I had a friend. One day he says to me: “Lend me some money. Seven thousand rubles.

It happened at the beginning of the 2000s, the amount at that time was considerable. Or does it feel like that to me now? No matter. Most importantly, he took the money and disappeared. Despite the fact that before that we communicated almost daily, on the whole we got along, and in general, nothing foreshadowed. However, he disappeared. Not immediately, but, as it should be in such cases, gradually.

The scenario was standard: at first - assurances that he would give it back soon, then he stopped picking up the phone when I called him. Called back less and less, began to ignore my text messages and slowly but surely descended from the horizon.

The nuance is that, with all our close communication, I did not know where he works (they talked about something else), and it was difficult and somehow stupid to guard him at the house on the other side of the city. We also didn't have any mutual friends. In short, everything is one to one. And now half a year passes, I already begin to forget (without leaving, however, the dream of breaking his arms and legs), how Seryozha calls. He asks for forgiveness without explaining - to his credit - the reasons, since any explanation in such a situation would be a senseless lie, even if it turned out to be true. He assures that he will return the money - with excusable interest in excess of what was taken. On Thursday, after eight, you will be at home, I will call? Yes, I will answer. Great, he says. Sorry again.

Eight months later. I cross the road, and the first in the far right lane in front of the traffic lights is his car. I unfold Vedomosti, put it on the hood and sit on top. "Give me my money, I'm waiting," I say. He gets out, takes out his wallet, digs, pulls out half the amount. No, they say, forgive me, and that's what it is. The rest when I ask - and I understand that it is useless: everything will be as it was before. I'll give it to you by the end of the week, he says. And got back into the car.

What could I do? Give him a face? It would be nice. I tried. True, when I grabbed the door, it turned out that it was blocked. I had to hammer on this very door with my foot, leaving a decent dent. These are your pardonable percentages, I say. He, without opening the window, read his lips and drove off.

In this story, only one thing is surprising - Sergey turned out to be not who I thought he was. Everything else is generally understandable. It is interesting, however, that the question is - why appear after six months, if it is already clear that there will be no money? - arose only in women to whom I told this story. Moreover, they reacted very emotionally, and Sergei caused them, as a rule, terrible, burning hatred. Okay, I took it and didn’t return it, but why call and promise if you still deceive, they said, referring not so much to me as to their heartfelt, as I understand it, experience. Simply put, they projected the classic money scam onto the male scam in general.

What could I say to them? That their question is rhetorical and eternal? That making promises is more dangerous than not wanting to make them? That promises are a credit of trust, which, although taken on favorable terms - without interest - still remains a loan. And this, as you know, is a scheme in which the one who took it will always be glad not to return what was taken. And the creditor will inevitably begin to cause irritation.

Here you also need to keep in mind the difference between the promises that men make to each other and the promises to women. In the first case, failure to fulfill what was promised is just a fact in itself, in the second - a fact and a bunch of aggravating circumstances: where he promised, how he looked, how many days (exact number) he didn’t call, what he was wearing (“that idiotic green hat of his ... that's how I felt, you can't trust a man in a hat like that!").

“Women talk to each other the same way men talk to men. But women always pay attention to details” - Amy Winehouse was right three hundred times.

A woman wants to take a word from a man, she often insists and at the same time always admits that she will be deceived. Such, you know, the feverish trembling of a card player who put everything on the line and follows the distribution. "Fulfill the promise" - one of the fetishes of the weaker sex in relation to the stronger sex, an important item on the list of traits of the ideal Him, well, you know, "a real man always keeps his word."

It is, in general, correct and understandable: the one who can be responsible for his words is cool and has a wide back (which, of course, any woman really wants to hide behind, even if she herself goes to a technical inspection and has mastered the iPad without outside help). At the same time, the inability to keep promises is almost the main complaint against men. Google the keywords "man" and "promises" - the three most popular options will automatically appear in the window: "man does not keep promises", "man does not keep promises" and - only the third number - "man keeps promises". Moreover, if you break through this most optimistic option, links to texts with the headings “Why men do not keep their promises”, “Empty and false promises of men about love supposedly loved ones ...” and “How to make a man keep his promises” will fall out. Hmmm, that's it, reputation.

Not for the purpose of self-defense, but I note: most often a man promises something that he will not fulfill, for two reasons: in an effort to wishful thinking (to show himself better than he really is, to get the notorious credit of trust) or hoping to get away from the conflict, hoping to put out the fire with the magic words "I promise". Although no, I’m lying, there is a third reason, and it is very important. This is female pressure. It sounds pathetic, but nevertheless, let's admit, girls, that you often put pressure on us, creating a situation in which it is almost impossible not to promise. Although no one argues, the man has his own head on his shoulders, and if he blurted out something without thinking, under the influence of the moment, this hardly justifies him.

I'm not saying that every empty promise we make is the woman's fault, and, of course, the man who hung noodles on the lady's ears takes full responsibility for what was said. However, female blackmail, often, perhaps, and unreasonable, is a common thing. Tears, pouting lips. Offended tone. Denial of sex. Anything goes. I'm wrong?

While you're throwing rocks at me, I'll tell you a story. Unfortunately, there are enough examples of classic male deception in every woman’s memory, so I won’t add fuel to the fire. My story - with a happy ending, which, however, no one expected.

A friend of mine dated a girl for several years. Oddly enough, the girl did not really dream of marriage, but she wanted a child. And slowly but surely led to that. The friend recoiled. It’s not that he didn’t want to, it’s not that he didn’t love his girlfriend - well, he was just afraid of the unknown, which is why he hesitated. But the nuts were tightened, and at some point there was nowhere to retreat.

One fine winter night - again under the influence of the moment - my friend promised that he would give his beloved everything she wanted for her birthday. A friend wanted a child. Okay, the friend said and began to count how much he had left to live. Birthday was scheduled for December 15th. There were two weeks left. Of course he deceived her.

Conception did not happen. What he said there, what reasons he composed, is not important now. The main thing is that the project did not take place. There was a hell of a scandal, a friend packed up and left. On New Year's Eve, they crossed paths in the apartment of mutual friends, and the friends specially arranged everything - they invited both. Friends, on the one hand, behaved incorrectly, interfered in someone else's personal life, but, on the other hand, they did everything right. In short, the couple met, quarreled again, and reconciled closer to the morning. They still conceived a child - however, almost a year later, in November, and this is the very case when it is better to be late. Why is it better late?

Because the new year was 1998. There was a default in August. Both lost their jobs. By November, things had more or less improved - not that the work was decent, but it was drawn in principle, which was already cool in that situation. Then everything began to improve and by the summer almost returned to its original positions. Their son was born in July 1999. And could - if they had conceived on December 15, 1997 - be born understandably when, consider for yourself. Not keeping his word, my friend got into big problems, but avoided even bigger ones: giving birth to a child in the midst of a crisis is, you know, not a fountain.

Of course, this is just an accident, an exception to the rule, which does not at all justify the failure to comply with this word, but the winners are not judged, right?

Barbra Streisand once said, "I could put together a whole book of promises men made to me in bed." Remember these golden words, and your life will be much easier.

And finally. If a man promises and NEVER keeps his word, this is a diagnosis. Draw conclusions as quickly as possible. If slips happen...well, they just happen, you have to be careful in your judgments here. And consider each mistake separately.

Yes, and I have a request for you - well, don't push me. And then we know these bends of female logic.

She is: I want this and that.

He: I can not. (Tears, lips, denial of sex.)

He: OK then.

She is: Promise?

He:(with a sigh) Yes.

He did not keep his promise.

She is: You lied to me! Why?

He: Because you pressured me!

She is: SO YOU SHOULD NOT GIVE IN! WOULD STAND ON YOUR OWN! OR YOU ARE NOT A MAN?

After all, women are fantastic creatures. Thank you for being you.

PS. The friend that was discussed at the beginning, the one who threw me for money, many years later was left without a business. He lent everything he had, hoping to get a solid commission. And he did not receive anything - neither commission, nor what he gave. It's not my fault. But when I found out, as you understand, I did not cry. Still, a credit of trust, hmm, a thin thing.

You may have been in one of these situations:

• You wanted to stick to a certain diet, but after a day you ate something unhealthy and decided to quit.
• You promised yourself to seriously take on some project and not procrastinate, but something distracted you, as a result, the whole plan went down the drain.
• You were going to do yoga every morning (meditate, read, write), but one time you were late and missed the class. And the next day you had no motivation.

Often it is not possible to single out one reason for such behavior, they can vary depending on the situation. Here are ten of the most common reasons.

1. We don't take promises seriously.

We tell ourselves that we will stick to the new plan, and we believe that one statement is enough. It seems to us that everything will go like clockwork, although in the past we were able to keep a promise only if we made significant efforts for this. More often than not, we take promises lightly. No wonder we end up not holding them back.

Consider if this is really important to you. If so, make a plan of action and write it down. Set aside some time to devote to this task. Set reminders. Prepare everything you need in advance. And then report to someone on your progress.

2. We just forget

You seriously promise yourself to meditate in the morning. But then, because of the haste, you forget about your decision. And remember only in the middle of the day, when you no longer have time. The next morning, everything repeats again, you are disappointed in yourself and decide not to try again.

But how are you supposed to remember that the time has come? Where will you be and what will you do when you need to meditate or exercise? Leave a reminder sticker in plain sight so that it catches your eye. Set a reminder on your phone and computer. If the case is really important to you, it is worth the effort.

3. We avoid discomfort

For example, you started playing sports, but when the training became more difficult, it became difficult and uncomfortable for you. You stopped enjoying your activities and found a reason to quit. Or you don’t know how to approach a difficult task at work, so you put it off until later.

Suppress the urge to panic and quit at the first sign of discomfort. You won't die if you eat broccoli or do a few push-ups. Try to use unpleasant sensations as an opportunity to learn something new, develop your own and accept discomfort.

4. We give in to temptations out of habit.

Temptations surround us from all sides: you are about to go on a diet, and you are treated to a chocolate cake, you wanted to go to bed early, and there is an interesting program on TV. But in fact, temptation is just a kind of discomfort, and we succumb to it out of habit.

Take temptation as a signal that it's time for you to exercise. Are you on a diet, and at a party they offer sweets? Let go of it and take the opportunity to be alone with the discomfort without trying to get rid of it. Feel the pleasure and pride in not giving in to temptation.

5. We find logical reasons

When the going gets tough, the brain looks for reasons why it's okay to do something we promised ourselves not to do. These reasons sound quite rational: “One time won’t do anything”, “I worked so hard, I deserve it”, “This time doesn’t count, I’ll start tomorrow”, “Today is a special occasion”. Once we begin to believe in such justifications, it is no longer possible to keep our promise.

Set hard boundaries. For example, if you say, “I only eat from 11 am to 6 pm,” you will immediately notice that you are trying to break your promise if you are going to eat at 9 pm.

6. We change the terms of the contract

You are ready to start, but suddenly feel uncomfortable or tempted to put it off. You immediately set new conditions for yourself: “I’ll do everything, but in 5 minutes, but first I’ll check my mail”, “I’m tired today, I’d better rest, and I’ll do everything tomorrow.” These are just excuses.

The habit of changing the terms of a contract with yourself is one of the most harmful when you are trying to develop self-discipline and self-confidence.

Make a plan of action in advance: the night before, at the beginning of the week or month. Don't make a decision right before taking action; you'll want to delay it. Instead, promise yourself that you can change the terms in a week or a month.

7. We don't like the feel.

If you don't like vegetables, you won't eat them. If something makes you uncomfortable, you will put it off. Only here from unpleasant sensations there is no escape. They will inevitably arise when you are working on a complex project or trying to get started. It will never work if you quit at the first sign of discomfort.

Try to change your attitude. Think about what you can be grateful for now? What good can you find for yourself in this experience, instead of focusing on negative emotions?

8. We forget why it matters.

You may have taken the matter seriously, but after a week or two you forgot why it seemed so important to you. Now you only think about how difficult and unpleasant it is. Of course, in this case, you will not have the motivation to continue.

Remind yourself of the reasons every day. Why is this important to you? Why is this business worth dedicating yourself to? Does your reason outweigh the discomfort you are experiencing?

9. We give up on ourselves.

When we miss or don't live up to our expectations, we become frustrated with ourselves and give up halfway through.

There is nothing wrong with making mistakes. Learn from what happened and start over.

And when you notice that yours is causing you pain and suffering, remember self-compassion. Instead of beating yourself up, treat failure as an opportunity to thank yourself for your efforts and learn something new.

10. We have too many obstacles in the way.

For example, you want to eat right and even made a plan for yourself. But then morning comes, you are in a hurry and want to eat. To prepare a salad, you need to cut vegetables, wash the dishes, but making a sandwich is much faster. And similar obstacles arise on the way to any goal. It is especially difficult to overcome them when we are tired or in a hurry. If you have to drive 20 minutes to the gym and clean your room before meditation, you will probably give up.

Identify what might get in your way and remove those obstacles from your path. Prepare everything you need in advance. Prepare a healthy meal on Sunday so that you can only warm it up on weekdays. Take out your yoga mat and gym clothes so you can change after work and get right to work.

And Moses told the children of Israel all that the Lord commanded Moses. And Moses spoke to the rulers of the tribes of the children of Israel, saying: This is what the Lord commanded: if anyone makes a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath, putting a pledge on his soul, then he must not break his word, but must do everything that went out of his mouth ( Numbers 30:1-3).

It's rare these days to find someone who keeps their word.

There are so many people today who don't even think about their broken promises. They do not even plan to keep their word, but nevertheless they give it. They promise to do something, and then "forget"; promise to pay something and do not fulfill their obligations; promise to be faithful to their spouses, and then cheat on them; promise to give, but never follow through. It's time for Christians to cleanse themselves and start anew. If you have promised something, you must do everything to fulfill your word.

It is a snare for a man to hastily make a vow, and after the vow to ponder (Proverbs 20:25).

You cannot and should not make promises if you do not know if you can keep them. If you are determined to keep your words, then you will not be in a hurry to make promises. If you are dedicated to keeping your vows, then be careful to only promise what you are willing to keep.

Make and pay vows to the Lord your God; all who are around Him, let them bring gifts to the Terrible (Ps. 75:12).

Some people solve the problem of broken promises by not promising anything else. This is not a solution. You need to be committed to giving generously to the Lord in every possible area. He is very generous to you and to me! You must decide what you will give out of your time, your efforts and your money. And you must give it freely and joyfully.

I will enter your house with burnt offerings; I will pay you my vows, which my mouth has spoken and my tongue has spoken in my affliction (Ps. 65:13-14).

Many people make promises to God in difficult moments, but when He brings us out of problems, we forget about the vows we made. Such people show no respect for Almighty God. It is very important to see God's hand in our deliverance. It is very rude to ignore the One who saved and delivered you. If you have promised something to God in return for His help, then follow it and keep your word. He did what you asked Him to do, and He expects you to act on your promises to Him.

If you make a vow to the Lord your God, fulfill it immediately, for the Lord your God will exact it from you, and sin will be upon you; but if you have not made a vow, then there will be no sin on you. Whatever comes out of your mouth, keep it and fulfill it, just as you promised the Lord your God the voluntary offering, which you spoke about with your mouth (Deut. 23:21-23).

When you make a vow to God, you cannot be slow and indisciplined. God requires you to keep your word. Indiscipline in promises is a sin.

For as dreams come with a multitude of worries, so the voice of a fool is known with a multitude of words. When you make a vow to God, do not hesitate to fulfill it, because He does not favor stupid people: fulfill what you have promised. It is better for you not to promise than to promise and not fulfill. Do not allow your mouth to lead your flesh into sin, and do not say before the Angel of God: ‘This is a mistake!’ Why should you do that God would be angry at your word and destroy the work of your hands? For in many dreams, as in many words, there is much vanity; but you fear God. If you see in what area the oppression of the poor and the violation of judgment and righteousness, then do not be surprised at this: because the higher one watches over the high, and the higher still over them (Eccl. 5: 2-7).

Do not be hasty in your statements and promises. It's great to have plans and dreams, but it takes a lot of time to put them into action. Only from your conversations about something the situation will not change. You need to work on your dream, you need to do what you promised to do. Pay what you promised. It is better to never make promises than to make and not keep. Do, not just talk. If you keep the word given to God, He will fulfill the word given to you.

Surely, everyone is familiar with situations from childhood when they were promised something, but then, for some reason, it did not work out. These feelings are hard to forget. But with age, it seems that it was all there, in childhood, and now, when you grow up, these are all trifles. But no. Today you promise your child to go for a walk with him, but you stay at home. Tomorrow, the child will promise to do something, perhaps important, and will not do it. It will be insulting, unpleasant and, possibly, ruin all plans. Keep your promises, start with yourself and subsequently everyone will consider you a man of your word.

Promise?

Everyone is equally often faced with the fact that they are required to assure about something. This is such a psychological setting that reinforces the words spoken. It helps to be more confident in those people with whom you have to do business and have common interests. For the most part, people say “I promise” without even thinking about fulfilling the promise. Therefore, there is an imposition of inconsistencies: one person asked again, clarifying, and the second, without thinking, assured. The result is a broken promise and broken trust. To consolidate the image of a responsible person, you should be guided by one rule: "Never promise what you cannot deliver."

Before making a promise

Before promising anything, you should think about whether it will be possible to fulfill the promise? Will it be necessary then to live in the rhythm of “break into a cake, but do it” or will just small efforts be enough? Let's think. When a person says that he promises something, the obligatory fulfillment is of course implied. And, accordingly, the other person will count on him. And in this case, neglect will play a negative role, violating the relationship between people. Therefore, before making promises, you need to decide: they are in the category of feasible, or those that you cannot fulfill.

This promise

If a complex promise has already been made, then let's see what can be done. The “break into a cake, but do it” option is undoubtedly interesting, but not viable. This promise must be kept, but if the situation is such that it will not be possible to fulfill it, it is better to explain it right away. Because the more time passes, the more the other person expects to fulfill. Moreover, if the matter is urgent, an agreement without implementation can cause a conflict.

How to perform?

First you need to find out what actions and costs will be needed to keep the promise. If it is possible to do this quickly and without harm to anyone, then you need to act. If you keep the promise as early as possible, it will allow you to strengthen yourself as a responsible and reliable person. To keep a promise that will require additional effort and action to keep, you must first make a plan and only then begin to fulfill it. The fulfillment of the promised increases the trust of people and gives a kind of guarantee that the promises given to you will also be fulfilled.

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But how many times have we violated it in order to get rid of the pressure of others, to raise our own status, to pass for a promising (that is, promising) person ...

He flew away, but promised to return ... The poor housekeeper cried all her eyes, but Carlson was still gone. And all because his return did not depend on him. And from the will of the writer who invented it. How often do we make beautiful promises, for the fulfillment of which we ourselves are not responsible. The triumphant moment of gaining the unrealizable is embodied in our words. Now, this second. And it's so nice! So sweet ! And sometimes it is so bitter to admit that it is impossible to fulfill them. Then…

promises- this is a kind of bonus of trust that others have for us. But at the same time - a delayed-action mine, which may one day destroy all our previous developments. And turn our image and status into dust, which will scatter from one broken promise. Punctuality is not only the ability to arrive on time for a meeting, but also the ability to keep your promises.

Our business and personal reputation depends on whether we can do this. And, accordingly, the trust in us from colleagues or relatives.

"I never make promises that I can't keep!" Surely one of you will say. Let me not believe you. Never say "never", "always" and "forever". We make promises all the time. First of all, to ourselves.
Sometimes people promise without hesitation, only to be left behind. This is often the case for children. "Masha, clean your room!" - "Good!" - "Wash the dishes." - "Now". - "Stop chewing!" - "Yes! Om-Nom-nom!"

We grow up, but the bad promises to get left behind stay with us. Only the price of the issue changes. And the addressee too. As adults, we make more and more promises to ourselves.

Tell me, have you ever had to start a new life on Monday? Haven’t you ever said to yourself: “That’s it, from tomorrow more ... (I don’t smoke, I don’t eat after 18.00, I don’t lie in bed until lunch, I don’t leave dirty dishes in the sink, I don’t sit in front of the monitor from morning to evening, etc. .).

Is there such a person who really always keeps his promises?

Perhaps a monument should be erected to him during his lifetime. Although there is nothing difficult in keeping promises. You just don't need to promise what is obviously impossible, even if you really want to be an omnipotent wizard.

Why do we promise?

It gives us weight.
This makes us sympathetic to others, we receive approval and respect from them, even without having done anything yet.
It mobilizes us to take action.

Why don't we keep our promises?

Because initially they were beyond our power.
We are just lazy.
We forget about our promises, they cost us nothing.
They require some significant effort, sacrifice, time and effort.

Sometimes unfulfilled promises literally hang over us, and we understand that we will never be able to fulfill them on time, efficiently and in full. We are nervous, irritated, avoid communication with those who have been promised mountains of gold. Many perfectionists, accustomed to doing everything at the highest level, are literally driven crazy by unfulfilled promises.

What about promises you can't keep?

Many prefer to simply forget about them, as if they were not given. Also an exit. Only those around will be upset and deceived, because this is not what they expected from us.
Most often, we make promises to children, relatives, because they are waiting for our participation and attention. It is easier for us to get rid of their demanding expectation and promise something than to pay a fraction of attention. But the more broken promises, the less trust. Between children and parents, between husband and wife, between friends. It is best and most honest to admit to yourself and others that you were wrong when you promised. Of course, this will reduce the level of confidence in your abilities. But it won't make you less credible. “You know, I promised this week, but I realized that I can’t do it, because I’m very busy at work. Let's postpone the trip for a better time." “You see, I thought I would love you forever, but everything has changed. And I don't feel like I used to anymore." Either way, it's better than cheating.
Never insist that you must fulfill the promise, if it is obvious that you will not do it - you can’t, you don’t have time, you don’t want to. Constant deception of expectations is a sharp drop in trust in you as a person of your word (specialist, parent, lover, etc.).
Don't put off things that are related to your promises. Why wait for Monday, you can quit smoking or chewing in front of the monitor right now. Not to mention washing the dishes or taking out the trash.

The proverb “They have been waiting for the promised three years” characterizes the backlash that others give you so that you save your face and still fulfill what you promised. Why exactly three? Not two or five? Smart people say, in accordance with Article 196 of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation: "The general limitation period is set at three years."

In fact, the fulfillment of many promises that were given to us and to us, we sometimes wait all our lives. For example, which of the grooms and brides did not swear eternal love, that he would always be there “in sorrow and in joy”, which of us did not promise ourselves in our youth that we would succeed, marry successfully and, of course, out of love, will find a life's work and, finally, become happy? Perhaps only the last of all these promises can be left for obligatory fulfillment, as it stimulates us to a constant search for life. Everything else is very unpredictable, vague and relative.

Promises are like debts: if you take it, give it back. If you can't return it, don't take it. Everything is simple. Simple, but not simple, especially when it comes to relatives and friends, to whom it is impossible not to promise. Try not to confess eternal love - this can complicate or spoil the relationship. Relatives expect oaths and promises from you (even non-verbal ones, on a subconscious level) and firmly believe in their fulfillment. How not to betray this trust? Most of us cannot dare to confess. But how can you be sure that you will fulfill the expected with a 100% guarantee? Especially when you just have to guess what exactly is expected of you.

And is there such a guarantee at all in anything?

It is strange, knowing that he is unlikely to be able to guarantee anything, for some reason a person “takes up the tug”, “climbs into the basket” and subsequently is forced to answer for his words. He did this to save the relationship when he was afraid of losing or destroying them. And then he runs away from responsibility, hoping that the promises are forgotten, that those who expected something from him have already understood everything and are not expecting anything. This happens when the relationship is no longer relevant. Everything is changing…

Promises are a double-edged sword. Sometimes, with our love and exactingness, we literally force our loved ones to utter unnecessary oaths, and then we closely monitor the fulfillment. By and large, any marriage is a promise of what we cannot give a priori, because we ourselves do not know how it will end. What if in a week our love will pass, the tomatoes will wither, and there will be a deep creative crisis in relationships?

No one can know in advance how things will turn out. Why take the responsibility of God? Wouldn't it be better to respond to the demand for an oath as the characters in The Runaway Bride said: “I can't guarantee anything. I don't know what will happen next. It will certainly be difficult, and we will regret more than once that we decided to live together. But if I don't tell you now how much I love you, I will regret it all my life."

How to avoid promises and not lose trust?

Learn to say no.
Try instead of vows to talk about love in the present tense.
If you are not sure of yourself, replace affirmative constructions, such as “I will do it!” to “I will try (try) to do it!”, “I hope I can do it!”.

Such phrases soften the rigid imperativeness of obligations: “Do it at all costs!”. They give you a chance to make a mistake and an acquittal. Even oneself is not recommended to give strict orders for execution always and in everything. If a person lives in a rigid framework of obligations and debts, his life turns into hell.

We all came into this world to learn how to be happy. Try to make yourself a promise of just that nature. Feeling like a constant student, a person gives himself the right to make mistakes. The same should be true of those around you. Like your classmates. Everyone around also learns to live and be happy. Do not demand from them impossible oaths and promises. Instead, try to help them change their lives for the better.