openly.
6. Imagine that your colleague's innovation proposal is being considered, which has a bold idea, but there are also errors. You know that your opinion will be decisive. How will you do it?
a - speak about the pros and cons of this proposal;b - tell me about the advantages of the proposal and advise you to give itthe opportunity to test the idea;in- you will only criticize.
7. Imagine: your mother-in-law (or mother-in-law) constantly tells you about the need to save money, about your extravagance, and now and then she buys expensive things. She wants to know your opinion on the latest purchase. What will you tell her?
a - that you approve of the purchase;
b- that this thing is tasteless;
c - quarrel with her over the purchase.
8. You met teenagers who use foul language and smoke. How will you react?
a- don't interfere;
b- make a remark to them;
in- if it happens in a public place, you will report them.
9. In a restaurant or shop, you notice that you are cheated. How will you do it?
a- do not tip the waiter, but demand change from the sellerchu, even little things;
b - ask him to count again; in- make a scandal.
10. You are in a holiday home. The administration is engaged in extraneous matters, not fulfilling its functional duties. Does this anger you?
a- yes, but you don't speak out;
b- complain about her
c - take out your dissatisfaction on junior staff.
11. You argue with your younger brother or teenage sister and make sure they are right. Do you admit your mistake?
a - yes;
b- No;
Decoder:
Price of answers: "a" - 4 points, "b" - 2 points, "c" - 0 points.
Key:
Up to 14 points.
You are looking for an argument, most of which is just petty. Love to criticize only when it benefits you. Think about whether an inferiority complex is hiding behind your behavior?
15-29 points.
You are said to be a conflicted person. You persistently defend your opinion, regardless of how it will affect your personal and work relationships.
30-44 points.
You are tactful, easily avoid conflict situations, strive to be pleasant for others, but when they need help, they do not always dare to provide it. Maybe you only require everything from others.
Appendix15
Test "Are you a conflict person?"
If you behave exactly as stated in the proposal, often in a conflict situation, then put 3 points; from case to case - 2 points; rarely - 1 point.
I threaten or fight.
I try to understand the point of view of the enemy, I reckon with it.
Looking for compromises.
I admit that I'm wrong, even if I can't believe it completely.
I avoid the enemy.
I want to achieve my goals no matter what.
I'm trying to figure out what I agree with and what I strongly disagree with.
I'm going to compromise.
I give up.
I'm changing the subject.
I persistently repeat one phrase until I achieve my goal.
I'm trying to find the source of the conflict, to understand how it all began.
I will give in a little and thereby push the other side to make concessions.
I offer peace.
I'm trying to turn everything into a joke.
Processing test results:
Type "A": the sum of points under the numbers 1, 6, 11.
Type "B": the sum of points under the numbers 2, 7, 12.
Type "B": the sum of points under the numbers 3, 8, 13.
Type "G": the sum of points under the numbers 4, 9, 14.
Type "D": the sum of points under the numbers 5, 10, 15.
Interpretation:
"A" is a tough style of resolving conflicts and disputes. These people stand their ground to the last, defending their position. This is the type of person who considers himself always right.
"B" is a democratic style. These people believe that it is always possible to agree, during a dispute they offer an alternative, they are looking for a solution that satisfies both parties.
"B" is a compromise style. From the very beginning, a person is ready to compromise.
"G" is a soft style. A person destroys his opponent with kindness, readily takes the opponent’s point of view, abandoning his own.
"D" is the outgoing style. The credo of a person is to leave in a timely manner, before a decision is made. Strives not to lead to conflict and open clashes.
REMINDER
Friends! A conflict situation can radically change your life! Make sure these changes are for the better!
1. Before entering into a conflict situation, think about what result you want to get.
2. Make sure that this result is really important for you.
3. In a conflict, recognize not only your own interests, but also the interests of the other person.
4. Observe the ethics of behavior in a conflict situation, solve the problem, and do not settle scores.
5. Be firm and open if you are convinced that you are right.
6. Force yourself to hear your opponent's arguments.
7. Do not humiliate or insult another person so that later you do not burn with shame when you meet him and do not suffer from repentance.
8. Be fair and honest in conflict, don't feel sorry for yourself.
9. Know how to stop in time so as not to be left without an opponent.
10. Treasure your own self-respect by daring to go into conflict with someone who is weaker than you.
Test "Are you a conflict personality?"Instruction:For each question, choose one answer that best fits your behavior.
Questions:
1 . In public transport, a dispute began in raised tones. What is your reaction?
a) do not participate;
b) I speak briefly in defense of the side that I consider right;
c) I actively intervene, than "causing fire on myself."
2 . Do you speak at meetings (class hours) with criticism?
a) no;
b) only if I have compelling circumstances for this;
c) I criticize for any reason.
3. Do you often argue with your friends?
a) only if these people are not touchy;
b) only on matters of principle;
c) disputes are my element.
4. At home, for dinner, they served an undersalted dish. What is your reaction?
a) I will not raise a fuss over trifles;
b) silently take the salt shaker;
c) I will not refrain from remarks.
5 . If you stepped on your foot on the street, in transport:
a) look at the offender with indignation;
b) I will dryly make a remark;
c) I will express myself without embarrassment in expressions.
6 . If someone close to you bought a thing that you did not like:
a) keep silent
b) I will limit myself to a short tactful remark;
c) make a scandal.
7 . Bad luck in the lottery. How do you react to this?
a) I will try to seem indifferent, but I will give myself a word never again
participate in it;
b) I will not hide my annoyance, but I will treat what happened with humor, promising to take
revenge;
c) losing will spoil the mood for a long time.
Grade:
Calculate your total points.
From 20-28 points.You are tactful and peaceful, avoid conflicts and disputes, avoid critical situations at work and at home. Maybe that's why they sometimes call you an opportunist.
From 10-18 points.You are known to be a conflict person. But in fact, you conflict only when there is no other way out and all means have been exhausted. At the same time, do not go beyond the correctness, firmly defend your opinion. All this earns respect for you.
Up to 8 points.Conflicts and disputes are your element. Love to criticize others, but do not take criticism in your address. Your rudeness and intemperance repels people. It is difficult for you both at work and at home. Try to overcome your character.
The test is taken from the book "Collection of psychological tests" / Compiled by: L.A. Bogatova, V.V. Gerasimova, L.A. Kudryashova, I.A. Radchuk.-Kazan: KNPO VTI, 2007.
TEST "Standard - non-standard teacher".
Exercise:The personal and business qualities that the teacher meets in his students are indicated. Mark with a "+" sign those qualities that you like in students, and with a "-" sign what you do not like in them:
1. Disciplined.
2.Organized.
3. Unevenly successful.
4. Breaking out of the general pace.
5. Erudite.
6. Strange in behavior, incomprehensible.
7. Able to support a common cause.
8.Stable successful.
9. Busy with your own business.
10. Fast, "on the fly" grasping.
11. Not able to communicate, conflict.
12. Jumping out at the lesson with incomprehensible remarks.
13. Pleasant in communication.
14. Sometimes slow-witted, sometimes he cannot understand the obvious.
15. Clearly, expressing your thoughts clearly for you.
16. Not always willing to obey the majority or official leadership
Which plus or minus signs do you have more - on even numbers or odd ones? If there are more “odd pluses”, we congratulate you: you are a COMPLETELY NON-STANDARD TEACHER.
Test
Pedagogical justice
Question:
1. In the class, you appoint the head boy:
a) a student who is friends with teachers
b) a student who studies well
c) a student with good leadership qualities
2. Most in the class you praise:
A) those who are friends with the teacher, tell them everything
B) those who study well, who have high results
C) who tries very hard, regardless of the result of efforts
3. In open lessons, you will entrust the most responsible:
a) one who studies well, who will learn
b) work extra with losers so that they can also prove themselves
c) one whose parents want their children to perform
4. Glass was broken in the classroom while you were away.
a) you will talk to the class asset face-to-face with everyone, they will tell everything in friendship with the teacher
b) talk to those whom you personally suspect
c) encourage them to confess themselves, tell an instructive story and promise not to punish the guilty
5. There is a student in the class with whom you are in conflict and cannot tolerate him. You:
a) get rid of him until he moves to another class (school)
b) apply strict measures and correct its qualities, re-educate
6. In the teacher's room they tell a funny incident with another teacher.
a) you laugh with everyone
b) make a remark to teachers about the inadmissibility of ridicule
c) keep silent, you won’t laugh, try to change the subject
7. Parents think you give your pets higher marks:
a) you do not react, let them think what they want
b) at the parent meeting you will try to argue all the grades
c) invite that parent to watch one of the lessons
Grade:
A - 0 points
B - 1 point
B - 3 points
0 to 6- You need the help of a psychologist. You do not understand your pedagogical mistakes. Children "tolerate" you, sometimes they are afraid
7 to 12- You are not always fair in the process of education and upbringing. You can compensate for some of your mistakes by understanding children, their motivations.
13 to 16- You are an example for many teachers of our time, but you need to improve, because. The world is changing every day and you need to keep up with modernity. Try not to rush to act and then your actions will be more fair in relation to children
17 to 21– You perfectly feel all situations. You have a well developed sense of justice. Just try not to teach other teachers, let them “grow up” on your silent example.
TestAre you subject to stress?
was developed by a psychologist at the University of Boston Medical Center. You need to answer the questions based on how often these statements are true for you. You should answer all the points, even if this statement does not apply to you at all.
1. You eat at least one hot meal a day.
2. You sleep 7-8 hours at least four times a week.
3. You constantly feel the love of others and give your love in return.
4. Within 50 kilometers you have at least one person you can rely on.
5. You work out to a sweat at least twice a week.
6. You smoke less than half a pack of cigarettes a day.
7. You consume no more than five glasses of alcoholic beverages per week.
8. Your weight matches your height.
9. Your income fully meets your basic needs.
10. Your faith supports you.
11. You regularly engage in club or social activities.
12. You have many friends and acquaintances.
13. You have one or two friends that you completely trust.
14. You are healthy.
15. You can be open about your feelings when you are angry or worried about something.
16. You regularly discuss your household problems with the people you live with.
17. You do something just for fun at least once a week.
18. You can organize your time efficiently.
19. You consume no more than three cups of coffee, tea or other caffeinated beverages per day.
20. You have some time for yourself during each day.
The following answers are offered with the corresponding number of points:
– almost always - 1;
- often - 2;
- sometimes - 3;
– almost never - 4;
- never - 5.
Now add up the results of your answers and subtract 20 points from the resulting number.
If you have typed less than 10 pointsthen you can be pleased if you also answered honestly - you have excellent resistance to stressful situations and the effects of stress on the body, you have nothing to worry about.
If your final numberexceeded 30 points, stressful situations have a considerable impact on your life and you do not resist them very much.
If you have typed over 50 pointsYou should seriously think about your life - is it not time to change it. You are very vulnerable to stress.
Take another look at the test statements. If your answer to any statement received 3 points or more, try to change your behavior in accordance with this point and your vulnerability to stress will decrease. For example, if your score for item 19 is a 4, try drinking at least one cup of coffee less than usual per day.
Start taking a closer look at yourself now, not when it's too late.
During the class hour "Conflicts in our life" the importance of this topic for high school students is discussed, the nature of the conflict is considered, the positive and negative sides of the conflict are determined, methods of overcoming the conflict. Adolescents get acquainted with the concept of "compromise", master the primary skills of getting out of their conflict situation with the least losses for themselves and their opponent.
For a more detailed consideration of this topic, a series of events has been developed:
A series of class hours: “Conflicts in our class”, “Problems of fathers and children” (as a preparatory stage for the parent meeting “Conflicts with your own child ...”), “Learn to rule yourself”
Parent meeting "Conflicts with your own child and ways to resolve them"
Questionnaire "Are you a conflict person?"
Debate "Crime and Punishment".
Explanatory note
The main theoretical, methodological and organizational features of this class hour:
form of conduct: work in shift groups
location: cool room,
time spending- 1 hour 20 minutes.
Work in shift groups- a special form of interaction between the participants, involving the mutual exchange of experience and knowledge on the problem under discussion, contributing to the mastery of the primary skills of compromise.
Pedagogical find (novelty) of the presented development in the fact that this form of work is most interesting for children, because it allows them to acquaint them without edification with the methods and techniques of resolving conflict situations, to get acquainted with the art of compromise from their own experience; helps to immerse children in an environment of positive communication, give examples of attitudes of non-conflict behavior, create a single educational community of the teacher and the children of the class. Group effects make it possible to remove the feeling of the uniqueness and uniqueness of their own difficulties, allow children to look at their problems from a different point of view.
Expected Result- mastering the skills of constructive conflict resolution; the realization that the main ability in conflict is the ability to confront - to explain:
defend one's position openly, "face to face";
the desire to evaluate the conflict situation itself, its content, and not the human qualities of the partner;
the desire to preserve the personal relationships of all participants in the conflict.)
Topic: "Adolescent and conflicts."
Goals:
Expand the concept of a culture of peace;
Develop the skills of moral self-knowledge, introspection, self-esteem;
Solving the problem of class cohesion.
Tasks:
Describe the concept of conflict.
Consider the nature of the conflict, determine its positive and negative sides.
Learn how to resolve conflict.
Define the term "compromise".
5. Develop skills to behave constructively during a conflict, resolving it
fairly, without prejudice to society and the individual;
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Test
"Is it a conflict
Are you a person?
Kondratieva E.S.
Instruction:
For each question, choose one answer that best fits your behavior.
1. In public transport, a dispute began in raised tones. What is your reaction?
a) do not participate;
b) I speak briefly in defense of the side that I consider right;
c) I actively intervene, than "causing fire on myself."
2. Do you speak at meetings (class hours) with criticism?
a) no;
b) only if I have compelling circumstances for this;
c) I criticize for any reason.
3. Do you often argue with your friends?
a) only if these people are not touchy;
b) only on matters of principle;
c) disputes are my element.
4. At home, an undersalted dish was served for dinner. What is your reaction?
a) I will not raise a fuss over trifles;
b) silently take the salt shaker;
c) I will not refrain from remarks.
5. If on the street, in transport, you stepped on your foot:
a) look at the offender with indignation;
b) I will dryly make a remark;
c) I will express myself without embarrassment in expressions.
6. If someone close to you bought a thing that you did not like:
a) keep silent
b) I will limit myself to a short tactful remark;
c) make a scandal.
7. Bad luck in the lottery. How do you react to this?
a) I will try to seem indifferent, but I will give myself a word never again
participate in it;
b) I will not hide my annoyance, but I will treat what happened with humor, promising to take
revenge;
c) losing will ruin your mood for a long time .
"b" - 2 points;
"in" - 0.
Calculate your total points.
From 20-28 points.
You are tactful and peaceful, avoid conflicts and disputes, avoid critical situations at work and at home. Maybe that's why they sometimes call you an opportunist.
From 10-18 points.
You are known to be a conflict person. But in fact, you conflict only when there is no other way out and all means have been exhausted. At the same time, do not go beyond the correctness, firmly defend your opinion. All this earns respect for you.
Up to 8 points .
Conflicts and disputes are your element. Love to criticize others, but do not take criticism in your address. Your rudeness and intemperance repels people. It is difficult for you both at work and at home. Try to overcome your character.
The test is taken from the book "Collection of psychological tests" / Compiled by: L.A. Bogatova, V.V. Gerasimova, L.A. Kudryashova, I.A. Radchuk.-Kazan: KNPO VTI, 2007.
