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What is gossip

How nice it is sometimes in a circle of girlfriends just to chat or “wash the bones” of common acquaintances. In a team, talk about colleagues. But in the same way, others gossip about us, and this is already unpleasant. Therefore, you need to put yourself in the place of the one being discussed.

I confess that I am a sinner, and I am no exception. But I grow up, become wiser, relying on life experience, I make fewer mistakes. Together with you I am engaged in self-development. Today we will talk about what gossip is and how to respond to it.

Gossip is bad, even if it's PR for a famous person. Gossip is always negative, no matter who the victim is. "Gossip" from the word "weave", but the truth cannot be weaved.

Gossip is a rumor about someone or something, usually based on inaccurate or deliberately false, deliberately fabricated information. Synonyms: gossip, rumor, speculation.

Very often, you yourself, unwittingly, become a spreader of rumors about yourself. And then these rumors go further, acquiring new "details".

Why gossip? How to explain it? People are used to being interested in each other, sharing joys and sorrows. Then spiritual revelations begin to be called the latest news from the lives of friends and acquaintances.

Gossiping, people do not think that by telling a lie or revealing someone's secret, you can lose confidence in yourself forever. A person who spends a lot of time talking about others is living someone else's life without having his own.

Gossip Quotes

• “I have heard so much slander against you that I have no doubt: you are a wonderful person!”
• "At the heart of every gossip is a well-tested immorality." Oscar Wilde
• “If it’s unpleasant when they talk about you, then it’s even worse when they don’t talk about you at all.” Oscar Wilde
• “Say something nice about someone and no one will hear you. But the whole city will help to spread a vile, scandalous rumor. Harold Robbins
• “There are always people who are in a hurry to spread gossip. Most of them don't even know what they're talking about." Harold Robbins
• "Why should a man have friends if he can't discuss them openly?" Truman Capote
• “The sad truth is that there is nothing “tastier” for a small town dweller than gossip.” Jodi Picoult
• “If they gossip about you, it means that you are alive and interfere with someone. Do you want to do something important in life? You need to understand that your cause will have both supporters and opponents.
• “It has been observed that news told in confidence spreads much faster than just news.” Yuri Tatarkin
• “Why judge other people? Think about yourself more. Each sheep will be hung by its own tail. What do you care about other ponytails? St. Matrona Moscow
• “If you talk bad about people, let you be right, your gut is bad.” Saadi
• "The public prefers to believe bad rumors rather than good ones." Sarah Bernard
• “All the trouble that your worst enemy can express to your face is nothing. Compared to what your best friends say about you behind your back." Alfred de Musset
• “So a sharp knife will not hurt, as a vile gossip will hurt a lie.” Sebastian Brant

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statuses for social networks about envy, gossips and envious people.
Envious people are weak-minded people who cannot think of anything better than to slander a person in order to seem to lower his authority, slander spreads, and gossip is born.

Never discuss or envy the bad. Envy the best, discuss the best.

It is better to be the center of attention with a scandalous reputation than to be in the primitive herd of judgment.

Why do people believe rumors instead of asking about everything and finding out the truth.

Let us enjoy our lot without resorting to comparisons - the one who is tormented by the sight of greater happiness will never be happy ... When it comes to your mind how many people are ahead of you, think about how many of them follow behind. Seneca

There are so many people around who are aware of my life that I want to come up and ask: - Well, what, how am I doing there ?!

They say that gossipers, condemning a person, take away his sins. So I can live in peace...

A handful of facts can spoil the best gossip.

Precious gossips, gossips and envious women! Open your mouth at the level of the fly, and not in my direction !!

If someone condemns you ... or collects gossip, he simply suffers from a complex! He is worse than you and he knows it! Do not honor him, do not respond to chatter! Let him even crack with anger, but whoever is smart will understand you ...

If gossip bothers, there is no need to be upset. Know - worms choose only the best fruits!

The envious person says not what is, but what can cause evil. — Publius Sir

Itching and gossiping is the anthropological inevitability of all women.

No matter how boring your life is, do not climb into someone else's ...

When the vessel is empty, it echoes any sound. So gossip echoes in empty people.

Whoever gossips with you gossips about you.

A lot of gossip is not frank people and losers. Everyone gossips a little.

You can’t stock up on muzzles for all those yapping behind your back, but sometimes a thrown bone is enough for them to gnaw through each other ...

I don’t know if one who spreads dirty gossip about everyone can be called a “man”. In the pursuit of popularity, “it” denigrates acquaintances behind their backs ... What a pity, you can’t put the stigma “Asexual, insignificant schmuck!” on the forehead!

Don't jump to conclusions about a person until you've spoken to them in person, because all you hear is hearsay.

Some want to give a grater ... to scratch their tongue ...

I hate people who smile in their eyes and gossip about me behind my back.

And I love it when they gossip about me and carry nonsense. I immediately feel like a showbiz star.

Gossiping about me is a new sport...compete suckers!

I hate people who try to look better at the expense of others! Trying to hide their misdeeds and turn white, they spread gossip even about their closest friends, thereby becoming even lower in the eyes of those who once respected and trusted!

To torment your envious people is to be in a good mood.

Do you condemn? Not a problem! Continue in the same spirit ... Dissolve, since it is pleasant, your dirty rumors about me. Just know that your thoughts make me neither cold nor hot.

Gossip is the best activity for those who have nothing to do.

I don't care what people say! What I was, and I will remain like that, I don’t need your empty souls, I don’t need your love either. From false words, sometimes ears wither. Cover your sins with your tails, don't touch mine, I'll figure it out myself. Like I said, rest! I don't need your friendship!

Gossips are the lowest people. And to punish them is the same as sinking to their level!

Gossips are very reminiscent of a vacuum cleaner with a torn filter - it didn’t seem so dirty at the entrance, but one g flies in the air ... but

It's better to spit directly and in the eyes than in the soul behind my back.

I want to leave, hide from arrogant muzzles and gossips ... fall apart on a beach with pebbles and enjoy the cry of seagulls.

A person who is happy will never wish harm to someone, spread ridiculous rumors, and try to quarrel someone. Only sick people do this, and unfortunately they are sick in soul and heart.

Eh, girlfriends ... Girlfriends ... Only pillows can be silent ...

Section topic: statuses about envy, gossips and envious people with a sense of cool and instructive about envious people.

The spread of rumors and gossip is a phenomenon that occurs quite often in life. People who do this can and should be punished. According to the legislation of the Russian Federation, there is Article 129 in the Criminal Code, which provides for legal punishment for people who slander someone. If you have evidence that a particular citizen really spread false, defamatory information about you, you can file a lawsuit in court.

However, as a rule, to prove such an act is quite difficult.

How to take revenge on a person for gossip, lies and rumors

If a person is famous for his love for dissolving gossip and rumors, you can not only go to court, but also independently come up with a worthy punishment for him.

Just remember that reprisals against the offender should not go beyond the law.

Use his own weapon against the offender. Tell your mutual friends that you trusted this person, and he not only told you your secrets to someone, but also did not forget to embellish and turn everything upside down. Surely, after such information, people will begin to avoid communicating with, afraid to find themselves in a similar unpleasant situation.

Another way to punish a gossiper is to commit petty dirty tricks. If you know where the person lives, their exact address, and call any flower or food delivery service and place an order in their name. Let this order come out for a fairly decent amount of money. Of course, your offender will not pay for it, but he is guaranteed a spoiled mood.

In addition, if your girl friend spreads gossip and she has a husband, you can again use flower delivery. Send her a gift and ask the courier to sign: “Thank you for a wonderful night. With love, Igor. Scenes of jealousy and scandal in the family, most likely, cannot be avoided.

If a married man has become your offender, guess the time when he will be with his wife or lover and start writing intimate messages to him. This method has an undeniable effect.

The most important thing you should do is to hint to the gossip after some time that all the troubles that happen in his life are the result of his love for spreading false and defamatory information about other people.

It's sad to realize that people talk about you behind your back. Since such gossip spreads quickly, it is difficult to find the source of the gossip. It is for this reason that, most likely, you will only spoil the situation by trying to confront people who spread rumors about you. The best tactic in this case is to ignore it. In addition, you can try to become more positive and change your view of gossip.

Steps

How to deal with people who gossip

Don't do anything. You may be tempted to confront the person who gossips about you, in which case the best response to his actions is to ignore his gossip. Just think, because this person will not be able to say these words to your face. Therefore, you should not give him new topics for gossip. Just stop this vicious cycle by completely ignoring gossip.

Treat gossipers with kindness. Another way to respond to gossip is to cultivate a kind attitude towards people. Gossips will be confused and puzzled that you treat them so well despite the fact that they gossip about you. Also, if you're optimistic about everything, gossipers may feel guilty for talking about you behind your back.

Set limits on gossip. If you have to spend a lot of time with people who talk about you behind your back, try to keep your distance from them. Remember that you don't have to be friends with them just because you have to work together.

• Be kind, but don't get close to gossips. Do not tell them personal things that may become another topic for gossip in the future.

1. Think about the gossiper's motives. If your friend or acquaintance began to spread rumors about you, most likely he had his own reasons for this. Most good friends wouldn't spread negative rumors about you that might upset you. If your friend just became a part of this gossip, try to find out why he did it, and also think about how he might have reacted to these rumors.

   • Questions to ask include: “How did you know what was going on?” or "What were you saying spreading that rumor?" You can simply ask: “Why are you telling me this?”. The answers to these questions will help you understand the motives of the gossip.
   • You don't have to end your relationship with the gossiper. But it would be wise to communicate with this person with greater accuracy. Most likely, this person is not as innocent as he tries to seem. Perhaps he himself spreads gossip, and does not try to stop them.

2. Don't gossip. You already know how annoying it is to be talked about behind your back. But if you do not try to stop it, you can assume that you are also to blame for the current situation. Some people just enjoy discussing other people's personal lives, but remember that they won't be able to do this if they don't have listeners (that is, people who share their opinion).

   Talk to someone who is in authority. If gossip is interfering with your work or school, you will need to address the issue at the administration level. In this case, the teacher or supervisor will help to deal with this problem.

How to change gossip about yourself

Don't take gossip personally. You can easily run into people who talk about you behind your back, but remember that their words say more about themselves than about you. You cannot control what others say about you. But you can control your reaction to their words. Treat gossip like outside information. Don't be a victim of other people's problems.

Realize that people might just be jealous of you. It may not look like it, but people may say bad things about you because someone is bullying them. A person may envy your life, your skills and abilities, popularity. Their nasty and mean words may just be a way to hurt you.

Low self-esteem. Another feature of the gossiper is low self-esteem. People who talk badly about you may do it on purpose to assert themselves. Perhaps the person who spreads gossip about you constantly feels insignificant, most likely he has low self-esteem. As a result, this person starts talking bad things about others.

Even if we don’t consider ourselves gossips, it’s still no, no, and we’ll discuss one of our acquaintances with a friend. Colleagues and mutual friends often become the object of gossip, and sometimes we talk about those whom we have not even seen: it is enough just to hear an interesting juicy detail of someone's life, and that's it - we are "carried". We usually do not think about whether this detail is true. However, the attitude to such conversations changes when we ourselves become the object of gossip that has nothing to do with reality.

It is unpleasant to realize that someone behind our back spreads false rumors about us. And even if the truthful information that we would really like to hide suddenly becomes known to a wide range of people, we feel as if we are “naked”, unprotected and betrayed. Everyone decides how to behave in such a situation.

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Some even stir up interest in their own person. Psychologists call this type of personality demonstrative. Constantly being in the spotlight is what matters most to them. This way people get confirmation that they are not bored.

We just need to learn how to get out of such situations with the least mental loss.

However, there are far fewer lovers of gossip “about their loved ones” than those who are very worried about slander against them. Upon learning that someone is spreading false rumors about their personal lives, they begin to look for the guilty, experience anger, anger, aggression, delve into themselves and fixate on their own shortcomings. In the mind of most people who have become the object of gossip, two thoughts are spinning: “Who could say that about me?” and “Suddenly everyone else will believe in these nasty things and stop talking to me?” Such a state can lead to a nervous breakdown, which ultimately will have a very negative impact on the psycho-emotional and physical health of a person. We just need to learn how to get out of such situations with the least emotional loss, so that someone’s inaccurately thrown words do not become a reason for taking sedatives and consulting a doctor.

So, if you saw that those around you abruptly fall silent when you enter the room, and then found out why this is happening, then you should not close yourself in or, on the contrary, wave your saber, looking for the guilty ones. Get smarter. And how exactly, our advice will tell you.

Do not arrange a public "debriefing"

The best way to show a sly gossip that he has achieved what he wants is to show aggression and start to publicly find out who dared to say such nonsense about you and why he did it. Of course, you want to know who you “annoyed” so much, but it’s better to act differently. If you, furious, burst into the office where your colleagues are sitting, and begin to literally rush at everyone, pressing them against the wall, and growling, asking: “Is this you?”, then you will achieve nothing but a new wave of gossip. Believe me, now you will become a hysteric who, apparently, has something to hide. Otherwise, why react so sharply to the “harmless”, according to the gossip, news told by him to those around him?

Of course, you want to know who you “annoyed” so much, but it’s better to act differently.

Talking to a gossip

If you know exactly who is spreading false rumors about you, and you just need to find out why he is doing this, we still advise you not to talk to the lover of gossip alone. Let there be witnesses around, but in this situation you will behave extremely calmly and restrainedly. As we said, the main thing is not to show how much the very fact of gossip hurt you. Surprisingly, sometimes people do not even realize that they are hurting someone. Perhaps this is your case. Ask the “hero of the occasion”, where did he get such information from, what exactly did he mean by saying certain things about you. And never make excuses. will only make the situation worse. Be confident in yourself, let it be seen by both those around you and the gossiper himself. Typically, this behavior is confusing.

Don't react

If you have no desire to find out who is spreading rumors, or you know the name of this person perfectly, but understand that no talk will improve the situation, then the surest solution to the problem is to completely ignore it. Answer the questions of the curious with a smile and try to translate the topic, do not show that something offends you, do not gossip in response. The absence of any reaction on your part, in the end, will lead to the fact that the instigator will lose all interest and switch to another "victim".

Turn everything into a joke

Another way to discourage gossip about you and stop the spread of already existing rumors is to turn them into a joke. The ability to laugh at oneself is very annoying for those who literally “feed off” human anger and aggression.

If you are not afraid to support the rumors around your person for some time, then feel free to be ironic about what they say about you.

99.9% certainty is not enough

If you are not entirely sure that the gossip spread about you is a complete lie, then it is better not to start a showdown. Of course, you think that you already know absolutely everything about yourself, but believe me: sometimes some nuances elude even the most attentive look. You could say something in the heat of the moment or do something when you were drunk. Therefore, first make sure that there is not a drop of truth in the rumors about you, and only then "go to battle." In this case, the probability of 99.9% is not suitable. You only need 100 percent certainty.