It is believed that individuals free from imposed fears and patterns of crowds study with interest the works of psychologists such as Sergei Nikolaevich Lazarev. Sergei Nikolayevich has come a long way in research. Since the 80s, he has accumulated so many of his own discoveries, trying to trace a causal relationship between a person’s worldview and the events that happen to him, that this was enough for 29 books.
The incredibly interesting cases described by Lazarev and the explanations given for them are worth reading. We publish some of his most interesting quotes today, especially for you.
1. I didn't understand before why there is an unspoken rule in the culture against reading while eating. It turns out that eating with a book, in front of a TV screen, discussing political and family problems can injure a person’s soul, because while eating, information freely passes into the subconscious.
2. Any disease, whether it is a violation at the organic level or a functional one, slows down the aggression that develops in the soul.
3. Do you know why you drink?
A person must love the world around him, and if he does not feel love for the world, a state of discomfort develops in his soul, mental anguish begins.
A person tries to muffle the mental pain with the help of at least some means. This leads to drug addiction, alcoholism, various types of substance abuse.
The true cause of drug addiction and alcoholism is a reduced level of love in your soul.. And such a state arises due to strong grievances, due to the suppression of love for people.
4. Do you want me to give you advice on how to be healthy and live long?
Never complain about anyone or anything.
Neither to fate, nor to God, nor to the past, nor to people.
Outwardly, behave as you like, but inside - any of your claims is a program for the destruction of the one to whom you present it. A cell cannot make claims against an organism based on its own interests. It cannot, because it is a program of the body's disintegration. Such a cell is rejected, gets sick.
5. In everyday life, we often allow ourselves to speak badly about people, about ourselves, about our fate. It turns out that this habit destroys a person's ... teeth.
6. We are always subconsciously the first to offend the one who then offends us with his behavior.
7. The fact is that the commandments of Christ are addressed not to the form, but to the content, to our emotions. “Turn the other one to the one who hits you on the cheek” - this is not a denial of physical protection. This means that retaliatory aggression should not be inside.
8. You can really change the situation around you only by changing yourself. The first thing to do is to give up the desire to control the situation. Understand that the situation, in small things working against you, in the main works for you.
9. Imagine that you have met a beautiful woman, I say, and your soul yearns for her, and you are ready to cry with happiness, and when you think about her, everything trembles inside you, and a feeling of inexplicable and inexpressible beauty appears in your soul, and you feel that you are starting to change, the soul becomes kinder and more beautiful, and you think that this is love, but this is not love, it is half love.
Now imagine that the woman you love insulted you or betrayed you, or behaved unworthily. And if you managed to keep all these feelings that you experienced at the beginning, then this is already true love.
True knowledge of the world begins not so much with pleasure and pain, but rather with overcoming it. The highest pain can be endured by those who can endure the highest happiness..
10. Start with the feeling that every second everything that is around you can disappear, that a loved one can betray, leave, offend or die every second. That every second you can die. Then little by little the claims will go away, but the love will remain. Your feeling of love should not depend on anything.
11. Divine grace cannot control your expectation.
12. You can't pray to someone you hate.
It turns out that any direct dissatisfaction with God goes into the soul and stays there.
And then, in a critical situation, a person begins to pray, but his prayer does not work.
In addition to direct claims to God, there are indirect ones.
They go through three moments.
First discontent with God through the world, society, state, group of people.
The second claim to God is through parents, loved ones and loved ones.
The third claim to God is through dissatisfaction with the situation, with oneself, with one's destiny.
Any long-term dissatisfaction with oneself or a situation is a subconscious resentment against oneself, fate and God.
13. Any method of treatment that does not rely on spiritual development man, leads to degradation.
14. When a person sincerely asks for forgiveness, his soul can be very painful, because this is a change.
15. Closeness, unwillingness and inability to communicate with people - this is one of the signs of high pride.
A sacrifice for the sake of art, or the underside of a pop vanity fair?
Fortunately, Sergey Lazarev escaped due to overwork with only a slight fainting at a concert in St. Petersburg. However, the recommendation of doctors "to have a good rest" is practically impossible in a situation in which the singer has driven himself. The question arises: what if a relapse occurs in Stockholm? It is quite possible, although God forbid! After all, he himself is torturing himself, and circumstances, and obligations, and responsibility, and the pressure of “good mentors” ...
The forces left the singer closer to the middle of a sold-out concert on Friday evening at the Oktyabrsky Concert Hall. It's good that Lazarev at that moment did not sing, did not dance, but said welcoming words, holding on to the microphone stand. “I am pleased that all of you are here with me today,” Sergey said and it seemed that he thought about the next phrase, lowering his head.
However, in reality, he lost his balance, and a moment later he collapsed onto the stage. On the shooting, watched to holes on the Internet, you can see how, lying on the floor, he languidly covers his face with his hand to the joyful laughter of the audience, who decided that the singer thus depicts an excess of feelings from the very joy of meeting with St. Petersburg, which he just spoke about.
They laughed until Mikhail Dvoretsky, the director of the artist, ran out half a minute later and tried to raise a star.
However, two recent fractures on his leg are still healing for Mikhail, and he alone could not cope. One of the organizers of the concert hastened to help. Finally, they guessed to turn off the spotlight, which all this time illuminated the dramatic "mise-en-scène" on the stage, and only then did the laughter in the hall stop. In the semi-darkness and silence that reigned, the audience watched as the artist was lifted to his feet and led him, with difficulty moving his legs, backstage.
It is known that Sergey does not drink, does not smoke, works out on simulators, leads a healthy lifestyle, and therefore the unexpected incident greatly discouraged people. After 5 minutes, two ambulance teams were backstage, the patient was brought to his senses, given injections and diagnosed with overwork. There was no question of continuing the concert. Viewers were informed about the postponement of the event to a new date - already in June. Several dozen excited fans, having shown miracles of “tact” and, apparently, a remarkable “mind”, gathered at the service entrance and persistently waited for their favorite to come out “signing autographs”. After fainting...
I had to take Seryozha out through the back door in order to send him to the hotel to recover.
Back in November, in an interview with ZD, when Mr. Lazarev confidently talked about the fact that he “had grown out of these pants for a long time” and was not going to any Eurovision, he gave another iron argument of his “European refusal”. “Finally, I’m starting a big concert tour, which I planned and prepared for a very long time,” the singer said, “during Eurovision this tour will be in full swing, and not only I, but also my viewers are waiting for it . And what - will you order them now to say: oh, excuse me, here they promised me Eurovision again, so I cancel everything? It is absolutely unthinkable and impossible for me to do so now ... ".
Completely opposite plans, however, had Philip Kirkorov - the king of pop and the gray cardinal of show business in one person. “Philip always woo me there,” Sergey joked in the same interview. Jokingly, he did not even suspect that the global passion of the king of pop had already practically taken shape from an obsession into an insidious and hard plan. Philip persistently convinced influential people - from Igor Krutoy to the television authorities - that only Lazarev should go to Stockholm, he is the only hope for Russia and right choice, it is for him that there is a “super song”, and there is no other way out ...
Then, when everything had already happened, Lazarev told how he was struck down, subdued and made to believe in himself by the song You Are The Only One, but the suspicion that the artist was not just persuaded, but actually twisted his arms in a “voluntary-compulsory” manner, was only strengthened, as did the understanding that the skillful manipulation of a complex of long-standing resentment due to past injustices prompted Sergei to violate his own word and principles.
What is the result? Vanity, addiction and perfectionism, mixed into an explosive mixture, turned Serezha's life into a living hell. Of course, he did not cancel the concert tour - it would be not only reputational, but also financial losses. In addition to the endless travels, intense preparation for the competition was added - recording, filming, rehearsals, promotional performances.
At a recent European party in Moscow, the artist confessed to reporters: “I sleep badly, little, in various crumpled positions.” Although he flaunted: "I'm not used to it, I'm a boy with experience." In a pause between touring flights (in March he had 18 locations from Komsomolsk-on-Amur and Vladivostok to Surgut, Bryansk, Voronezh, E-burg, Kovrov, etc.), for several days from morning to evening he rehearsed in Moscow with Greek director his number for a performance in Stockholm, and "by the evening he was falling off his feet." Then he immediately went to St. Petersburg. It seems that the bolivar could not stand two ...
The concert in Tallinn, which was supposed to take place immediately after St. Petersburg, has already been cancelled. There is no information about other cancellations yet, but in addition to touring with The Best tour, the artist has about ten promotional performances planned in different countries, is scheduled not just every day, but actually every hour. There is practically no time for sleep and rest in this schedule.
Artists usually rejoice when there is work, many toasts and prayers in show business are said for her, desired and in demand. Creative people- special, and the expression - "he lives on stage" - is not just an on-duty figure of speech, but often - the only and natural state in which these people can fully live, create and exist. However, it happens that healthy ambition and creative courage imperceptibly turn into something completely different, ugly, eccentric, cruel and even dangerous. It is not for nothing that one of the most authoritative Western magazines about show business is not named "The Charm of Art" or, say, "The Sound of Magical Music" at all, but rather Vanity Fair - "Vanity Fair". On the altar of which the rational, the good, and the eternal are often sacrificed.
Although ... If the victory is ours, we can survive the possible disability of the artist. After all, then Philip Kirkorov - as a producer, mentor, inspirer and organizer - will finally enter Belokamennaya on the white mare of the winner of Eurovision, which always eluded him, even if for this poor Lazarev had to give up his principles, betray his own convictions, abandon his words and faint...
The popular singer, who felt ill at the price and had to cut short the concert, said he was fine. Sergey Lazarev assured fans that he had recovered from the faint and was ready to return to work. "Friends! Hello everyone! Thank you so much for your words of support and for your wishes for a speedy recovery! I feel much better! I'm already back to work!" – said the artist in Instagram.
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However, now Lazarev will work in a sparing mode: concerned doctors recommended that he take care of himself, refraining from serious exertion. “Of course, what happened made me adjust my next schedule a little, as the doctors strongly recommended to take care of myself. I won’t argue with the doctors, but sitting still and messing around is not in my rules! So I’m flying to Israel today. See you soon!” - Sergey delighted the fans.
Admirers of the performer's talent wished him to gain strength as soon as possible. "I'm glad to hear from you, Sergey. All the best", "Take care of yourself! Health is the most important thing!", "Get better! We love you!", "You can't work hard", "Take care of yourself, don't overwork, drink vitamins, sleep not three hours a day and everything will be fine!))) Have a good performance in Israel!" they wrote.
Recall that in the Big Concert Hall "Oktyabrsky" during the performance of Sergei Lazarev, an unscheduled intermission was announced. The singer lost consciousness during the performance of one of the hits. First, Lazarev felt dizzy, then the pop star lost his balance and collapsed onto the stage. The dancers grabbed him by the arms and carried him backstage.
