Talking and speaking beautifully are "two big differences." Young parents are looking forward to when their child will say the first word, when he speaks, and are proud if he does it before other children in kindergarten or in the yard. “He (she) is already talking!” They say and calm down on this.

The vocabulary of the baby is mainly formed from the words that he hears from his parents, on the street, on TV. And not everyone understands how important it is to start reading children's books to a child from early childhood, and then ask them to retell what they read in their own words. The main thing is that he learned to talk, and the rest will follow. They teach at school.

But at school, we suddenly notice that everyone speaks differently, including teachers. Someone's monotonous voice evokes sleep, someone causes irritation because of the endless "uh" and "well-u-u-u", and someone speaks in such a way that we listen to him as if spellbound.

It would seem, what difference does it make who says what. Here Ellochka the cannibal from the novel by Ilf and Petrov "12" chairs completely dispensed with 30 words to express any of her thoughts. True, those thoughts were few. For comparison: Pushkin's Dictionary of Language contains 20,000 words.

It also happens that we meet a well-read person who has seen a lot, we expect vivid stories from him about his impressions, and we quickly lose interest in him, because he does not know how to put his feelings into words: his speech is slurred, unemotional and unconvincing.

There are not so few people suffering from tongue-tied tongue. After all, tongue-tied are called not only those who speak illegibly, as if they have porridge in their mouths, but also those who do not know how to competently build a sentence, "cannot connect two words."

Tongue-tiedness is opposed by eloquence - the ability to speak beautifully and convincingly. Few have such a talent by nature, but oratory can be learned. People who speak in such a way that you will listen are not only pleasant interlocutors, they are also valuable employees where you need to be able to convince, persuade, win over, induce to the necessary actions.

The first schools of oratory appeared in Ancient Greece, which is considered the birthplace of eloquence - the science of the art of "persuading, captivating and delighting." Even in those distant times, without knowing the word, it was impossible to achieve authority and make a political career.

And the fame of the great ancient Greek orators Socrates, Plato, Aristotle and the ancient Roman Cicero and Quintilian has reached our times. Gorgias, the ancient Greek teacher of eloquence, said that the word is a great ruler: "it can overtake fear, and destroy sadness, and inspire joy, and awaken compassion."

The English writer Aldox Huxley noted that with the help of the magic of words and a velvety voice, one can "convince listeners even of the rightness of a cause that is not at all right." Well, who wouldn't want to be able to speak beautifully?

How to learn to speak beautifully and convincingly?

1. Sign up for a training, choose a YouTube video that suits you, read books on the topic of speech development

Now there are many different trainings, in which, with the help of special techniques, we are offered to get rid of the qualities that interfere with life, and in return to acquire new ones, thanks to which we will become “different people”. Among them there are many trainings like "Charismatic speaker", "The art of competent and beautiful speech", "Speech", etc. Classes are conducted by specialists, including psychologists and actors.

However, not everyone can afford paid trainings. Then the way out may be to watch thematic videos on YouTube. For example, a series of video lessons about the oratory skills of Dmitry Malinochka. Or the video "Acting skills from Nikolai Obabkov."

There are quite interesting books on the topic “How to speak beautifully”. It is worth paying attention to the book by James Humes "Secrets of great speakers. Talk Like Churchill, Hold Like Lincoln (2013), Peter Gruber Tell to Win (2012), Mortimer Adler The Art of Speaking and Listening (2013).

2. Increase vocabulary

The vocabulary of each person is active and passive. The active includes words that we constantly use. In the passive - words that we know, but do not use.

There are several times more words in the passive vocabulary than in the active one. However, the more words in our active stock, the richer and more interesting our speech will become. But we do not want to think for a long time, and, figuratively speaking, we take what is at hand.

You can “translate” or “transfer” words from the passive to the active stock with the help of an exercise: we take some text and during the reading we replace some words (verbs, nouns, adjectives) with others that are suitable in meaning - synonyms. In the early days, we will have to resort to the help of dictionaries.

It's a good idea to start keeping a diary, in which you can describe in detail the events that happened during the day. First, gradually we will learn how to build sentences correctly. Secondly, in order to make our descriptions interesting, we will remember about metaphors, epithets, comparisons, hyperbole and other lexical expressive means.

3. Read more

By reading, we replenish our vocabulary, learn to build sentences and highlight the main idea. In addition, we receive new information, which means that we and we will have something to talk about.

With the help of exercises, we knead the tongue, lips and facial muscles:

1. stick out the tongue as far forward as possible, then back. This exercise is advised to do for 5 minutes;


2. touch the tongue alternately right and left cheeks (5 min.);


3. with the mouth closed, rotate the tongue clockwise and counterclockwise (20-30 times);


4. the same, only sticking out the tongue;


5. we stretch our lips forward, then smile as wide as possible (5 min.);


6. stretch the lips with a tube and move them left and right and up and down;


7. inflate the cheeks and roll this bubble in a circle;


8. we make faces, developing facial muscles;


9. we say aloud tongue twisters like “Again, five guys ate five and a half quarters of a quadruple of lentils without a wormhole and one thousand six hundred and sixty-six pies with whey curd from yogurt.”

6. We overcome fear, self-doubt and try to communicate more, speak, discuss

Someone correctly noted that theory without practice can be compared to a bag full of swimming textbooks behind a drowning man.

In the process of mastering the theory, we visit places where there are interesting smart people (theaters, lectures, bookstores, themed cafes), listen to them, enter into a conversation with them, and discuss some issues together. We act in accordance with the wish: “If you want to learn how to speak, speak!”.

It's amazing how many people refuse to speak in public for fear of looking awkward and ridiculous! However, few people realize how much you can move up the career ladder and in personal relationships, if you learn to speak beautifully, confidently and convincingly. Remember, do you always manage to defend your personal point of view, convince others, easily start a conversation with a stranger? Even if the answer is yes, you can always reach a new "advanced" level of oratory. How to do this with minimal effort and maximum result, we will find out right now.

3. Practice the perfect speech rate

Psychologists have determined that the most effective pace is 3.5 words per second. If you speed up on this recommendation, the audience will perceive you suspiciously and will be skeptical about the words in which they look for lies. If you speak more slowly, you will be considered either a pedant and a bore, or not very confident. Do not forget about frequent pauses at intervals of 4-5 per minute: they make the monologue more convincing.

4. Take care of your appearance

The first impression of a person is formed in 8 seconds. No matter how great a speaker you are, the first thing the audience will pay attention to is your appearance. For others, the beauty of a performance will lie not only in the words spoken, but also in the clothes, hairstyle, and grooming of the speaker. Take care of the relevance of your appearance, its attractiveness, then the listeners will automatically imbue you with confidence even before you speak.

5. Watch your gestures and facial expressions

Smile before speaking. Many do not realize how powerful this weapon is: by doing so, you give a non-verbal message to listeners that you radiate goodwill and self-confidence. Keep in mind that the public will immediately figure out a timid and shy speaker if he is insincere in his manifestation. For the same reason, carefully select gestures and facial expressions: excessive tightness or excessive activity will betray your unprofessionalism.

6. Argument your speech

In order for the audience not only to hear you, but also to believe the information presented, do not forget to back up your words with facts. It is best if the "evidence" is presented to the public visually - in the form of tables, diagrams, layouts, presentations and other elements that help to reveal the essence of speech. Listeners who not only hear, but also see the speech, tend to believe the speaker more than another speaker without arguments.

7. Spice up your presentation with examples and interesting facts.

To master the art of oratory to perfection, you need to constantly expand your intellectual arsenal with interesting information in order to insert relevant funny stories, anecdotes, facts from life into your speech. As often as possible, tie these elements that hold the attention of the audience to dry information. Then you will be rewarded with a caring audience that is interested in everything you say.

8. Respect Your Listeners

What attitude you demonstrate to the audience is what you get. Therefore, by respecting others, you will get grateful listeners and convince them of your confidence and seriousness. Use the phrases “I am convinced”, “I know”, etc. more often. Avoid pressure on the audience and a demonstration of superiority, otherwise you can run into an argument and indignation of the audience.
Amateurs or people who are lazy by nature are sure that the ability to speak fluently, well, and convincingly is the lot of lucky people with innate abilities. They are wrong. You can learn the art of oratory through constant practice and simple exercises. But the most important thing is the presence of inner confidence in success and one's abilities. With such help, even the most shy and timid person can become a respected wordsmith.

Learn to talk to people. Your ideas or your opinion may not always be accepted by others, but this is not unusual. Voice them, express your opinion! This will give you courage in the future.

A simple step-by-step instruction from one of the best speakers and motivators in the world, businessman and psychologist Tony Robbins. The difference between insecurity and confidence is the difference between inaction and action, says Tony. So, how to become confident and speak like, to be heard.

8 key secrets of public speaking

1. Learn to talk to people.

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Your ideas or your opinion may not always be accepted by others, but this is not unusual. Voice them, express your opinion! This will give you courage in the future.
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2. Don't be afraid to speak loudly.
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If you speak softly, not only will the people around you not hear what you are saying, but they will look at you with distrust because of your own uncertainty about your words.
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3. Make eye contact while talking.
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On the one hand, this requires politeness. In addition, eye contact will help others listen more carefully and thoughtfully to your thoughts.
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4. Praise yourself every day!
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In this way, you will increase the level of confidence in yourself, and this is very important when you are speaking, because it gives confidence. The more confident a person is, the more seriously people around him take him.
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5. Don't be nervous if you make a mistake.
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Human error is not new. There are no people who would not make mistakes! If a person is wrong, it's okay. Just calm down and boldly continue your speech.
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7. When you gain confidence in yourself, try to make sure you have a good knowledge of the required topic.
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And then go for it - share your knowledge with the audience using various effective communication methods.
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8. Be aware of the fine line between confidence and arrogance.
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Don't try to look overly confident because the people around you may think you're arrogant and think your ideas are better than anyone else's. published If you have any questions on this topic, ask them to specialists and readers of our project

P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness - together we change the world! © econet

Success is impossible without the ability to build communication with people, regardless of whether you are speaking in front of a large audience or discussing something with a friend. If you wish to knowhow to learn to speak well, believe in yourself, speak clearly and competently. Do you want others to perceive you as a real intellectual? Then read the rules in this article.

Method 1: Speak confidently

• Write your speech and read it aloud. So you can catch inconsistencies, tautologies and other points that can deprive your performance of spectacularity.

• Write an essay. Reiterate the main points at the end of each paragraph and in the conclusion. Build your presentation in the same way.

Method 3: Take your speech to the next level

• Imagine that you are having a normal friendly conversation. Squeezing a foam ball in your jacket pocket or a disarming smile will probably help.
• Tell the audience a few stories. A similar technique, used at the end or beginning of a speech, will give the information, so to speak, a more human look.

1. Practice as much as possible. Repetition― mother of learning. Arrange rehearsals every day. Keep the linking words under control, pause correctly, breathe evenly. Practice with a stopwatch and leave some time for the unexpected. The better prepared you are for your speech, the more relaxed you will feel at the appointed hour.
   
2. Do not apologize. If, due to excitement, you accidentally misspoke, do not draw too much attention to this. Continue your presentation as if nothing had happened, and the audience will quickly forget about the awkward moment. No one is immune from mistakes, so do not focus on this― try to make it all a joke.
   
3. Focus on the essentials. No need to worry about your nervousness― focus on the audience and your own presentation. Your task― get the point across, and not look like an unrealistically cool speaker. Pay less attention to your excitement, and you will not notice how there will be no trace of it. Before you give your speech, remember why your message is so important to you.
   
4. Accumulate experience. Your performance― this is your presentation. Gain experience, and your speech will sound more and more confident. Toast more often at holidays, give speeches at various events, and just chat with friends and strangers. Public speaking, like any other skill, needs constant practice.
   
5. Remember, the public wants you to succeed. Listeners will be happy to see an intelligent, interesting and enthusiastic person on stage. They are charged with your energy. Don't forget positive thinking. No one wants you to stutter, lose your thread, or make long, awkward pauses. Everyone present wishes you success, you must believe in yourself and your strengths.
   

• Constant practice will help you on your way to improvement. Rehearse your speech carefully so that it sounds as clear and confident as possible.
• Your appearance also matters a lot. Choose a costume based on the topic of your speech. The effectiveness and efficiency of your speech largely depends on your image as a whole.

Warnings

• As you add your thoughts to the presentation, listen to others so that you are not perceived as a selfish person who only cares about his own opinion.
• Do not forget that there is a huge difference between self-confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is always repulsive.

Now you know,how to sayso as to inspire the confidence of the audience, and you will be able to apply the advice given in practice. Successful performances!

Unfortunately, not everyone has the gift of eloquence, but this does not mean at all that this skill cannot be developed in oneself. We all know that a person who knows how to speak beautifully can be listened to for hours! And yet, it should be noted that there are a considerable number of different nuances that are important to take into account when developing the skill of rich colloquial speech.

1. The art of speaking culturally, vividly and convincingly

Such words seriously clog our speech, but not everyone understands this. Some people even deliberately insert various slang expressions into the conversation, believing that they add color to the dialogue, but in reality this often sounds inappropriate, and, at times, repulsive.

3. Learning to Express Your Thoughts Correctly

To learn how to express your thoughts beautifully, it will not be superfluous to acquire the ability to carefully listen to those speakers whose speech you like. Also, do not forget about such a useful skill as reading. Choose books that will help you set your brain in the right direction. In addition, it can be a variety of textbooks, as well as scientific articles.

Reading aloud can also be just as effective, because that's how you learn to practice diction. Opt for classic works of fiction by famous writers - as a rule, they are distinguished by the richness of speech.

4. Develop beautiful speech

Most of us speak quite normally in familiar situations, however, when some kind of stressful situation arises, many lose confidence, as if "losing the gift of speech." When you develop a competent and beautiful speech, you will stop getting lost in any situations. How to do it?

You probably know that there are people who are able to tell interesting things about any, even the most unremarkable, subject. An example would be Anton Chekhov and his short story "The Ashtray". Alas, nature has not endowed everyone with the talents of a famous writer, but almost all of us can still learn to express thoughts beautifully.

If your occupation involves writing texts, public speaking, and the like, then a rich vocabulary forms itself over time. It is more difficult for people who do not work in the humanitarian sphere - they have to make a little more effort. Listening to the radio, reading books, watching good films and documentaries can come to the rescue. It is important to pay attention not only to what information is conveyed to you, but also to how phrases are built.

Read a short story and try to retell it. Record your retelling on the recorder, listen to it and determine whether your speech sounds beautiful or there are some shortcomings. This kind of practice out loud is very important, because it will gradually form a melodious speech and enrich you with a store of new interesting expressions.

For the development of beautiful speech, such a game is also useful. Pay attention to some ordinary object - a notebook, a frying pan, a table, and the like. For a minute or two, try to write a story about this subject in literary language, without obvious hesitation.

5. Learn to control your speech

The ability to keep your speech under control will distinguish any person from the general crowd. It is not surprising that people with such a talent at one time turned out to be the leaders of the peoples, whom thousands of people were ready to follow, heeding every word of their leader. Most likely, training will take you some time, but it's worth it - this is the only way you will not only fully own your own speech apparatus, but intuitively learn to feel how best to address a certain person, what words are best to choose, and so on. Also, you can not get lost even in the most unexpected situations, keeping your cool.

Lessons of correct speech - rhetoric exercises

It is important to breathe properly when speaking

Surely, listening to the smooth speech of the announcer or some charismatic presenter, you caught yourself thinking that you yourself would like to be able to speak like that. Of course, this can be achieved if the technique of speech is developed. However, first of all, for this you should learn how to breathe correctly - deeply, calmly and imperceptibly.

Please note that speech breathing is different from normal breathing. This is a controlled process. As you know, diaphragmatic-costal breathing is considered the most convenient for speech. In this case, inhalation and exhalation are performed using the diaphragm and intercostal muscles. The most capacious part of the lungs (lower) comes into activity. At the same time, the shoulders and upper chest remain practically without movement.

You can learn to control your breathing on your own. Place your palm between the abdomen and chest - on the area of ​​​​the diaphragm. When you inhale, the abdominal wall will rise slightly, the lower part of the chest will expand. Exhalation will be accompanied by a contraction of the muscles of the abdomen and chest. When speaking, the inhalation should be light and short, but the exhalation should be smooth and long (the ratio is approximately one to ten).

When the process of speech occurs, the significance of the exhalation increases to a large extent. Before speaking, it is worth taking a quick and deep breath, which is carried out both through the nose and through the mouth. Meanwhile, only the mouth is involved during speech exhalation.

Proper speech breathing can be called the basis of a beautiful sounding voice. If you breathe incorrectly, then this will lead to instability of the voice.

Speak confidently, clearly and distinctly

When speaking, try to avoid mumbling - speak clearly, distinctly and confidently. Practice reading books aloud - do it slowly and with expression, sometimes speed it up, but keep talking with expression. Gradually, you will develop the habit of this manner of speaking in everyday life.

You need to constantly train gestures and facial expressions

Gesticulation and facial expressions can be called a non-verbal means of speech, which should also be trained. Try speaking in front of a camera or a mirror to see if you are gesturing too much and "off the mark". Sometimes, this can greatly distract the interlocutor from the topic of conversation. It is also important to observe your facial expressions - both an indifferent facial expression and an excessive display of emotions are unacceptable. In the second case, it may just look ugly.

Your gestures and facial expressions should look harmonious, smooth and natural, and only occasionally emphasize the meaning of what was said. It is important that the listener still focuses on the meaning of the text, but not on your face or hands.

Is it possible to deliver your own speech

Of course, you can independently engage in the production of your own speech - this will definitely bear fruit. What advice can be used in this situation?

The ability to correctly express your thoughts is not innate. We acquire this skill - someone manages to do it earlier, someone later. If you want to correctly express your thoughts in a conversation with an interlocutor, then keeping a diary or just writing short stories will be a good workout. Having started to spend some time formulating your thought and transferring it to paper, over time you will transfer this skill to ordinary life - the necessary phrases will quickly add up to more correct sentences. Also for this skill it would also be nice to listen to audio books or read literature.

Read books to increase vocabulary

Of course, reading fiction will help you improve the quality of your speech. Give preference to Russian classics. If you devote some time every day to reading classical literature, then gradually you will form the habit of speaking in a similar way.

Attend Russian courses and lessons

Some people think that the Russian language is taught only at school, and if you have not acquired the necessary skills there, then in adulthood you will have to take up self-study. In fact, this is not true at all! Going to the Internet, you will find that now there are many trainings and courses in Russian for adults. Such classes are held in almost every city. You can also study online. After studying the information on the Web on this issue, you will find that if you wish, you can open up great prospects for learning the Russian language.